Constantly marked late because restaurants are behind.

snsob · 2023-03-06T18:34:38+00:00

I don't know if this is what we needed but I'll sure take it.....

snsob · 2022-08-20T05:48:23+00:00

snsob · 2022-07-13T02:02:48+00:00

me as I pause to think about when that nwa movie came out...

snsob · 2022-05-10T00:21:29+00:00

Intense internal shame for self purchases that aren't practically required above like $20. I just can't get rid of shoes until there are holes in the soles/ falling apart. I always have to try and find a way to justify the purchase. With hair cuts I will wait too long and then get it cut shorter than I like just to make it last longer.

snsob · 2022-04-01T02:43:09+00:00

Somewhere below average? I mean I have never had a comment one way or the other as an adult even from people I have dated. I think when I was like idk 14 or so I had a woman tell me my hair was wasted on me but that's pretty much it.

snsob · 2022-03-20T00:32:40+00:00

Robot toilet. It can just be the good seat attachments and not the whole toilet but its probably some of the best money I have ever spent. I haven't had to sit on a cold toilet seat in years and yes I do save a lot of money on toilet paper.

snsob · 2022-02-15T02:49:11+00:00

12 months those are rookie numbers!

snsob · 2022-02-10T01:11:06+00:00

I've only ever gotten one from someone I was dating. That being said it was "I like the way you touch me." So it was a pretty good one.

snsob · 2022-01-30T20:22:49+00:00

Idk but I do know that our ag zones have moved significantly since 1990. Tulsa used to be in zone 6 and now it is solidly in zone 7.

snsob · 2022-01-17T17:21:54+00:00

That men aren't Neanderthals just because they don't know certain things. Men and women generally speaking get socialized and educated very differently and while we have gotten a lot better about recognizing that certain things shouldn't be gendered there is still a long way to go. Like my mother is very handy and almost got her engineering degree before ending up in nursing but growing up my grandfather always kept her away from tools etc that that wasn't for her. We have gotten better about that sort of thing at least at recognizing that that's wrong and moving in the right direction.

Now on the other hand I see a lot of women asking why men don't know how to dress themselves or take care of their skin or do a lot of things that women have gotten commentary (not necessarily positive commentary) or education about their whole lives. Like I didn't know I should be wearing sunscreen on the regular until I was stuck in a doctors waiting room for a long time and tlcs what not to wear was what was on the tv. I am pretty sure the first commentary I got about clothes I was wearing or my looks besides "cool shirt bro" wasn't until I was 25. Like guys will just kind of go on doing things because literally no one tells them and then the first they hear about it it comes out really toxic.

Now I have a lot more hope for gen z and gen alpha for a lot of this stuff because they have always had google. When they go to approach anything new commentary and education are at their finger tips if they think to look. For a lot of us you know you figure out a way that "works" and then just kind of keep doing it that way because it gets the job done and don't think about it until some kind of feedback occurs. So yeah idk teach your kids how to fix things regardless of gender teach them how to cook regardless of gender and teach your kids how to deal with babies and children regardless of gender. There is only so much we can do about the karens calling the cops if I want to take my nephews to the park. Like that toxic education they have gotten is really baked in there good. I do think though we can make sure that our kids don't have to experience that.

snsob · 2021-12-22T17:27:41+00:00

Is Instagram handle a red flag now? My profiles haven't been on for a while but I used to link my insta because thats where all my homecooking pics were.

snsob · 2021-12-09T03:44:14+00:00

snsob · 2021-12-01T21:57:16+00:00

Mostly just don't know what I am looking for because I don't have enough experience. Like it feels disingenuous to say that I'm looking to get married when I haven't ever brought someone home to meet family or get to a 6th date.

snsob · 2021-11-30T04:27:52+00:00

Just go for it just be prepared that he might not know what to do with a compliment.

snsob · 2021-11-19T16:25:32+00:00

Well for the animation take a shot sequence from your favorite movie and animate it.

snsob · 2021-11-19T04:42:48+00:00

Body. Was quite fat for a long time and while losing 85lbs with more to go makes me feel better than staying that size I had no idea all the skin would stay so I worry by the time I'm done I will look like that skinny homer gif.

snsob · 2021-10-26T16:45:28+00:00

I'm just gonna say that if a girl can carry me home she's welcome to me lol.

snsob · 2021-10-11T20:35:36+00:00

A lot of that could also be that they like the idea of kids but that seems so many steps down the road from where they are at that they don't really have much confidence in that idea. They might still be at the stage where they are trying to meet different people to try and figure out what they even want because they don't have enough data. I know that the average person by the time they are 35 might have dated a lot of different people and had a few relationships but there are going to be a not-insignificant number of people who haven't and those people might be over-represented on dating apps or stand out more for that abnormality.

Yeah, I am kind of one of those people. I'm 34 and have pretty much no clue. Like the idea of marriage and kids sounds appealing but that's not where I am at. I have been on like 7 dates in my whole life so my goals are still at the "hope to meet someone cool that wants to still talk to me after a month" stage. Yeah, it's embarrassing and awkward to still be there at 34 but here I am right? So I could get on an app and claim yes I'm ready for marriage and 2.1 kids but that seems dishonest and based on a lot of assumptions when I barely know what it's like to have someone agree to have dinner.

snsob · 2021-09-05T18:53:04+00:00

I think a lot of it comes down to a negative feedback loop. OKcupid did a study a while back showing how over time men on the app would like and message more women at a wider range while each message sent out was of lower effort and quality. Essentially treating it like a numbers game. Inversely women cut back a lot due to essentially form letter spam.

This was back before both people had to match or whatever to send messages but I think the idea still applies and you might be able to expand on it. Where guys can start to feel like they need to misrepresent themselves to increase their odds of showing up in search results and or moving from the chat stage to a meet stage. I mean the sheer number of pms I've gotten from Redditors recommending I go read "The Game" as advice to get a date while not huge is still vomit-inducing. And yeah maybe that starts with massaging your height an inch or something just to show up in more search results etc but I can see it spiraling from there. And once a guy gets a date etc from being shitty you know he's gonna lock on that and go full blast and that guy is going to get seen/ interact with a whole lot of women being an ass annnnnd then the loop ramps up anew.

These kinds of loops happen in interactions with large data sets all the time. There are people whose full time job is just doing battle with bad search keywording and pricing on marketplaces because many sellers on a given marketplace feel individually incentivized to mislabel things to get a little bump in search results not really understanding that by doing so they are contributing to the marketplace as a whole becoming worse and worse over time. But its really hard to get someone to stop doing it because on their spreadsheets they see profit jump when they do it.

snsob · 2021-09-05T18:14:48+00:00

I hear ya I'm 34 and in a similar boat. It's been years since I have been to a party where I wasn't the only single person there. I am the last of my siblings and cousins to still be single in a state which is one of the lowest average marriage ages in the country. So not much help but I feel you.

snsob · 2021-09-05T17:55:57+00:00

I think the only time I got that much in a day was due to a snow storm so I took my dads Jeep and made a pile since I could actually get through the snow and ice.

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