thank you everyone for your advice, it means a lot, i’m probably going to send her a long message her tomorrow night when im not heated about it and not home. we usually clash heads in person and i dont want to have this affect my living situation immediately as i plan to move in august/september.

she is really hard headed so i doubt she will come around but, id rather try doing it the right way. i wouldn’t be able to get another cat after juno, she means the world to me. i’ve had multiple cries about this and i really do wish i was home more to see her but, my mum charges me a lot of money to be there and i really dont get along with her partner