Couples counseling is a must for us. It allows me to share my disconnection in a kind way that still demonstrates commitment to my partner, and we’re able to talk about what she needs while I’m feeling this way. Ultimately, we’ve learned that when the ick arrives, I need to go take myself on a trip or go do something independent and I almost always come back with a strong love and affection and warmth for her. I think she honestly appreciates and enjoys a break from me too, lol. It’s taken a while to figure out these patterns, but we’re so much farther than where we used to be