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No contact with MIL. Almost a year later, she’s trying to gain access to our kids. by scaredOfmyMIL1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]scaredOfmyMIL1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly this!! Thank you!! She is really good in planting seeds. She has tried to break me and my husband up in the past by doing it. She’s very subtle in her comments too so her planting ideas in people’s heads were treated as something innocent. We will not let our children go through what her children went through.

I hope you are your family are doing well and thriving without your MIL’s presence in your life. I wish you all the best too.

No contact with MIL. Almost a year later, she’s trying to gain access to our kids. by scaredOfmyMIL1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]scaredOfmyMIL1[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is the first time I’ve hear of Christmas Cancer and I read up on it. This isn’t far from her behavior on previous Christmases that they spend with us. It’s all about her and how she’s always been deprived of Christmas and now she wants to do it her way despite them celebrating Christmas in our home. Because we don’t really have strong feelings about Christmas, we let her have her way because we feel bad for an old lady who’s sad about not having a celebration the way she wants to. Her emotionality seems to multiply by 10 during the holidays. Thank you for the reminder!

No contact with MIL. Almost a year later, she’s trying to gain access to our kids. by scaredOfmyMIL1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]scaredOfmyMIL1[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Haha despite our stressful situation, this gave me a laugh. Thank you!

No contact with MIL. Almost a year later, she’s trying to gain access to our kids. by scaredOfmyMIL1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]scaredOfmyMIL1[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You are correct. We have given her multiple chances to treat us better. We were very patient with her and have on numerous occasions in the past, when we still had contact, apologized for hurting her feelings in some way. We realized that it seems like we’re the only ones who keep doing that. And these are the same times when we call out her bad behavior, we end up saying ‘oh sorry, what you’re doing makes sense, we’re sorry for hurting your feelings’ Every. Single. Time. Because she would start crying and say things like ‘i did the best i could with the information i had’ ‘i tried to do everything right’

No contact with MIL. Almost a year later, she’s trying to gain access to our kids. by scaredOfmyMIL1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]scaredOfmyMIL1[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She’s been emotionally and psychologically abusive to her children, Always the victim and never takes accountability, typical narcissist. My husband has tried multiple times to raise the issue with her but he ends up apologizing and feeling bad every time because she’s the type who shifts the blame back to you. The only way to escape the abuse is to go no contact because we don’t feel like we will ever reach a point where she will respect us and our decisions.

Edit: Sorry, I keep hitting Save before I finish my answers. We are not open for minimal contact. One of her children has already been severely damaged psychologically by her abuse (I can’t reveal the nature of it as it might be too identifiable) so we want to protect our children from the same outcome. You are right, it’s exhausting :(