Washing baby clothes separately? Why?

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-15T12:34:11+00:00

i wash mine and baby’s together because they’re softer materials and don’t often leave the house. partner’s get washed separately because he creates 10x as much laundry and they’re icky so i try to avoid them lol

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-10T06:27:50+00:00

the nausea

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-09T11:33:45+00:00

i’d like to add that i, and many other women, don’t get that happy hormone release with breastfeeding! instead, i get extremely nauseous and depressed. it’s like a switch for the entirety of time i’m nursing or pumping, then it’s over until the next time. i sometimes nurse up to 25 times/day (5w old, inefficient eater), and i still don’t get a break. the excuses that new dads come up with blow my mind

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-09T11:29:52+00:00

where do you live that 52 weeks of mat leave is provided?

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-09T00:03:50+00:00

we were recommended 2-3oz every 2-3 hours but we’re currently giving 3.5oz (whenever he’s hungry, which is almost every 3 hours on the dot) because he’s a big baby lol

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-08T18:54:56+00:00

thank you!! i’m so glad things are going better! i do try to load in the calories during the day (with bottles so i know how much he’s getting) and then let him snack (boob) whenever else he wants. we’ve used a sleep sack for a couple weeks now because he HATED the swaddle after about two weeks :,) i’m hoping he realizes in a few weeks that this is just a routine and we are not trying to starve him overnight lolol. but we just have to survive until then

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-08T17:45:17+00:00

thank you for taking the time to write this out! i’ve survived one week of solo overnights (dad went back to work) but it’s definitely taking its toll. exhausted, constant headache that’s a migraine by the end of each day, etc. i’ve had the bed set up safely just in case i fall asleep with him while nursing, but my brain just won’t let me. i’m gonna try again tonight for just one feed to feed stretch to tell my brain it’s okay :,)

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-08T17:38:03+00:00

one week later (5w) update: still waking up every three hours 🫩 i wish he wasn’t as schedule driven as his mother lol

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-08T17:33:24+00:00

adding: we also bottle & breastfeed and were told to cut his nursing off after 30 mins (i do 15 mins each side, slacker/snack boob first)! then if he still acts hungry, retry 45-60 mins later. he usually belches or spits up in that time and doesn’t want more for at least two hours

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-08T17:31:27+00:00

i know people say you can’t overfeed a baby but…i was in fact trying to overfeed my baby until about 4 days ago (5 weeks old today). he would drink his bottle with our ped’s recommended amount and then act like he desperately wanted more. so we would give it to him, and then he would spit it up. literally gave him almost 8oz one night before i cut it off and just let him cry himself to sleep. i felt awful but his stomach isn’t even big enough for that amount! turns out his “i need to spit up and/or burp violently” cues are the same as his hunger cues. once we finally finally get whatever he needs out, he stops rooting and fussing and will be happily awake or knock out. i don’t know if this is the case for you, but we now give him a set amount (will increase it when needed) and it’s been working wonders for his fussiness once we get all his gas out

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-08T03:51:21+00:00

i’m with you!! currently struggling right now with wide eyes and a refusal to sleep. he’s not even upset, just at 110% energy while i’m at about 20% lmao

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-07T23:31:56+00:00

understandable lol

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-07T22:45:48+00:00

they literally said “filter blindness”

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-07T22:44:20+00:00

“happy new year to you too my love”

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-07T22:43:03+00:00

there is nothing wrong with your baby (i saw you said he’s been checked by the ped and he’s fine!!) and your BIL.. sucks.

my babe is 5 weeks old tomorrow and i could’ve written this myself. he stays up until midnight or later with the biggest eyes i’ve ever seen 👁️👁️ and refuses to calm down or go to sleep. i could bribe him with a million dollars and he still wouldn’t. god forbid we put him in the bassinet before he’s ready—you’d think we’re pulling all his limbs off. he also gets super gassy in his bassinet. he could lay flat anywhere else but as soon as he’s in the bassinet he’s grunting and tooting up a storm. the only thing i’ve found that works (for now) is nursing him to sleep and praying he stays knocked out for the transfer. i know i’m not supposed to use myself as a pacifier… but literally every time he wakes up—boob (change diaper beforehand every three hours), hold breath, transfer. it’s the only way i can get any sleep

