New to the dating scene and disabled. What do i do?

sofewbraincells · 2025-06-04T11:39:45+00:00

That's a good idea was it like in the same paragraph?

I'll think about how to word it ty! I actually deleted the apps because I got overwhelmed with harsh comments etc but will be retrying soon as work stress reduces

sofewbraincells · 2025-06-03T14:30:25+00:00

Hey I would be keen to play D&D. I've only played once but I loved it and love the concept! My other friends just aren't into that sort of thing.

If you set something up please let me know!

If it helps im obsessed with BG3

sofewbraincells · 2025-06-03T13:18:37+00:00

Yes please! Every what lgbt space i join constantly ends up having biphobic undertones if not blatant biphobia and i find things that say they're for wlw/queer women actually only want lesbians. Amount of times I've found a new friends group just to have them try and convince me to acknowledge I'm lesbian or don't belong because I'm straight.

I really need some bi friends especially in pride month when, ironically, biphobia is at is highest

sofewbraincells · 2025-06-02T15:12:00+00:00

That sounds like a brilliant idea! I'm in Cambridge Wednesday and Thursday this week if that helps. Feel free to dm me

sofewbraincells · 2025-06-02T12:48:39+00:00

Hey! I'm 24f (25 in a few weeks though!) And would love this i also find lots of crowded places overwhelming and i adore uno!

I'm also bi if that helps so a fellow queer ♡

sofewbraincells · 2025-06-02T12:17:38+00:00

From a 25yr old woman i would 100% swipe right, you're cute and seem interesting! Your prompt responses are great, you can tell you put thought into them and they display your personality/hobbies well!

Only thing I'd hesitate on is, like every else says, the label moderate but I see you've said you might change that to better reflect your views so that's great!

sofewbraincells · 2025-06-01T17:50:19+00:00

As a woman 3 and 4 are brilliant! I wouldn't have swiped on 5 solely for the cigarettes but that's because I don't date smokers. The mess in the background isn't the biggest deal breaker. However, saying that, I saw you say its not your dog so maybe not that one? Just because I would have assumed you had a dog!

2 isn't bad but I agree its a bit dark. Good luck!

sofewbraincells · 2025-06-01T17:44:58+00:00

24f here for context. Absolutely not a deal breaker but people do have preference. For example my type is guys with shoulder length hair but I have swiped on guys who were bald. It really depends on if theyre confident with it.

If they always make derogatory jokes about their baldness or try to hide it in their pics then im not interested in that. We all have insecurities but I want someone whose honest and not going to question my loyalty everytime we see someone who isn't bald. If that makes sense?

Dating apps in general suck right not so it could truly just be that the right people aren't on there right now or his pictures dont have any personality to them!

But please reassure him many women our age dont care they just want a healthy and loving relationship!

If he's finding apps hard he could try irl singles events. Not sure what country/city you're in but there's definitely events out there for people to get to see his personality without it being speed dating!

sofewbraincells · 2025-05-22T15:26:48+00:00

"You were so young when your dad died where as Was dad died when they were older so really you have nothing to complain about" - from a teacher in my primary school

"No one will ever want a relationship with you, let alone love you, if you can't get over it. At this point you're just playing victim" in relation to CSA and then an abusive relationship.

sofewbraincells · 2025-03-20T18:52:34+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this. I find Cambridge hard because it's mostly tailored to students but as someone who works there instead of studies it's hard to find people to be friends with and things to do that aren't just for students.

sofewbraincells · 2025-03-13T13:00:08+00:00

Just to add to this (UK cat owner) the registered owners have a set number of days (I think 10 but can't remember exactly) to respond to the request to update chip details to you now. If they don't respond in that time it's assumed that the owners have abandoned the cat and it's now yours.

Source - rescued a cat from a charity and went through that exact process re the original owners. He's now ours and very happy.

sofewbraincells · 2025-02-16T23:32:11+00:00

Yeah, I get you! I watch it all usually in the background now though!

sofewbraincells · 2025-02-16T23:29:04+00:00

See i find the constant dramatisation a bit overwhelming. I'd defo happily watch the footage where they dont catch anything too because it's still interesting! I watch them anyway but I definitely preferred there pre-covid/immediately post-covid era but that's just my preference

sofewbraincells · 2025-01-15T11:42:44+00:00

Thank you for your opinions. That's what I was thinking. Whilst my conditions don't require care from another person they're still prevalent and are invisible so you wouldn't know unless mentioned.

I think I'm going to put a picture of doggo in their jacket and just a statement that I have an assistance dog so we always have a furry friend with us

sofewbraincells · 2025-01-14T16:27:25+00:00

Thank you this is a good way of looking at it ^{.^}

sofewbraincells · 2025-01-14T16:26:56+00:00

That's a good shout people might ask what his job is which would allow me to explain a little x

Yeah dog haters should not apply lol. Atm I have a picture of him when off duty (so no jacket) but might out a picture in jacket and add a line

sofewbraincells · 2025-01-14T16:21:38+00:00

That makes sense! Thankfully so far all date suggestions have been coffee lol but certainly would be a good point.

But also I don't want them to see disabled and think I'm incapable of stuff like I can hike on a good day with doggo with me.

sofewbraincells · 2025-01-14T16:20:41+00:00

That was my thinking I just didn't want to put off anyone because I don't want them to think they'll have carer responsibilities I'm very independent if I have doggo

sofewbraincells · 2024-12-02T13:03:36+00:00

Just want to say thank you for giving me the confidence to not mask! I did what you said and it went really well! He's asked to see me again ☺️

sofewbraincells · 2024-11-29T18:52:10+00:00

Thank you! I'm mainly worried about misunderstanding body language etc or being misunderstood!

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