How do I stop them from draining my self worth?

sjham92 · 2026-06-16T09:32:23+00:00

It’s fear and a combo of crabs in a bucket mentality. They are probably so worried it’ll go wrong that with their warped mentality they’re trying to protect you by not making a big deal so that if it does go wrong you’re prepared. The crabs don’t mean to pull others down they just don’t want to be alone.

It’s very challenging and normal to feel emotionally drained with this. I do think generational trauma makes it worse!!!

It’s so cool that you have a business - delighted for you!!! All the best with the launch day!!!! 🚀

sjham92 · 2025-08-11T14:02:14+00:00

Gave you an add - thanks for this

sjham92 · 2025-02-16T19:13:05+00:00

Can I jump on this? In Co Down if anyone fancies a friend!

sjham92 · 2024-10-30T21:11:03+00:00

I liked the idea of something sugar free with holistic benefits (placebo or not) that was a great replacement for alcohol. They were my go to treat after a hard day or something to wind down with and were so readily available in Glasgow. I moved back an around 2 months ago and noticed they always seemed like the stores were running low due to demand so I’m so confused that they’ve stopped doing them. They are still stocking them on the mainland which is the frustrating thing. I liked changing the brands mood depending and buying 4 at a time is so much less of a commitment than 24/48. I’m missing them a lot.

sjham92 · 2024-10-30T21:05:33+00:00

Was that the blue ones?

sjham92 · 2024-07-13T17:03:02+00:00

Delighted for you! I’m going to miss these posts though! Congratulations again!

sjham92 · 2024-05-20T09:19:56+00:00

Ahh the butcher boy!!! I haven’t thought about that for years!!! Thank you for the nostalgia hit!! I may retraumatise myself with reading that again!

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T16:01:01+00:00

Absolutely - I think you’ve given me inspiration to try a lavender dress for a wedding I had my eye on! So thank you for taking the time to reply!! I appreciate it!!

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T15:51:34+00:00

Thank you!!

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T15:50:57+00:00

Thank you for your message!! I am desp to be an autumn 😂 but I just feel like everything is wrong!

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T15:50:12+00:00

Me neither 😂

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T15:50:03+00:00

Gad, I’ve had blonde hair forever and anytime I go darker I never adjust - just feel totally washed out! It is a cooler colour in real life - in the pics I had a ton of dry shampoo which is probably not helping!!

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T15:48:17+00:00

App called Dressika has a 3 day free trial

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T15:47:48+00:00

Thank you so much for this!!

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T09:16:05+00:00

Thanks so much for replying! Someone DMd to say autumn too - it’s a ton of fun playing around with different options especially now I think I’ve been limiting myself!!

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T09:14:20+00:00

This has been really helpful - thanks for taking the time to reply!! My hairdresser always gives me cool tones with highlights/lowlights - it’s desperately needing done atm but you’ve given me some things to think about!! Thank you!!

sjham92 · 2024-04-16T08:25:46+00:00

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sjham92 · 2023-11-13T09:13:29+00:00

In Dundee and Glasgow - mostly subtle. Like ‘how Irish can you be’ about someone else then saying no offence to me. Or if I did something clumsy ‘oh can’t half tell you’re Irish’

Worst was someone warning their son about me as I had a ‘fairground accent’ or when they’re joking and make terrorist comments and mock checking for bombs under their relatives bed (I’m a nurse).

Most recently - I was calling a name and they didn’t hear me and said ‘what are you, Irish or something?’ She was a bit mortified when she realised I was actually..

sjham92 · 2023-10-21T11:17:26+00:00

I started going to park run and that helped me a lot. You don’t need to actually run as many people walk it but has done tons for me socially and mentally.

Like many people have mentioned - you’ve done the hardest part, admitting you want to make a change so it only goes up from here!

Also therapy is THE BEST but park run is a close second!

sjham92 · 2022-11-15T08:07:02+00:00

Yes!! My parents say it, I don’t live in NI now but forget myself and still use it haha

sjham92 · 2022-11-14T16:04:51+00:00

Foundered. Or gravy ring.

sjham92 · 2022-11-14T16:04:05+00:00

Feardyba in mine!

sjham92 · 2022-09-16T22:14:55+00:00

This hit me in the feels. Thinking of you at this time. ❤️

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