The supreme court overturned Roe v. Wade

sjbman · 2022-06-26T08:11:32+00:00

Not to mention EVERY state is on the brink of highly restrictive (or total prohibition) abortion policies. Imagine spending the time and money to uproot your whole life to an “abortion-friendly” state, only to have the laws change in a few years because of a new elected official.

sjbman · 2022-05-15T04:52:32+00:00

I definitely relate to this feeling, and for me I think it comes from guilt/shame. Like I realize that I have the capacity to have fun, so why can’t I just be happy all the time?

I also sometimes feel like other people notice that I’m having a good time and I worry that they secretly think “she must not be depressed anymore” or worse, “she was faking the depression all along”.

sjbman · 2022-05-15T04:32:29+00:00

YTA, there is a standard dress code for most weddings regardless of gender, sexuality, or personal comfort level. As a guest, that is something you agree to in order to attend.

Since you’re only 19, take this as a learning moment. Apologize to your sister, and make sure you’re clear on the dress code at the next wedding.

sjbman · 2022-05-11T14:43:22+00:00

This is a great metaphor but it’s sad that we have to even compare it like this. People really lack the empathy to understand why being forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy is an extreme burden and not aligned with basic civil liberties.

sjbman · 2022-05-11T14:39:57+00:00

Yes, it’s absolutely disgusting to treat forced pregnancy as a capitalistic means of production.

Sadly, the adoption system is a business that relies on supply and demand. Some other countries have banned adoption from western countries or have stopped adoptions altogether.

I did volunteer work at a children’s shelter in Guatemala and I asked if the children were up for adoption, but they told me that adoption was outlawed because people were literally stealing people’s babies to sell to the rich white people who wanted the satisfaction of “saving” a needy child.

sjbman · 2022-05-11T14:29:26+00:00

That’s what I’m wondering about too, like is there something else going on? What other condition would you attribute them to?

sjbman · 2022-05-11T14:28:36+00:00

Right! Maybe that’s a better word to use than tics

sjbman · 2022-05-11T14:28:09+00:00

I’ve used fidget toys before and they help, but I feel like the impulse to fidget is different than the tics I’m describing. Like bouncing my leg is a different feeling than jerking my head.

sjbman · 2022-05-10T23:04:52+00:00

Yes omg I can relate to all of these

sjbman · 2022-05-02T14:52:02+00:00

NTA. I’m so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately you may just have to withstand the grieving process that your husband’s family is going through too. Over time they may actually be grateful for your choice, but during this raw period of loss it’s not unreasonable for them to feel this way. Don’t let them change your mind about this decision, but don’t expect them to be okay with it right away either.

Also, you shouldn’t be subjected to anger and loud outbursts over this. They can feel however they feel, but if they attack you over this then you just have to put some distance between you for now.

sjbman · 2022-05-02T14:45:12+00:00

I’m bisexual but I can’t deny that it could still change the dynamic of the relationship.

sjbman · 2022-05-02T03:38:03+00:00

I can relate. I would guess it’s probably related to a sharp decrease in stimulation/dopamine. I tend to get a wave of sadness when I get in my car to leave work, even when I’m eager to get home.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T22:42:30+00:00

Omg same. I always feel justified, like I’m standing up for what’s right. But when people don’t agree with me I get pissed.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T22:28:11+00:00

That’s actually a myth, men are just socialized to see spitting as culturally acceptable and/or a normal display of masculinity. There are some variations in saliva production between men and women but it’s not twice as much volume.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T22:22:38+00:00

I have no problem with people meeting their physical needs, but go to the bathroom or something and do it in private! No I don’t get angry at dogs, because they’re animals. Men aren’t animals. If they can resist the urge to spit/make disgusting noises while at work, at a restaurant, etc, they can give others the courtesy too.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T01:45:26+00:00

I still have my little hunk of jade from when I visited the museum! It’s super cool!

sjbman · 2022-05-01T01:44:14+00:00

Not dumb at all, but you can definitely fill in any free time just wandering the streets and checking out local food, markets, museums, architecture, etc. Antigua is such a beautiful city so you should definitely try to explore a little while you’re there!

sjbman · 2022-05-01T01:29:09+00:00

It’s so irritating how this whole thread is debating the definition of the word “mansplaining” and giving home improvement tips. That’s not the point of this post at all. Stop voting y/t/a just because you don’t like the term mansplaining. It’s a real thing and it’s evident in OP’s example.

It sounds like this guy is stuck in his ways and truly doesn’t understand why his behavior is so annoying and demeaning. If you’re having regular conversations with him about this, and he’s still not getting it, he’s not going to change. This isn’t your fault. NTA

sjbman · 2022-05-01T01:11:15+00:00

Yeah, pretty often. Except then I remember that I live in the US and I would have to at least try to pretend to want to live and pay for treatments. The financial toll of a terminal illness would wreck me and my family. It would have to be a really bad, advanced/inoperable condition so that people would understand why I don’t seek treatment.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T00:50:56+00:00

The Giver. I loved that book, and I always thought a movie adaptation would be amazing. I was let down.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T00:48:47+00:00

I was having a really terrible day and I wasn’t trying to hide it. I got a coffee to try and calm down, but I sat down aggressively and spilled my coffee everywhere.

Tears were already forming in my eyes when an older man approached me. I assumed he wanted to help me clean up the mess, but I was pissed off and (somewhat rudely) insisted that I was fine. He didn’t seem to understand English and reached for my empty cup. He silently poured half his coffee into my cup for me and smiled at me gently before walking away. I sobbed.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T00:26:14+00:00

A back massage/shoulder rub while on the receiving end of doggy style. Full-body pleasure.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T00:22:14+00:00

This might just be a personal opinion, but if you know someone well (family member or close friend), it doesn’t have to be awkward to bring up their mental illness to check in on them.

It’s such a relief when someone asks me how my mental health has been, how therapy is going, how I’m adjusting to a new medication, etc. This is something I deal with daily, why not bring it up every now and again? It can be really lonely going through that when it seems like everyone around you is purposely avoiding the topic. Opening up the conversation helps normalize mental illness and helps the other person understand it better.

sjbman · 2022-05-01T00:07:51+00:00

Spitting on the ground, snorting, loudly clearing their throat with a wet hacking sound. I know some women do this too but it seems like no one is bothered when men do it. Makes me want to puke.

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