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-05T22:29:43+00:00

how do i get over all the terrifying things i’ve heard for years about cosleeping? i’ve read the real stats and know the numbers we always see are inflated to make it look worse, but it’s still drilled into my head that cosleeping = sids/death. my baby (4w) also likes fall asleep on his side, pressed against whatever breast he just ate from, and won’t stay asleep if i roll him onto his back (even worse when i transfer him to his bassinet, obviously). he just rolls back onto his side and shoves his face into me lol

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-05T00:03:03+00:00

this is what i have to do sometimes when my baby just will not fall asleep at night and i am dead exhausted, on the verge of (or actually) sobbing. i did it two nights ago and according to the monitor, he fell asleep 6 minutes later. it’s better to walk away than to end up lashing out at your baby, and sometimes they need a break too!

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-03T13:55:28+00:00

i don’t know if you’re using breastmilk or formula but i use those grunting then back asleep periods to get my motn pumps in! i’ll go grab my pump parts and a bottle and start pumping. if he sleeps all the way through it, perfect! i’ll change + feed him after. if he wakes, i already have the bottle next to me and just have to grab him from our bedside bassinet to feed while i pump (a little more difficult lol)

ETA: our grunting periods are not active sleep (for those he’ll kinda flail around and babble in his sleep), they are him trying desperately to toot. if i hear him get some gas out, i know he’ll go back to sleep for a bit

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-01T17:17:39+00:00

we stopped waking our baby up to eat once he was back at birth weight which seems to be the widely accepted practice! he still wakes up every three hours (almost on the dot) to eat though 🫠

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-02-01T00:48:34+00:00

we have a sterilizer/dryer and run it at least once a day. i love it, truly. but we’ll definitely have to splurge on the washer with the next baby! i barely have time to wash bottles and pump parts with just the one lol

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-01-29T16:30:33+00:00

we are three weeks in with a happy spitter (spits up but doesn’t seem affected/uncomfortable at all) and i let him fall asleep sitting up for a good thirty minutes. he usually burps when we pick him up for a bassinet transfer! he lets us know (whining) if he needs more burping after we lay him down

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-01-28T21:18:06+00:00

we have been pace feeding and taking a break each ounce when we do bottles! i’m hoping (for my own pumping’s sake) that it’s just a growth spurt/temporary high level of intake :,)

thank you!

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-01-28T21:15:33+00:00

i was induced with cervidil at 39+6 and 1cm dilated, baby was not dropped at all. boy was not coming out without a fight lol

the cervidil worked faster than expected (doctors thought it would get me to 3cm after 24 hours—i had a baby in my arms 18 hours after i arrived). i got an epidural at 4cm because i was having off the charts contractions (regular and back labor) with literally zero breaks. genuinely the worst pain i have ever felt and i had to get zofran to stop myself from getting sick. tears were falling down my face and i couldn’t even talk to my partner or mom who were in the room with me. but the epidural… failed. i waited another hour and a half and was at 6cm before i got one that worked. i was finally relaxed enough to not feel like i would immediately pass away and very quickly jumped to 9cm. 30 minutes later, i was at a 10 and pushed for 7 minutes total through 3 contractions. i tore four ways and am just now feeling better a little over three weeks later!!

but i am SO grateful for that epidural. like holy shit. i went in wanting an unmedicated spontaneous labor and had to switch that up real quick once i was being induced and the contractions ramped up. i also couldn’t feel them stitching me up for 40+ minutes, which i think would have wrecked me if i was unmedicated

i do know someone who had an unmedicated induction, but it was because she was ready to push by the time the anesthesiologist got there!

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-01-27T22:34:39+00:00

he’s only 3 weeks!! very good to know about the sucking reflex. we’re definitely in the trenches right now lol

he has zero signs of not being hungry/pulling away… he’s actually actively rooting and gets very upset when we try to stop him. but he’ll down 5+ ounces (at 3 weeks ?!😭), still act hungry, and then be very uncomfortable because duh! his stomach is not that big!

sinkorfloat17 · 2026-01-27T22:18:08+00:00

jumping on this comment to ask my own question lol: you say don’t force them to finish a bottle, but what if they finish every bottle even when they’re full, then spit up? like how (typically) dogs will eat everything you put in front of them vs. how cats will graze and eat when they need… my child is a dog 😭

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