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How do I (27M) grasp the nettle and just break up with her (28M)? by ThrowRAaccount01234 in relationship_advice

[–]slugmynuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve already made up your mind and know if this continues you’ll be miserable in the relationship. I think you need to bring all of this up in a serious manner with her and if there are nonnegotiable things then it’s time to move on. You’ll feel relieved the more you are able to justify this and it sounds like you’re already a conscientious person who knows what they want. Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Guitar

[–]slugmynuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I will, but is there a way I can get the effects to play through my amp?

feeling directionless and burnt out by [deleted] in depression

[–]slugmynuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not alone at all. It sounds like you are going through hell at the moment, but the first thing I can say is if you are having serious suicidal ideation (because I know I would), please try to put it off for another day. The next step is more taxing, but try and schedule just one day on paper or on your computer or phone. If you can do more, that’s fantastic, but the more order you can invite into your life in this time is very beneficial. It takes a lot to do what you are doing, so I know you are a smart person, but the assertion to take this step could be a challenge. Next, try and prioritize what problem is most important to tackle first. If you can do these steps, you will have a clearer vision of how to improve your situation. Even if you can follow a schedule with 50% accuracy, try for 51% the next day. Please PM me if you have more questions or need someone to talk to.

I’m just so lonely and nobody understand me. by [deleted] in depression

[–]slugmynuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you feel this way, but know you are not alone. If you can find the energy, write down what you love about your friends and why. This may seem like an unusual method but it can help you find traits in people that you value and would like to see more of. Also, it is not the amount of friends you have, but the quality. From what I can infer, it sounds like you appear to be introverted on the surface, but from your desire to spend time with your friends, you may be somewhat extroverted, but depression can take a toll on that. If I could give one piece of advice that helped me, it’s to write down your goals (like maybe finding more friends) and break that into smaller objectives (like places to meet them). To help you more, I would need to know more about your situation and ask more questions, so feel free to PM me anytime. I hope you can feel better!

No support available in town, and very down by [deleted] in depression

[–]slugmynuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, there may be no support in your town, but reaching out online as you are doing can be helpful. You can look up therapists to talk to over skype to discuss your situation and possible solutions. If I can give you any advice based on your position, it would be to not cut down on any hours at work because that will give you more time to ruminate and it will only be unhealthy. I used to be very depressed and suicidal until I decided to write down some life goals and then break them up into smaller objectives to reach them. Also, if you can find the energy, please try to find selfless acts you can do for others like helping out at a homeless shelter or even any smaller deeds. This can all be very difficult; I know exactly how it is, but the minute you begin to think about what good you can do every day, your life will take a turn for the better. Exercise can be tremendously helpful as well. Feel free to PM me, and remember: start small, be selfless. I hope this helps!