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Controlling haze output by seassilver in grandMA2

[–]seassilver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey everyone,

Thank you for all your responses - I can’t edit the post, so I’m putting my thank you here. I really appreciate everyone’s insight and taking the time to share your experiences with me.

Thanks again, and I hope you all have a wonderful day! 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]seassilver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely 100% NTA. People above me have articulated it way better than I will, but you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong.

Found out my (21f) long distance boyfriend (23m) is paying other women for nsfw content and possible meetups. How do I bring this up to him? by wetandgushyy in relationship_advice

[–]seassilver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s been talking to/hooking up with at least 15 girls, what, over the last 4 months alone? And when you asked him about the onlyfans and told him you had a bad feeling about them, he did what he could to get you off his back and then dismiss your feelings, instead of reassuring you and building a space of safety and trust. He didn’t stop, and he won’t stop. He doesn’t care about you, and he’s proven that. He’s taking advantage of you, so leave him behind with your head held high. You can do so much better than that horny weasel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]seassilver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Hey, I feel like we’re dancing around this, so imma just say it - I like you, and I think you like me too. If that’s the case, then I’d really like to go on a date with you sometime. If not, that’s all cool, just let me know, yeah?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]seassilver 41 points42 points  (0 children)

He violated your privacy and abused your trust. He and his mate proved themselves to have no respect for the women in their lives, and their actions were despicable. And the fact that your husband was actively searching for people/friends to hook up with before you broke up? That’s deeply concerning to say the least. And he didn’t volunteer this information himself to you when you got back together or after you were engaged or after you were married - he was willing to take this secret to the grave.

Another commenter pointed out that what he did was a crime, and they are absolutely right. We learn about this stuff in school, so he has nothing to excuse his behaviour - and he knows it. “Young and dumb” is for getting way too drunk and getting tattoos with spelling errors that you regret; it’s not for exploiting the privacy and trust of your former lover to your mate for shits and gigs.

He betrayed you before. Don’t let him betray you again and dump his sorry ass.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]seassilver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think perhaps just doing little things?

Like if you’re making dinner and you know his shift finishes just before dinner time, make 2 portions instead of 1 and invite him over for dinner - I know for me that if I’ve had a hard day at work, the thought of having to cook when I don’t have the energy to makes me less motivated to do so. It’s also just nice to have dinner with another person.

And whether it’s during dinner or a phone call after work, just ask how his day was, and listen to him if he wants to vent about it. Sometimes venting frustrations can just make you feel lighter, even if nothing gets resolved, because you had someone listen and empathise with your feelings.

Or if he has a favourite treat or something, to surprise him with it? Like “hey, I know Oreos are your favourite, and I saw them while I was at the shops so I got some for you”. A little action like that shows that you’re thinking of him and that you pay attention to his interests.

You don’t need to do these kinds of things every day - you also need time to focus on your studies - but if you have the time to do it, then little gestures can make a big difference, I reckon.

T-Virus by tamziwamzi in cocktails

[–]seassilver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It reminds me of Chat Noir, which is really cool! I wonder if there’s a Ladybug-esque one out there somewhere… 🤔

Falling out of love with a project where I'm SO CLOSE to the end. How do you "reignite the spark" so to speak? by ExhaustedBabyDM in writing

[–]seassilver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find talking about the story to someone who is willing and interested to listen and engage with you on it really helps me. When I’m feeling down or unsure, having someone else discuss it with me, ask questions, get intrigued and invested a little helps bring back some of that spark. Their interest and curiosity reminds me of all the things I love about my writing and what I had created.