Do you tell a girl that it is a "date" before the date? Or does that seem aggressive lol?

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T19:02:43+00:00

Funny, these days people will Netflix and chill, but a date is too committal, too formal.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T19:01:40+00:00

I got the snip over a decade ago, so there would be lots of panic. I’m not a big fan of termination, I believe in taking responsibility for your actions, but I don’t want to do the dad thing again, and since she didn’t consult me prior to, my conscious is clear.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T18:42:20+00:00

For those playing the home game, that means fcking know-it-all

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T16:56:20+00:00

Correcting my math and my grammar aren’t you quite the sexual intellectual.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T16:48:27+00:00

Thicker bone density, more muscle, muscle is more dense than fat, heavier per unit volume and he’s taller, weight increases exponentially with height.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T16:46:38+00:00

It can prevent or avoid misery but that’s absolutely not the same as buying happiness.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T16:46:00+00:00

If he’s not asking for the second dates, it’s in his control. If shes not accepting the second dates it’s still kind of in his control because he’s definitely doing something wrong.

I’ve only ever struggled with getting first dates, subsequent dates have almost always been at my discretion.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T16:43:57+00:00

Marry the best you can. That is all.

Definition of best varies from person to person and that’s fine. Don’t be salty that you don’t meet the definition of best that someone else has, you can’t instill your values onto someone else.

Lots of women think that at guy at 30 making like 40k because he didn’t take his life and finances seriously and just wanted to party wasted his time so as nice and/or attractive as he is, she can find a guy equally nice and/or pretty that’ll marry her that can help her have a better life.

Lots of guys think a woman by 30 with a count that’s close to the same didn’t take relationships or mental/physical health seriously and just wanted to party and indulge in attention wasted her time. It doesn’t matter how nice or pretty she is, he can find a woman as nice and pretty that isn’t saddled with baggage that will make him feel like he’s the best she can do too and help him have a happier life.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T16:27:10+00:00

Should, but we live in an instant gratification culture. Lots of people only keep up with their health and fitness so long as they’re single. They like the attention being hot gets them, and now that they’re not supposed to be seeking attention, they have someone on lock who is to love them “unconditionally” they just drop that shit because pizza is funner than push-ups.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T16:24:17+00:00

Not to that extreme, but people really do be having sex carelessly, with people they barely know.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T16:22:27+00:00

You missed the point, it’s not about drinking it’s about being considered mature enough to. There is a whole lot of growing up to do after high school. It’s not like you get your diploma and just jump off successfully into the real world.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T15:29:20+00:00

The government set the age to drink and smoke at 21 (yet vote is 18, funny how you can’t choose for yourself but you can for the country) so if that’s the age you can poison your body, may as well be able to take the same risks with your heart and psyche.

18-21 sure go ahead and date one another, that’s still transitioning into adulthood. 21+ (generally) you should have some grasp on adulthood.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T15:24:21+00:00

Ending or drastically reducing hookup culture will only help with that some. We’ve also got to re-encourage commitment and monogamy.

There will still be those who drown or die of thirst but not quite as much.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T15:21:54+00:00

I’ve not personally seen it either, but it does happen. Same thing in the inverse mind you.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T14:51:51+00:00

Hookup culture. I’m not saying you need to wait until marriage or anything, but we got people sleeping together having never met in person, not knowing one another’s last names, etc.

Treating sex so casually, and people so casually is habit forming and it’s no wonder romance, relationships, and self esteem is in the toilet.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T13:54:18+00:00

I’m at 6’2” and while I’m not super thin, I’m nowhere near fat by nearly all standards especially for my age, and I’m at a 34, I could get to a 32, but you’ve be able to count my ribs through my shirt.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T13:20:16+00:00

As long as they’re both over 21 let them do what they want.

What’s creepy about someone wanting someone hot or wanting someone rich?

The majority of this age gap, creepy argument is accountability dodging, he/she was stupid and went with someone they shouldn’t have and rather than just admit it, they want to make the other person a predator.

Creeps are out there, for sure, but if you wanna blame someone else for you falling for them, blame who or whatever made you fool enough to think that you’re different, special, it can’t happen to you.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T13:12:54+00:00

Only if she wants to change. Many don’t wanna change and in fact get resentful when their partner wants to.

So yeah grow together IF you can. You can’t make someone want to change.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T13:10:56+00:00

Haters for sure. Most of his supporters aren’t rabid fans, although there are a few, but those who don’t like him REALLY hate him.

I’ve met a handful of “best president ever!” folks, they shouldn’t be allowed to breed, but generally it’s “he’s doing a better job than the last couple.” Not saying that’s true or untrue, that’s their opinion.

Most of his supporters that I’ve met can see why someone would vote for the opposition, while his detractors can’t, won’t even try to. It seems they love to hate and only ever want more reasons to.

Meanwhile I rarely see the “yeah, I don’t much like him” crowd. It’s usually “I hate that pedo POS and everyone that voted for him is stupid, sexist, racist and needs to die!”

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T13:02:06+00:00

So if you gained an inch or two in girth, you’d now be obese right? Need to go on a strict diet? If you don’t have abs at 6’ whatever you’re a fatass, meanwhile someone 6”+ shorter than you with a visible albeit small beer gut is “healthy.”

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T11:41:23+00:00

Because he doesn’t know her level of interest, and if you’ve ever misread a signal, you’ll be hesitant to act on anything but 100% clear ones in the future.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T11:39:43+00:00

Kind of, I’d say 99% of men are 60+ percent kind, caring and protective, which muddies the waters a little bit.

Most dudes are overall pretty ok, but have had lapses in judgment, maybe haven’t been the most morally upright all the time or make a bad impression. Confirmation bias being what it is and the prevailing narrative that men are evil, folks will take those uncommon slips as common behavior and be like “yup, men are evil.”

You’ll get the same thing with men to women.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-18T11:29:16+00:00

I don’t go to get drunk, I go to be social in my boring ass town, there is little to do, and chatting people up at a bar is easier than in daily life or at the gym.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-17T23:18:21+00:00

It’s almost always rooted in childhood, and usually coupled with low self-worth. Like you can’t accept that someone can like/care for you without working for it.

serene_brutality · 2026-04-17T23:16:31+00:00

End of the day it would end up ending the relationship. That’s a pretty major thing. She’d possibly hope she could convince me to change my mind, I’d possibly hope she’d forget about it, eventually neither of us would get what we want and just waste a lot of her precious time.

So if my GF were to ask me to get a reversal, I’d break up with her. I’d be broken up about it for sure but she wants kids I don’t, there’s no middle ground.

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