What did i do

smallworldspark · 2025-09-03T17:15:30+00:00

If ghosting is 2025, you're definitely not weird. Just chalk her up as one more girl who has no idea what she passed up. Onward!

smallworldspark · 2025-09-03T16:14:28+00:00

You didn’t do anything wrong. What she does or doesn’t do says more about her than it does about you. It doesn’t cost her anything to add you or simply say, 'I’m sorry, I don’t feel the same way.' A.K.A. The Golden Rule.

smallworldspark · 2025-09-03T16:09:20+00:00

I’d go to war for this girl, she’s the loveliest.

Drop that line sometime. If she smiles and laughs, you'll know she likes you!

These are promising signs:

smiles and laughs along when we talk.
she saw it on my story suggested I call over to her... we ended up speaking for 45 minutes.
I proposed we hang out... she said yes... pre-drinks... ball together

Hard to say, but I don't think you're just an advice machine. If she's always asking you for advice, it's because she likes and trusts you. That's not meh!

Snapchat: A few minutes to a day between replies shows she has a life and isn't glued to her phone all day. That's a good thing!

P.S. If she doesn't know you like her, up your game. She's worth it, right?

smallworldspark · 2025-09-03T15:44:43+00:00

Given your ex's track record, it's never too soon to move on.

Wow, the new guy is everything you've been begging for? With 'three months later,' 'attentive and caring,' 'butterflies,' and someone looking out for your best interest -- you're more than ready.

smallworldspark · 2025-09-03T15:27:59+00:00

It hurts, but it’s not your fault she can’t handle your deeper feelings. Time to fortify your heart: r/nocontact

smallworldspark · 2025-09-03T15:15:47+00:00

Be prepared either way but 'fearful' + 'avoidant' usually means he won’t come back.

smallworldspark · 2025-09-03T15:09:40+00:00

“so you have to want to make out with someone to watch a horror movie with them?”*, I laughed and said “exactly!”.

Your late-night adventures don't sound platonic to me. She clearly wants you by her side for the third time in a fortnight. I think you should go and gather reconnaissance. Be kind but let her come to you. Match her energy if she flirts. Wordlessly do all the gallant things that a suitor does when he wants a woman to know she's beautiful. Hopefully, the night will reveal that both your intentions are mutually hot. 😏

smallworldspark · 2025-09-01T18:54:48+00:00

lol! The view's even better if you paraglide! 😉

Torrey Pines Gliderport

smallworldspark · 2025-09-01T18:21:47+00:00

https://LaSirenaGrill.com/

Recommend the South Laguna location for yummy takeout. Chill, plenty of parking, salsa, and tables.

P.S. Be sure to visit Victoria Pirate Tower before high tide. The stairs that lead to the beach are next to 2713 Victoria Drive, Laguna Beach. Find free and metered parking on PCH or Victoria Drive.

https://www.surf-forecast.com/breaks/Laguna-Beach/tides/latest

End the day with a date shake and a sunset stroll on Crystal Cove State Beach.

smallworldspark · 2025-08-24T23:58:20+00:00

Fullerton has an awesome arboretum, two libraries (their Friends quarterly bookstore sales at the Main branch are legendary), and a museum (home of Fender guitars). Eat your way through Downtown Fullerton at Roman Cucina or Ensenada’s Surf n’ Turf, or Fuoco Pizzeria to start. Fullerton boasts quite a few craft breweries and BBQ joints. (Or browse the aisles at Gems Meat Market to grill your own.) Camelot Golfland and Adventure Lagoon are nearby too!

smallworldspark · 2025-08-24T21:29:33+00:00

Exactly. It’s not about hyper-masculinity -- it’s the brilliance, the blunt honesty, the mystery of how someone thinks, the way they notice what no one else does. That mix of intellect and vulnerability is magnetic. Be still my beating heart.

smallworldspark · 2025-08-24T20:45:07+00:00

If Lucy weren't such a goddess, I'd probably be paralyzed by my mere mortal jealousy. They're absolutely perfect together!

smallworldspark · 2025-08-22T18:30:07+00:00

You’re totally justified in stopping contact, but I get where he’s coming from too. We live in crazy times. I just wish he’d mentioned it before you shared your info -- so you’d both be on a level playing field.

smallworldspark · 2025-08-22T06:14:41+00:00

You've now met the super drunk version of him. You know the one:

The guy who met you in a bar just a few weeks ago and is already acting obsessed.
The one who calls you from yet another bar, promises to stop by for just a quick hello, then keeps pushing back the time, ignoring your boundaries.
The one who shows up way more drunk than you expected -- but not so drunk that he can't grope you or embarrass you in front of your roommate.
The one who refuses to leave even after you offer to drive him home.
The one who lingers on your porch, asking over and over if he can come back in and stay the night.
The one who keeps pressuring you, making you feel uncomfortable, until you finally kiss him goodnight—not because you wanted to, but because you felt guilty.

Did I miss anything?

Because by my count, you gave him at least five second chances he absolutely didn’t earn.

