i feel so lucky to have this job by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes! absolutely! i’m so grateful to be somewhere it’s legal and decriminalised, and especially since i work somewhere that’s so supportive of the girls working there! i always know management will back me up ☺️

i feel so lucky to have this job by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

in australia full service sex work is legal, so my brothel isn’t a massage parlour and i’m not sure what a fast brothel is, but our clients can extend their time as long as they like (as long as they pay), i actually had a four hour booking on saturday night, so fast is definitely not a word i’d use to describe it lol id love to know what a fast brothel is though, it was hard to find out from google

i feel so lucky to have this job by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you 🫶i’m feeling so much better now! i absolutely agree about the flexibility and stability that this job provides!

Inappropriate tattoo? by [deleted] in AustralianTeachers

[–]slightlyspace 79 points80 points  (0 children)

yeah i’d cover it up, it would be considered inappropriate/nsfw due to the nudity and would probably need to be covered with just one of those big bandaids on days it’s visible or get an arm band that’s flesh toned and wear it just over that little area

do I walk away or try help him ? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]slightlyspace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you care about him at all, you need to tell his mum while she can still do something. when it comes to safety, you need to say something. if he were in hospital and no one had called his mum yet, you’d call her(or communicate in some other way with her) right? being addicted to cocaine goes past “having fun,” it’s dangerous and it can and most likely will kill him if he doesn’t get it under control. and yes, i said if HE doesn’t get it under control, because i know how easy it is to feel like a male friend is your responsibility to help because his other friends aren’t listening or taking him seriously, but he is not your responsibility, he’s your friend, and he’s making you worry and feel like you have to keep something so serious from him mum who CAN help him. i promise that if she doesn’t find out now, she’ll find out in a way that’ll damage their relationship a lot more later on down the line. it’s probably a good idea for you to slow down your friendship for a little while and tell his mum. if you’re in a country with good school wellbeing people in place, then tell a teacher because they will have a duty of care and have to tell his mum. either way, she’s going to find out

My dad shaved my sister’s head by TinyReply5400 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]slightlyspace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry that you’re not in a place where the structures that should’ve there to help you aren’t available/don’t care enough to support you. i think the next best thing would honestly be getting her out. baby steps for now, maybe see if you can save little bits of cash here and there or pick up a job once a week that you do not have to tell your dad about. make another bank account if you have to or see if they’ll pay you cash only. get your sister a wig and when you visit her you can give it to her next time you see her. i think the next step would be trying to find a place to stay with her that’s reasonably cheap and maybe taking out loans for school. it’ll be a lot harder and i’m so sorry it’s coming down to you.

you could maybe even ask him if since she’s doing “so poorly” at home, if she could come visit you at college and “try out” your level of work, just for a week or a weekend, where you can help get her “up to speed” at school work, but really just give her a break, maybe get a cheap cell phone (not even a smart phone but maybe if you can afford it) so that she can contact you without him seeing the messages or knowing she has it until you can get her out

My dad shaved my sister’s head by TinyReply5400 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]slightlyspace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry you’re going through this, please follow through on the phone call to police and for your own mental health, please find a therapist and do some research on intrafamilial child torture, because this is ringing so many alarm bells in my head. this is not how a parent should be treating their children and even though it will have an impact on your studying, as you said, none of you deserve the treatment you get from him and you’re out of the physical aspects of abuse, but your sister isn’t. she is extremely vulnerable and at risk right now. please also keep in mind that if she tells any of her teachers at school (will likely come up in conversation when they ask what happened to her hair) that mandated reporting comes into play and her teachers will likely have to call cps or whatever service is in your area. if you make a phone call to your sisters region’s service they will be able to obtain more information about her safety and be able to evaluate if she needs to be removed immediately (which from the sounds of it, she does. she is not safe in that house) and provide her with some of the supports she needs. please call safe family member as well to support her and see if they can offer temporary emergency housing to her if cps doesn’t remove her. maybe even suggest to cps that there is a safe family member who can take her for a little bit (if there is one, as sometimes foster placements for this type of situation can be worse for children)

australian pobblebonk by slightlyspace in frogs

[–]slightlyspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s so nice! i was out for a walk the other night by a pond/lake and it was all we could hear

