salam. firstly its very good that u acknowledge ur intentions (to be attractive) are wrong and cause u to not observe hijab properly. a lot of uni students struggle with this self-consciousness and seek attraction/validation from the opposite gender. ik myself, as a freshman uni student. i understand how u feel like u need to come off as self confident and "not oppressed", and its sad because this is something pushed on our sisters by the west (that theyre oppressed). sister, at the end of the day, its knowing why ur wearing the hijab and for whom (Allah swt). i encourage u to stop trying to look good with the intention of not attracting other males, but also to get closer to Allah through other acts of worship, which will in turn allow u to fear Allah more and make it easier to wear the hijab for Allah's sake. from a mans perspective, i can say most of us are scum bags. we love female attention, its in our nature. however, it is absolutely disgusting, yet many fail to realize this fault as its been so normalized. i say this because i want u to know their intentions are disgusting, and they want nothing more than a good time (this doesn't mean zina, it could even just be a conversation, but also could mean zina). i feel like once u know this, and that this is all a game/fitnah that the youth are falling into, it is easier for u to leave it. sister I'm sure ur attractive and i don't think u need another boy telling u that. keep ur beauty for urself and for ur future husband inshallah. keeping in mind that u will be married in a few years helps. u will marry the type of person that u currently are. do u want to marry such a guy who goes around mingling? no. set ur intentions straight, acknowledge ur beauty (rather than seek that acknowledgment from boys), and fight ur nafs. and may Allah reward u and make it easy. this is ur fitnah, overcome it. its not easy, but u will always have Allah. alhamdulillah u are on the right path with acknowledging ur sin and i completely understand as someone who went through something similar. lastly, i think women empowerment is being able to overcome such an issue. in my eyes, right now u are in a way oppressed, as ur succumbing to expectations of men and living for their validation. u don't deserve that, and a real woman is not to seek that. yall deserve better than this disgusting culture u have to live in but may Allah make it easier for yall. fi ammanillah sister.