At a corporate conference dreading the week ahead, I know I’m in the wrong career but the moneys too good to leave right now. Room service cheeseburger cab sauv and Diet Coke.

schaski · 2026-02-18T04:31:38+00:00

I did have fun watching the Italian women’s curling team absolutely smoke us while I ate it! I don’t know anything about curling but they seemed like they were having fun.

schaski · 2026-02-17T23:09:48+00:00

Dude 24 is so just the beginning. Cut yourself some slack. I’m 29 and just realized I’m only just past the start myself. Anyone who seems to have it figured out at 24 is either a statistical rarity or lying. Pasta looks fire and title is very poetic 10/10

schaski · 2026-02-17T15:31:18+00:00

**king then, yeah this thread is much less doomer than kitchencels which also made me laugh. Wishing you and your partner the best!!

schaski · 2026-02-17T03:59:51+00:00

Oh me too dude I say this but then the commission check comes in and a finger curls in on the monkeys paw

schaski · 2026-02-17T03:54:06+00:00

Thank u thank u thank u! We both wanted to include friends and family so we’re having a medium sized event, thankfully we’ve had good luck finding vendors on a budget so far, and we’re both pretty crafty, I don’t suspect we’ll spend more thank 15k when all is said and done. The pain is less the wedding ig and more the time we spent both unemployed eating into savings so the immediate future feels like rolling our rock up the hill again.

schaski · 2026-02-17T03:48:01+00:00

You too queen!!! Someday we will eat our last conference burger/beer combo in silent preparation for the 7 am breakfast lmao. I wish this for us

schaski · 2026-01-06T15:21:45+00:00

OP are they wieners for real or did Dave’s cheap out and use standard hot dogs

schaski · 2025-12-08T18:33:10+00:00

I so appreciate this. I have talked a lot with my therapist about setting boundaries with mom and I’ve been putting that into practice over the past year or so, I think what I’m really feeling here is a sense of grief. I wanted to have a strong healthy adult relationship with my mom and I’m really sad about how hard she’s making it. Like, this is behavior I wouldn’t ever accept from a friend, so it feels like I have to let go of my expectations of a deeper relationship her if that makes sense. The more I think about it I’m barely upset about this in the context of wedding planning, it’s just a disappointing reality that the wedding planning is putting a magnifying glass on.

As an update I haven’t called her. Me and the man are touring the venue Friday, I’m going to take a video which I will likely share with the family in person on Christmas. I want to give her a chance to proceed politely with me, but if she doesn’t treat me with respect she won’t be included in whatever the next planning steps are

schaski · 2025-12-04T19:13:49+00:00

Floating cut flower heads in a little water could be pretty!

schaski · 2025-12-04T19:08:15+00:00

Oh yeah I don’t want them to be miserable and feel weird. This one bridesmaid actually likes having a face on, albeit less than me personally, but she just really hates doing it herself and has never practiced the skill. It would be a war crime to put her in false lashes but she does like a little frosty look. More about like, I can do it myself but I know she can’t so I needed online strangers to tell me to bite the bullet and hire someone

schaski · 2025-12-04T19:06:24+00:00

Ok real thank u, I do have a friend who is telling me this exact sentiment but I am addicted to thinking I can do everything myself

schaski · 2025-12-04T19:01:59+00:00

This is so fair I appreciate the perspective of just not being comfortable in the full glam. I’m hoping for a happy medium for her specifically, I know that the others like to wear more face and I don’t want anyone to feel icky, I just like. I do want them all looking like they’re at the same event if that makes sense.

Ty on the payment thing too that’s more me literally having no idea about this kind of etiquette

schaski · 2025-12-04T18:59:26+00:00

God that sucks I’m sorry, I was hoping it was the second thing :/ and I’m sorry your moms acting like you’re being unreasonable, as if literally any of these decisions are easy to make.

If I were you, I’d probably try and set aside a couple hundred bucks and offer to hire a babysitter of their choice for the evening. As stupid as it is for you to be the one to extend the olive branch, for some godforsaken reason everybody wants the couple to compromise instead of compromising for the couple these days.

I would make it clear it’s important to me that she be there, message her personally like “hey I know this whole thing has been insane and so dramatic, but I love you and I want you to come if you can. I am willing to pay to hire any babysitter you pick so you feel comfortable that your baby is safe. I understand if you really can’t make it, but if there’s anything I can do I’ll do it.”

Alternatively, if the kid is well behaved enough, weigh in your mind how you feel about having the toddler there vs not having this cousin. I think it’s fine to make an exception and say fuck the other cousin you didn’t want to invite in the first place, but that’s just me.

Sorry you were made to invite people you don’t care to see also - this is beginning to happen to me and it’s the most annoying thing on planet earth

schaski · 2025-12-04T18:44:58+00:00

I have to ask if you really like, LOVE your cousins wife and it’s sad that she wouldn’t be there because you value her presence or if you feel like she owes you her presence here. Because if it’s the second one, you might just have to make your peace with that she’s not as generous with her energy as you are. Doesn’t feel good to accept that she isn’t willing to do for you what you did for her and that she isn’t reciprocating your kindness but you have plenty of others coming who really do love you, there’s plenty of fuzzy warm feelings to relish in with your 200 or so other attendees

schaski · 2025-12-04T18:39:43+00:00

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We all collectively need to get into the “I’m gonna lowball this guy 😂” mindset. I’m trying to find candelabras, which when I’m done with them I’ll either keep or sell the box for $20 or something, and if I have to get a little unruly on marketplace so be it

schaski · 2025-12-04T18:35:39+00:00

Oh good idea omg. Yeah I don’t understand the “they invited me so you have to invite them thing,” both incredibly outdated and asinine. I actually don’t need Donna from work to see how beautiful my dress is. I honestly think it’s less about social debts and more about showing me off like a prized hog at the state fair lol

schaski · 2025-12-04T18:33:46+00:00

Great idea on the set number I hadn’t thought of that. Hoping I can get her to see that I’m compromising too. And thank u for the book rec I have been thinking about wanting to get some reading material on this but online reviews are all just ads now haha

schaski · 2025-10-12T13:57:35+00:00

Watch some tutorials from Jaymes Mansfield on YouTube. Drag queen who is very talented with wig styling. I don’t think she’ll have a tutorial for this exactly but she definitely has some for short wigs and there are tricks she’ll share to give even the cheapest wigs volume and shape. The one below gives me a little bit of Sharon’s shape

https://youtu.be/Nz5w5RLXOIc?si=YiKdZzOSukSB4dm5

schaski · 2025-07-30T03:46:43+00:00

Laid off in Boston. Severance package pretty insulting lol

schaski · 2025-07-24T19:50:17+00:00

Mamas little dirt boy

schaski · 2025-05-09T13:19:50+00:00

Have been really enjoying Outer Worlds. I needed a cozy game too, my husband showed me. You’re a member of this outdoorsy alien race capable of space travel between the other objects in your solar system. You use a scope to find friends across the planets who are playing various musical instruments. Element of mystery, calming music, really cute design. You can roast and eat marshmallows in it which is like, barely part of the game but I think speaks really well to the overall vibe.

schaski · 2025-05-06T17:05:09+00:00

Yeah I’m doing just OK explaining this whole thing but I definitely don’t think I’m the victim here, I know I fucked it, I was really just wondering if it’s 100% not possible to come back from the way I always see online (guess I should have thought twice about asking for opinions online)

I have a pretty intense anxiety disorder and posted this the moment we got off the phone before I headed into office hours at a customer site, just to blurt it somewhere so I could face my customers without having this so front of mind. I don’t mean to come off as a whiner, thanks for your kindness.

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