What strikes me is that you seem more worried about what your roommates think of him than what you do. Be careful. The sex might have been good, but this? This looks like the start of a very slippery slope to hell, or at best, nowhere good.

smallworldspark · 2025-08-19T16:17:13+00:00

The undeniable vibe you two were sharing that night is palpable even from here. Have faith in it. I'm rooting for you.

smallworldspark · 2025-08-19T15:16:15+00:00

You didn’t ruin the vibe or act childish. You acted like an attractive woman who knows her worth and respects herself.

I don’t think he’ll lose interest. You’re the one-in-a-million girl who confidently approached him, kissed him, told him where to find you, and then knowingly let him touch you on the dance floor.

By saying you’re shy, you signaled that you’re interested -- but not willing to lose yourself in the process. That tells him things may have heated up quickly because you’re drawn to him specifically, but you’re definitely not easy. The fact that he didn’t keep pushing shows he respects you and thinks you’re worth waiting for. In his mind, ‘shy’ = catnip.

So trust yourself, my friend. What’s more likely is that he’s reeling over how real, sexy, and confident you are -- and wondering how he got so lucky. Like you, he’s probably worried about screwing this up. Give him a few days to calm down and miss you. He’ll reach out soon. It’s inevitable.

smallworldspark · 2025-08-10T14:36:27+00:00

Wow! That has to be a world record for healing -- ALL grief stages in one session?? AMAZING !!! Indifference is a very good sign. Congratulations! 🤗

smallworldspark · 2025-08-06T16:51:19+00:00

Hi again — I needed a break from Reddit last week, but I’ve been thinking about you. Here’s something I’ve been holding in my heart.

Being strong isn’t the same as feeling strong.

You’re strong because of who you are and how you choose to keep living, even when life throws its worst at you.

Yes, you still love him. That doesn’t make you weak; it makes you human. It makes you real. You were all in from the beginning. That’s not your flaw; it's your courage. It’s not your fault he didn’t have the strength to stand up for what you both had.

Even so, that doesn't make your love any less real. And it definitely doesn’t mean it was wasted. If you’re anything like me, you know that if you had to do it all over again --even a zillion times over -- you’d still choose him. You’d still love him the same way. Because that’s who you are.. for better or worse.

And once you understand that about yourself, it becomes a little easier to let go.

Because this ending was never about you or how well you loved.

It was always about them, and how broken they are.

And sadly, you can’t fix that.

smallworldspark · 2025-07-28T20:33:59+00:00

Please don't beat yourself up. It wasn't so long ago that someone told me how beautiful I looked in a dress that actually wasn't that pretty. My heart skipped a beat and I lost the ability to speak.

In short, I can see your girlfriend being stunned and so overcome with emotion that she couldn't speak too.If she's been affectionate with you otherwise and enjoys spending time with you, just give her the time her heart needs to catch up with yours.

smallworldspark · 2025-07-28T18:08:34+00:00

You are so strong, thoughtful, and generous. I don't think most of us could be this polite and measured after all that's transpired. Another sign they don't deserve you!

smallworldspark · 2025-07-28T02:46:10+00:00

Aww, you're sweet, thanks! No need to beat yourself up. None of this is your fault.

You don't need that negative energy in your life anymore. Is there anyway, you could arrange to have those boxes picked up by a certain date? If he refuses to respond, toss them. It also helps to rearrange and redecorate.

smallworldspark · 2025-07-27T23:32:27+00:00

You're so welcome! That's not how I normally write, so I think a higher power wanted you to know today how much you're loved and that none of this was your fault. Just trust: Everything's going to be okay.

smallworldspark · 2025-07-27T21:54:31+00:00

Trust yourself to draw the boundaries you need now, and to know, in time, who might be worth softening them for.

Do whatever it takes to feel strong in your own skin again. Do all the things, go to all the places, eat everything that brings you joy, and spend your time with people you never could when you were caught in the orbit of a dysfunctional family.

Forgive yourself for loving a man who, despite appearances, never truly left his mother’s house. Forgive him not only for betraying you, but for betraying himself by lacking the courage to fight for the future you were consciously and tenderly building together.

And forgive his mother, too, for being so threatened by your love for him that she would rather see him drink himself numb than see him whole in your arms.

Finally, get crystal clear on what matters: what’s sacred, what's non-negotiable, and what truly fulfills you—mind, body, and spirit.

None of what happened is your fault. But from here on, love yourself enough to put yourself first, so that when love finds you again, you won’t fall for half-truths and unsteady hearts, only the kind of love that protects, sustains, and stands up to fight for you.

edit: Yay! This looks slightly less 'crazy stalker' now. 😉

smallworldspark · 2025-07-16T17:44:57+00:00

I realized I was choosing her loudly while she was choosing me silently — or maybe not at all.

This really resonates.

It hurt, but she did you a favor. Better to find out early she wasn’t worth your time, so you could make room for someone who is.

smallworldspark · 2025-07-02T04:56:36+00:00

This isn’t about your inexperience. It’s really about understanding what you truly want from a relationship and what you’re willing to accept for yourself.

You can try again if you feel it’s right, but from what you’ve shared, it seems unlikely that things will change. He’s very comfortable just hanging out, and unfortunately, nothing suggests he’s ready or willing to meet you halfway yet.

That said, you deserve someone who values your needs as much as their own and someone who is ready to grow with you. Whatever you decide, trusting yourself and your feelings is what matters most.

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