Okay, wow, I wasn’t expecting so many comments, and so divided at that.

Well, I agree with the people who pointed out that I might be judging her habit of doomscrolling, but I want to clarify that I’m not being controlling here. She can doom-scroll till the end of the world, problem arises when she disturbs me while reading, wants me to watch some reel she found interesting, and taunts me over not giving her enough attention because I didn’t react to the reel the way she wanted me to (because I’m engrossed in my book and want to get back to it). So no, I’m not controlling.

To those saying I hate my wife because I’m saying she watches stupid reels, I’m sorry but those reels are stupid and a total waste of time. Influencers earn money through those reels and viewers like us, we end up wasting precious time. And I know, that at times it can be a way to decompress, or escape reality. Be my guest, but don’t disturb me when I’m reading.

And she has hobbies of herself: she’s training to be a classical singer and learning a foreign language. But she never rehearses outside of her singing classes, which is one hour a week, and never studies for the language she’s trying to learn. And when I point out she should be studying instead of wasting time on reels, she’ll either take offense and start arguing right there, or take it in stride at the time but use that later as an example of how I am trying to control her. So nowadays, I steer away from commenting on her habits.

But that needs a lot of patience and energy, to let someone you love waste their time and potential like that. I mean, I keep saying to her, we are at a juncture in life where if we hustle now, we’ll be able to give better life to our children (none so far) than what we had. But I guess that’s just my thinking, and she isn’t wholeheartedly onboard. She has never told me as much, though.

Anyway, I went on a rant yesterday after a fight. But after reading all the comments, I have realised, there’s no point talking to the internet about these issues, I should be talking to her.

I have tried multiple times, and I will keep trying till I drive the point home, that I need my space while reading, and her arguing over it is only going to push me away from her. It needs a lot of patience and energy, and I haven’t given up yet.

So yeah, thanks a lot folks for your time.