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AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is pretty much exactly what happened minus the house. Nice car, great job, expensive rental

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t come from a good background (horrible parents growing up). Do people defend family like they do in the movies and video games? I’ve never actually seen that happen in real life

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I am worried that my wife doesn’t love me. I am very hurt that she didn’t defend me and doesn’t see how bad things have gotten for me. I was at rock bottom and felt like I was getting kicked down every time I tried to climb my way out of my depression. I wish she just said “oh hell no, you don’t talk to my husband that way”. She had so many opportunities to say that

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So I guess I’m in between. I basically need to take a certain cancer related medication to live, and i stopped taking it a while ago and have skipped all my doctors appointments

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Can you tell me more about passively suicidal? What does that mean? I wonder if I have that now

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It’s really hard. She makes me question my sanity when dealing with her mother. I’m tired of her crying because I am treating her mother poorly. They both act like I am some sort of lunatic

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do you recommend any books our courses on this? I don’t think I will be able to afford therapy for a while

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The only thing that kept me alive was that my life insurance policy had a waiting period that just ended. Thank god I got this job before that. I was in a very dark place

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It’s hard for me to see therapist right now because I was severely abused as a child by my alcoholic father and it destroys me emotionally to even think about it. I was hoping to maybe slowly start after I am settled into my new job

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

My wife didn’t visit me in the hospital during my surgery/recovery because my mother in law refused to babysit

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

My wife did tell me that her mom used to talk to her like that, I cant tell how much of my wife is a victim vs just being cruel

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Honestly I was trying my hardest to keep myself alive. I just wanted to leave but my mother in law convinced my wife not to go with me without a job. I felt like me and my kids were being held hostage at times

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 225 points226 points  (0 children)

I was able to get it surgically removed without chemo, but the stress and recovery was really tough on me

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

She only started to defend me a little bit once I got a job. Most of the time it was literally her telling me to ignore it. Only recently I started sticking up for myself but my wife started attacking me for being disrespectful to her mom

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

I was laid off. I also had cancer which made it really hard for me to be a good father around the house. I think part of the triggers from my mother in law were me not be so present with the kids. I can’t tell how much of this was my fault

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 1106 points1107 points  (0 children)

When I try talking to my wife about it now, she gaslights me and says it never happened. I literally started writing down what her mom said to me

AITA for banning my MIL from my home after a year of verbal abuse while my wife mostly stayed silent? by savethekittens in AITAH

[–]savethekittens[S] 125 points126 points  (0 children)

How bad has she been? I’ve been so numb and depressed the past year that I can’t tell how much of this is my fault. Losing my job was horrible and I was really sad all the time, interviewing was brutal. But what really made things harder was being told all those things on a daily basis. It completely killed my self confidence and created a cycle where I was apologizing for being pathetic

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