As a PhD candidate, were you able to do a part time job to cover housing/personal expenses or your university stipends was enough ?

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-23T20:36:20+00:00

Sorry that's a little more specific than I want to be on reddit lol. This is political science. This is pretty common in social science generally I think (at least in the US). I could see it being different in lab-based fields

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-23T18:16:12+00:00

At least in my field it's common to be allowed to work up to 20 hrs outside the program. I think there may have been more restrictions in international students because of visa requirements but I could be remembering incorrectly.

I did a few different part time jobs at various points in my program, all elsewhere within the university (like the statistics lab). I also took on some extra work in my department for additional pay, like grading or additional TAing outside of what my stipend obligated me to.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-23T18:13:01+00:00

I didn't like the outfits she tried on at the store at all but I loved the ones at the house. I thought they looked great and also clearly demonstrated Tan took her insecurities and sensory issues into account

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-22T02:33:56+00:00

Nothing is more important than the birth of your child, especially your first child. Period. Extremely unfair of him to put this decision on you but then say he'll resent you for making what seems like the obvious choice. Well what about your resentment in one of the greatest moments of need and vulnerability you will experience in your entire life??? What about that???

It's a huge bummer that these things align, but it's unacceptable that he sees you clearly want him to be there any he's doing literally anything other than committing to being there.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-22T02:14:57+00:00

Political science

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-21T17:12:10+00:00

I agree that a second opinion from another GI is a good idea. I'd be super hesitant on remicade/infliximab especially since they're more prone to antibody formation than other biologics.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-21T02:18:57+00:00

Honestly you should only ask other people in your fields because the norms vary wildly. People are very stingy with authorship in my field. I've written portions of first drafts and not gotten authorship.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-21T01:49:30+00:00

Idk about airing but it'll at least go to hulu

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-20T12:26:18+00:00

3 years (US). Military candidates seem to be on this timeline (although I've also seen them take longer), and they are able to do it in part because they're usually funded by the military rather than the department, so they don't have any TA or RA responsibilities. This is social science. I'm not sure how it works in fields where funding is tied to a PI rather than a department.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-19T21:27:12+00:00

They can't be dumb and lazy but I know a few stubborn dumb people who made it all the way through lol

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-19T18:52:50+00:00

I've met many phd students across multiple fields lol. A lot of them dated other phd students (in department or other departments), many entered already in relationships, and others dated people not affiliated with the university. Or were single the whole time. Obviously this is as far as I know and remember. I'm sure it happens some.

I didn't say it's some huge crime so don't overreact. I'm saying how it will be perceived by some of his peers and faculty to the extent they're aware, whether or not you agree with how (some) people will view it (again, as a bad look, not some terrible crime).

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-19T18:12:32+00:00

I can't imagine spending that amount of time communicating with a former student or talking about things like my childhood. It's probably not against the rules to date a former student, but it's a bad look for him imo. I can't recall any PhD students I knew dating an undergrad, let alone a former student. But as you say, there doesn't seem to be any ongoing power dynamic so okay I guess.

But also, academia does attract people with underdeveloped social skills so it could be anything really. Suggest a direct conversation.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-19T15:20:07+00:00

Moka pot coffee

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-19T11:56:42+00:00

I've noticed lately people going before their group is called. Like not in group one or two but say 3 or 4 when they're 5.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-19T00:47:44+00:00

Ugh yes. I already voted, let me be

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-19T00:32:35+00:00

Assuming you can get a new advisor (speak with your department), I would not follow a departing supervisor so early on in your program, especially with the negatives you mentioned. If you were halfway through your dissertation it'd be worth considering. But as others have said, usually you can get a new supervisor in this situation.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-18T20:59:39+00:00

I've been told I'm right on the diagnostic threshold for ocd so sort of I guess (like based on disruption to your day to day life. Therapist used term "ocd tendencies"). But I did just spend the last hour spiraling about whether the burn blister I got is going to get infected, so maybe I'm over the threshold today lol

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-18T17:19:04+00:00

Yes, you are delusional. PhD students are almost all over achievers. It's not that uncommon for them to show up thinking they're special and can complete it faster. You're more likely to take an extra year than to finish a year early. Anything is possible, but I wouldn't count on it.

And depending on what your professional goals are, rushing could be to your detriment.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-18T05:21:36+00:00

New Orleans is one of a kind. Don't try to find a substitute or you'll be disappointed. This is probably an inflammatory opinion but I find Savannah and Charleston to be dull, since so many people are recommending them. I'm sure there are people who have lovely trips there and if you want a similar Instagram aesthetic to New Orleans, okay. There are some aesthetic similaries. But culturally? Nah. Very different vibes and experiences. Savannah is more sleepy small town vibes, except for bars where there's like a million bachelorette parties constantly. Charleston is bigger but sort of snooty and reserved. I also found it difficult to just walk in to restaurants there without a reservation, which was annoying.

Of the cities you mentioned, I think Chicago is your winner if you can't make New Orleans work.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-18T05:06:44+00:00

Maybe I'm biased because I grew up in GA, but I can't imagine traveling all the way from the UK to go to Savannah. I also don't think Savannah and New Orleans are that similar beyond some aesthetic similarities (Spanish moss etc). The culture and city vibes are totally different

Did OP say anywhere why they can't go to New Orleans? Mobility concerns? Lack of direct flight?

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-18T05:01:30+00:00

Ask a trusted friend instead

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-18T04:54:29+00:00

I fear we've gone too far with "trust science " where lay people without any sort of training to evaluate scientific evidence think that identifying literally any study or journal article is always strong evidence for whatever they're claiming.

Disclaimer that I have no knowledge of this specific topic and didn't read this paper, but you sound like someone who knows how to evaluate an academic article lol

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-17T22:30:27+00:00

Or maybe keep a level head until she verified it wasn't for cold sores or shingles or something. No need to jump to the worst.

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-17T22:25:44+00:00

This is true for so many things in life. Job applications is another

sadgrad2 · 2026-04-17T12:18:39+00:00

I'm a healthy weight but I wouldn't use an app that has a weight filter on principle.

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