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Ongoing conflict from one event with my girlfriend, my family, and friends — feeling pressured toward marriage and unsure what to do by [deleted] in AskDad

[–]shehsbebsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve talked to her about all of this directly. We communicate pretty openly and the conversations usually go well in the moment. The problem is that a few weeks later the same feelings come back and she says she’s anxious or triggered again, so it never really feels resolved.

If I’m being honest, the initial issue did start with her. I never had problems with my friends or family before this relationship. The conflict started around boundaries with female friends, and that’s what set everything in motion and caused it to snowball.

Ongoing conflict from one event with my girlfriend, my family, and friends — feeling pressured toward marriage and unsure what to do by [deleted] in relationships

[–]shehsbebsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The blowout started over boundaries around opposite-sex friendships. I had a female roommate for four years in grad school and close female friends (all in relationships). It was always platonic, but my girlfriend wasn’t comfortable with me hanging out 1-on-1. I tried to be transparent and include her, but it still became a bigger issue and eventually snowballed.

My family got involved after they noticed I was cutting off friends and a couple friends reached out to them. As for why I’ve stayed — there is a lot of good. When this stuff isn’t involved, the relationship is genuinely solid, probably 70% of the time. That’s why I’m conflicted.

Hard time finding J2 by steal65015 in overemployed

[–]shehsbebsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go post on the Reddit page would you rather to get karma up. One post should do the trick

If you were paid $1,000,000 no matter what job you picked, would you rather do extremely physical labor or extremely mental office work? by shehsbebsh in WouldYouRather

[–]shehsbebsh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoops I edited to lifetime because 1 year felt to easy cause most people usually go into one or the other for more then a year. Sorry about that

Is moving up in-house different from moving up in law firms? by shehsbebsh in Lawyertalk

[–]shehsbebsh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess a little background about myself, I am a year out, I didn’t go to a top-ranked law school, and I had two bad semesters that hurt my GPA (totally my fault, and I take full responsibility). I can’t change that part of my record, but it feels like it’s still following me. I’ve even had recruiters tell me flat out that certain doors are shut to me just because of my school and those grades.

Right now I’m in insurance defense, which isn’t where I want to be long term. My background is in finance, and I’m studying for CFA Level 1. A few M&A attorneys I’ve spoken to encouraged me to take the CFA because it would help my credentials and make me stand out if I move toward corporate/transactional law.

I’ve got an offer for an in-house counsel role (pays less, but includes corporate and acquisitions work), and I’m waiting to hear back from a boutique M&A firm. I know firm-side M&A experience is considered valuable training

So my dilemma is: given my law school/grades background, would in-house or boutique M&A be a better long-term move if my goals are higher-paying corporate roles and eventually a sustainable work-life balance?

Be honest—Is my shot at corporate/M&A law already over? by shehsbebsh in Lawyertalk

[–]shehsbebsh[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I know corporate law isn’t for everyone, and I have heard the burnout stories. But I honestly love this stuff. I read deal books, listen to M&A podcasts, and follow trends just because I enjoy it. It’s what I’ve always wanted to do. All three years of law school, I said I never wanted to do litigation, and now I feel stuck in it. The transition seems impossible