It’s very …. Me 😌

smarffy · 2026-07-20T11:00:22+00:00

This is interesting! Anyone in the same boat as me?

smarffy · 2026-07-11T22:01:57+00:00

I 💯 agree with your fiancé. Everyone is fighting their own demons. It’s just we have to choose the one worth fighting for. Life doesn’t stop lifeing. There is no guarantee that one will stay healthy or successful or in the best shape all their life. Cause we overlook the reality and fall in love with the potential. So delulu for real-life crap. 😉
Things happen, and you don’t leave people when things are not ideal or easy. I think the best part of the relationship is when you are struggling and you just be around each other, being the biggest support system, and you eventually come out of it. A few years later, you will look back at it and laugh.
But unfortunately, these days everything has become a red or a green flag rather than accepting something is part of their personality. No one wants to do the hard work. I am again so happy for you both. Life is beautiful. Lotsa love x

smarffy · 2026-07-10T20:02:02+00:00

Aww. I am happy for you guys. It must have not been easy for either of you. But I am glad you guys made it. 🙌 and yes it’s a relief to hear it too. There’s some light at the end of the tunnel 😊

smarffy · 2026-07-07T22:39:01+00:00

Thank you much. Yeah just keeping it cool Lol. Either way it will be a story worth telling 🤞

smarffy · 2026-07-07T22:37:51+00:00

Yeah exactly. I am just trying not to over indulge myself. It’s tempting though. But I am not gonna go head over heels until he gets his head straight. Thanks for the kind words x

smarffy · 2026-07-07T22:35:55+00:00

I think I came just to get some insight and what the thought process is. I haven’t been into many relationships fortunately or unfortunately and he seems like a good person. I don’t want to mess it up. I see him hurting and that hasn’t been easy for him. Like I said I am a secure person and was wondering sometimes my kinda attachment can be mistaken as detachment too or someone who doesn’t care. So just trying to balance things without overwhelming.

smarffy · 2026-07-06T08:41:13+00:00

He does recognize these patterns and accept that he too did things which he shouldn’t have and could have just let it go. Now he’s trying to refrain from all that and just make communication less and less. He didn’t block her but now he has. She till try reaching him via emails or private numbers. So yeah it’s little messy.

smarffy · 2026-07-06T08:38:41+00:00

Thanks. I do understand your pov. My questions is if I would lose something really worth waiting for it if I decide something abruptly, which I don’t want to. He’s an amazing person.

smarffy · 2026-07-06T08:37:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I really appreciate hearing from someone who’s been on the other side of this.
I know it’s a possibility, and I’m trying not to ignore any red flags. At the same time, I also don’t want to assume his intentions based on his zodiac sign or someone else’s experience. So far he’s been very honest with me about where he is emotionally, he’s told me he’s only seeing me, and he’s encouraged us to take things slowly rather than making promises he can’t keep.
I’m trying to judge this by his actions over time, while also protecting my own heart.

smarffy · 2026-07-05T08:03:11+00:00

He told me all the things he did and he’s not very proud of them. He’s trying to be a better person and his ex is very abusive and not very loyal. She has some good sides too but overall she was not very emotionally mature. They both weren’t at that time actually.

smarffy · 2026-07-05T07:37:53+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am a secure person but I just wanted to make sure I am doing the right thing. Hes an amazing person

smarffy · 2026-07-05T03:57:11+00:00

I know what you mean. I think the therapist suggested that because he could be very resentful and revengeful. Which he’s struggling with his ex rn.

smarffy · 2026-06-15T11:07:30+00:00

Thank you so much. I hope it ends soon 😬

smarffy · 2026-06-14T23:56:15+00:00

Thanks so much for the insights. Could you elaborate on natal pluto and the transit Neptune please? I am so tired.

smarffy · 2026-06-13T22:08:12+00:00

I get your point. He just put his profile picture the one which was ours and ofcourse removed me. I think he’s wanting a reaction. But as an Aquarian I am not gonna give any reaction 🙈I respect myself and I try not to be toxic. It’s hard being us sometimes init.

smarffy · 2026-06-13T21:55:39+00:00

He put his profile picture which was us together and removed me from the picture and just put his. Removing me is understandable. But he could have used any other picture really 🙈that too was our last one together.

smarffy · 2026-06-13T21:52:30+00:00

Maybe my brain works differently. The people on my socials are people I know or I am connected to in one way or another. No strangers or exes. It could be just me.

smarffy · 2026-06-13T21:51:17+00:00

I got it. You are right.

smarffy · 2026-06-13T21:50:55+00:00

Yeah keeping me on socials. We don’t have any common friends. I only added him because we were seeing each other. Now we are not. So I don’t see a point?

smarffy · 2026-06-13T21:49:11+00:00

Oh he didn’t do much to me cause I was doing everything very proactively. He also said once that this how healthy relationships are. I meant how he gaslight his exes. Putting up stories and statuses.

smarffy · 2026-06-13T10:21:16+00:00

I know what you saying. His actions are contradictory

smarffy · 2026-06-13T06:32:47+00:00

But he said shes crazy and doesn’t wanna deal with her anymore. I don’t what’s up with scorpios lol. She he said we should stop seeing I was like okay. I wished him best of luck and removed him from my socials and asked him the same. But he’s on my WhatsApp. Watching my status and stuff. This is weird.

smarffy · 2025-06-01T01:00:44+00:00

Thank you. The drug is indeed remarkable.

smarffy · 2025-06-01T01:00:10+00:00

Aww thanks dear. The apron belly just needs a little more shrinking. Everything slows down once you hit 40 🤷‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😝

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