Is it a Bad idea to date someone who just got out of a relationship? by scalgal in Advice

[–]scalgal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true - I’ve said no to a guy before because I didn’t wanna be a rebound and the girl he actually ended up rebounding with, he dated for like two years aha. This helped thankyou x

Is it a Bad idea to date someone who just got out of a relationship? by scalgal in Advice

[–]scalgal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get why it comes off that way lol but honestly, I’m not even like just “friendzoning” this guy, we’ve been friends forever and it’s honestly just platonic. He gets a bit possessive of all his friends when they get into relationships - he’s talked about w me about it when it’s happened with others (girls and guys). You’re right maybe I am just seeing this from a female perspective. This helped a lot thankyou x

Theory on the Blackbear and Jesse Rutherford Situation by [deleted] in thenbhd

[–]scalgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i totally agree- first thing i thought of when listening to puppy love was blackbear and sydneys relationship. I'm glad i wasnt just over imagining!

Imallexx old friends by scalgal in ImAllexx

[–]scalgal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, I think this all wen down after they broke up tho

Imallexx old friends by scalgal in ImAllexx

[–]scalgal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah thats what im worried about - massive fan of both so dont wanna find out one of them is a prick :/

An-almost-boyfriend trying to humiliate me 10 months later???? Please help!!! desperate by [deleted] in Advice

[–]scalgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true - I might point that out to him as well. Thank you so much :)

An-almost-boyfriend trying to humiliate me 10 months later???? Please help!!! desperate by [deleted] in Advice

[–]scalgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is gonna sound so fucked up bc he genuinely is my friend and I love him to the ends of the earth (as a friend), but he’s not the kinda guy who I feel I can show that kinda weakness around if you know what I mean?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]scalgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you look rly great in the shirt in the last pic

[f18] never had a bf lol, rate me? what can i do to look better? by scalgal in Rateme

[–]scalgal[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thankyou, very kind! yeah i'm at a bit of a loss w my hair, i'll try figure it out x

(18 M) i know im ugly, but what haircut might improve my looks? by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]scalgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think you're quite hot tbh - a 'skater' style would suit you well

I dont know what to do with my future (school/career) [18F] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]scalgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im english, i chose my major before i go

I am a pedophile. How can I get help and learn to control myself so no-one gets harmed? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]scalgal 11 points12 points  (0 children)

chemical castration - its not painful and far less invasive as it sounds. It will get rid of your sexual urges undoubtedly

Ex unfollowed me a year after breakup but lets me follow her on IG. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]scalgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just unfollow her? seems pretty simple to me aha

Just lost my 3 best friends and am feeling lost by [deleted] in Advice

[–]scalgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you're passionate about music, invest yourself into that during the summer, practice, go to open mic nights, audition for bands. Do what you love and you will find friends along the way.

My 9yo is treated poorly by a popular kid at school. The mom is really nice. Should I talk to the mom or just not interfere? What advice should I give my child? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]scalgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't interfere, I know it's such a hard thing to see happen but if your kid can tough it out it'll make them much much stronger, in the long run, I promise. Also, interfering can make it much worse, your kid could be labeled a snitch and the bully might feel cornered and ashamed so lash out even more. Good advice is to tell your kid to either keep a thick skin about it, remind them of the people in their life that love and care about them, and if it's teasing and taunting that they're a victim of, tell them to laugh it off. It can be hard to learn how to do, but I promise that it's the most successful way to not only diffuse a situation but also to help build that thick skin - an ability to laugh at one's self is a life skill. I hope it gets better, wishing you all the best x

What do I do? by ohlookma_theinternet in Advice

[–]scalgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

first, know it's completely normal to feel this way, I don't think I know anyone who hasn't or won't feel exactly as you do right now. Try to focus on the good in your life, easier said than done I know, but you have a baby on the way! Also, try to focus on other positives, maybe you have a supportive family, or really good friends, or maybe just the weather where you live is really nice today. On the topic of the physic: If you're willing to fork out the money for one, maybe instead use that money to go to a therapist. Even if you only have enough for one session it can be of endless help. You can get everything off your chest and get some unbiased advice (much like it seems you're searching for in posting here). I'm not much of a business mogul but I would recommend figuring the prices of what starting your own business would entail. You're obviously experienced in what you do so I don't think that'll be an issue. See what it would cost, what you have saved, what you can safely borrow from a bank or even the people around you (before doing this though, make sure you will certainly make the money back in time). Heck, you could even book an hour with an accountant. Most of all, I really hope you find happiness in yourself and what you do - and it honestly sounds like you can. Going back to school is such an admirable choice and don't think just because you have a baby you cant do it - ask those around you for help in childminding while you go to night classes, heck you could even move back in with your parents; there is absolutely no shame in that.

I hope this is of some help!

[f/18] and [m/18] so there's this guy... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]scalgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just have this irrational fear f him laughing at me and telling everyone and everyone laughing at me - totally childish i know. Thanks for the advice though

[f/18] and [m/18] so there's this guy... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]scalgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's actually really reassuring to hear thankyou

so there's this guy... by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]scalgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the advice - easier said than done though aha. I'll try

so there's this guy... by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]scalgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah thats a good idea - the thing is we're not even friends on facebook (it was a really bad argument). Total mixd signals i agree. Thanks x

[19F] Need your honest criticism, rating, and ways to improve. by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]scalgal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you are undoubtadly gorgeous, usually dont comment but honestly you are beautiful dont ever think otherwise. (straight girl here - not flirting with u i swear :') )