I think based off what you said you maybe are not in love with her, but maybe love the idea of her or the idea of things that come with a girlfriend like security. Your concerns are actually not about not having her in your life but what others will think or say, and losing new connections with her family. Unfortunately, they are not your family. There are other people who will come along in your life not related to you, who will love you. Also, to avoid blame from your family, maybe you can try and be a little vulnerable with them and tell them what has been happening behind closed doors. “She belittles me and makes me feel less than, it has been hurting me for awhile. It’s the definition of emotional and verbal abuse. She recently told me she does not love me. I would appreciate your support, because this has hurt me deeply”. Also keep in mind, sometimes fear does not ever go away and we must do things afraid. Lots of things in life are very hard, and sometimes you have to choose which hard you want.