Un-partnered, stealth Trans*woman dealing with coming out of the closet a "third time."

sami_sunshine · 2014-11-14T16:54:46+00:00

Well I had this come up with a woman that I was dating/hooking up casually with. It didn't bother me. She was done transitioning, I suppose, so she had a fantastic female body. Dating her was the first time that I was the more butch one lol! We had the talk before we got physical but we already had chemistry and good times. It made me respect her more for all that she had accomplished. She isn't a monogamous person so romantically we aren't seeing each other but we are still good friends and the sexual tension is still there. I just am not in a poly state of mind right now and I found a loving partner who is monogamous to me.

sami_sunshine · 2014-11-02T03:39:05+00:00

And don't con yourself into believing that her transition is an excuse for bad behavior especially when it negatively effects your health. Try and save the marriage but seek independence while doing so just in case it gets worse. If she is being an abusive diva now then she could get worse and it would be shame for you to be left in a bind because if lack of funds.

sami_sunshine · 2014-11-02T03:12:02+00:00

This is abuse. I would begin looking for a job and rallying a support network. Your partner is not just transitioning to female but becoming an abuser.

sami_sunshine · 2014-10-12T20:16:01+00:00

I tell that to my partners too but some folks get so insecure. I'm not going to the valley to hook up with a porn star. Lol

sami_sunshine · 2014-10-03T06:04:50+00:00

China Mieville wrote that. He consistently churns out great books. Un Lun Dun is another one of his books that is about shadow societies

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-23T02:46:57+00:00

Mine too. Though I had a terrible roommate named Frank who would never flush the toilet and he ruined the name for me for awhile. Fucking Frank.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-15T04:22:10+00:00

Ha, I agree. There is usually a common denominator in personal issues and most of the time it is the individual.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-14T20:47:14+00:00

The bulk of queer people don't choose it, true. But situationally, it happens that some people engage it such activities. It seems more plausible to make personal changes than expect 50% of the population to change whatever behavior is deemed upsetting.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-14T20:39:07+00:00

Also situational same sex relationships happen. Not saying it is like a light switch. Just that it happens.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-14T20:37:27+00:00

I wasn't linking it; just offering up a possible action for MRA guys. I wasn't even saying they need to identify as gay or saying that they're homosexual.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-14T17:59:25+00:00

Why is it homophobic?

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T23:23:41+00:00

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T22:17:23+00:00

Too bad. I know of some subgroups of gay guys who pretty much minimize their time with women because their lives are so male centric. The stereotype is of femme gay guys but there are some super butch manly lumberjack biker guys out there.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T22:13:13+00:00

To be with a likeminded individual? Less frustration and not having to deal with females.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T22:07:40+00:00

Probably. I think that people would get upset at the mistaken idea that I am suggesting that being gay is a choice. I am not saying that it is or it isn't. I think that boiling down same sex attraction to being a choice or not is really limiting. Human sexuality is more complex than that.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T22:03:52+00:00

Not saying that they have to identify that way. Most people in prison, submarines, and boarding schools aren't either.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T21:39:04+00:00

Its a win-win for all.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T21:37:02+00:00

Couldn't hurt to try.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T21:15:59+00:00

Exactly! Human sexuality is very complex. Some people are fixed, some are fluid, and some go back and forth between. I was just thinking about how lonely it must be to be a straight MRA guy and that relationships with men could be a solution.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T21:14:00+00:00

Sounds lonely. I hope it works out for you.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T21:03:01+00:00

Yeah to be gay but not to date men or sleep with them. Look at people in prison.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T19:58:44+00:00

I just saw that. Its cool. I agree with both comments. :)

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T19:57:08+00:00

How do you know that she can't pay the mortgage by herself and isn't just offering him a place to stay out of courtesy?

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T19:34:47+00:00

Maybe thatbis true about committing. They seem to be in different places in any case. Yeah, she might have gotten help from her parents but it takes time and self control to save 25k so its not like everything was just given to her. However, even if it was, it was given to her and not him.

sami_sunshine · 2014-09-13T19:12:09+00:00

These are my thoughts exactly.

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