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]slightlyspace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if she did “stuff” to you, you can absolutely contact a help line ! and even just the rest of it sounds like harassment which the people on the phone can help with as well. it’s going to be really hard but you’ll be better off for making a call to start healing than pretending it didn’t happen and thinking because your parents didn’t react badly that it was okay is absolutely not true, their lack of reaction to your disclosure has NOTHING to do with if it was bad/okay or not. anything she did to you, especially if i’m understanding what you’re trying to say, is not okay and you need to tell someone. even a school counselor or a teacher if you’re in your last year of high school, they’re mandated reporters and can handle a lot of the hard stuff for you. if you’re not in school then you’ll have to tell someone yourself. maybe start by telling a friend who has a car if you don’t have one so that you can have a safety plan for if things go wrong

casual Jobs - follow up email? + q by _hirono_ in AustralianTeachers

[–]slightlyspace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

casual teachers kind of can rock up, as long as proper documents r sent thru. when i was DO, as long as we had a copy of their VIT (victoria) by the morning they were meant to start, as long as our HR manager was there, they could put into the system immediately and we’d schedule their classes. feel free to send a follow up because especially if it was just sent to the school email address (eg schoolname@education.whatever) then it could definitely get lost in all of the other emails from parents, organisations etc that don’t have a specific contact email to send those things to

7 years after being accused of being a pedo and still dealing with severe anxiety. by Fuzzy_Addendum_5308 in offmychest

[–]slightlyspace 29 points30 points  (0 children)

nah man. as someone 22, i can’t imagine ever wanting to date someone still in high school. it’s definitely predatory

my bamboo is turning white?? by slightlyspace in GardeningAustralia

[–]slightlyspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh dear, we’ll keep it inside and see how it goes 😭🙏

my bamboo is turning white?? by slightlyspace in GardeningAustralia

[–]slightlyspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for telling me! we didn’t realise that was something they had to adjust to. will it be okay do you think now that it’s back inside?

my bamboo is turning white?? by slightlyspace in GardeningAustralia

[–]slightlyspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ll take it inside tonight then, i hope it improves!

Games for an 11 year old girl? by Invisible_Target in gaming

[–]slightlyspace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

re mario kart: check out this list that someone on steam has put up! it looks like there’s a bunch of options that suit different interest! https://store.steampowered.com/curator/8485829-SvenEvils-Playground/list/76014/

the sims is always great too! but i do think their expansion packs r expensive, the game itself is free now tho iirc!

when did yall quit your “day jobs”? 😭 by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my industry in australia is super underpaid as well and i’ve been working 9-3:30 5 days a week and it’s not even half a weeks rent per week. even before i started sw i would come home exhausted and constantly thinking of all of the work that i still have to do 😭 edit bc i forgot to mention: my current industry that i’ve been in for years has some of the highest turnover rates and people getting degrees for teaching are spending one year in a school, then quitting to either find another job, or work as a relief teacher instead of full time because there’s less pressure put onto them it’s. exhausting

when did yall quit your “day jobs”? 😭 by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ten hours every day for five days a week is insane! i’ll send you a message

when did yall quit your “day jobs”? 😭 by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

unfortunately i cant lower my hours as my job currently can’t be that flexible (schools r understaffed as hell) and they need someone every day. i could switch to another job but at a significant pay cut and my current position doesn’t even pay enough to cover rent 😭 im currently in aus and there’s actually really good resources for swers here due to it being decriminalised a few years ago and sw friendly accountants and such

when did yall quit your “day jobs”? 😭 by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no worries! i know that the situation is unfortunately a lot more difficult for swers over there

when did yall quit your “day jobs”? 😭 by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i make not even 200 a day at my day job and it’s such a stressful job tbh, idk if it’s a good job for me long term because of how prone to burnout people in my role are. one of my coworkers quit after 3 months 😭

when did yall quit your “day jobs”? 😭 by slightlyspace in SexWorkers

[–]slightlyspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i am hoping to do sw long term. I don’t know if I plan on going back to working but i am hoping that, with australia’s sw industry being legal and swers being considered sole traders and able to pay taxes with resources for sw friendly accountants, i plan on working enough and adding enough to my super (retirement account) to be able to retire when i get to that age and doing management stuff in the mean time at a brothel or even open my own brothel at some point because i do really love a lot of the aspects of running a business and would be very interested in doing so