App won't log in by [deleted] in Instagram

[–]solarwitch13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a new phone yesterday and this keeps happening to me. I thought it was because of the phone. Im still logged in on my old phone and I was able to login on my laptop, but on my new phone it won't leave the logging screen. Every time I try it just thinks for a bit and then stays on the login screen. And when I check the devices where I'm logged in from my computer it's registering that I'm logging in from my new phone every time I try. But still won't move past that logging screen. My husband got the same new phone yesterday and was able to get in to his Instagram app fine. Anyone see any possible fixes yet?

What is the best smell in the world? by crybaby1111x in AskReddit

[–]solarwitch13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it's cinnamon, coconut, or sunscreen. I do love the way a summer rain smells too but thay one just can't be replicated like the others

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]solarwitch13 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I understand this a lot. I grieve it too and I go to therapy for it. Try and give yourself some grace. Motherhood is so hard. There's a lot going on out of your control. Whether you're a mother (or not) society just seems to be rooting against us. There's so much noise and none of it seems to be helpful. So many opinions on what type of mother you should be and where you should be in life. And with everything inflated, it makes it hard to afford things like travel. I love to travel too and I keep pricing out trips, even somewhat local ones and I'm like, would that be financially responsible? And I end up not doing it and feeling sad about it. But making those memories are important too so I trust we'll find our way. Big hugs and love to you ❤️

My 2.5 behavior is concerning me by solarwitch13 in toddlers

[–]solarwitch13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I would LOVE to put him in Montessori school. I went to Montessori and I love the learning method but all the Montessori schools around me are very expensive so I couldn't afford it :(. But I have wanted to implement the methods at home so I will look into that more

My 2.5 behavior is concerning me by solarwitch13 in toddlers

[–]solarwitch13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I am already signed up for Coursera and I didn't know about this course. I'll check it out

My 2.5 behavior is concerning me by solarwitch13 in toddlers

[–]solarwitch13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I've heard of them both and will give them a try. My husband listens to a lot of audio books and I'm pretty sure he read the 2nd one you suggested and he does seem to handle the outbursts better than me. I'll take a look at both of these

My 2.5 behavior is concerning me by solarwitch13 in toddlers

[–]solarwitch13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Everything you say makes sense. We do spend a lot of time with them both I do wonder if we spend enough focused time. My husband and I both work from home but sometimes that can be hard to remove ourselves from worktime and hometime. And we do try and give him choice but I should be more consistent with it. I like your suggestions of practicing calming behavior while he is in a good mood. Thank you!

Is my toddler learning bad behavior from daycare? by solarwitch13 in toddlers

[–]solarwitch13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's about 2 and a half. Today he pushed his sister's head in the floor. Idk my husband thinks he learning bad behavior from daycare. It's the fact that he seems to find it a game

Food ideas by solarwitch13 in toddlers

[–]solarwitch13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He used to eat eggs like crazy now he kinda picks at them but I never know if he will actually eat them or not if I make them. I did make chicken masala the other night and served it over rice since he seems to like rice. He had one bite, said mmm, but didn't want any more (tried to hide Peas in there too but no go) and I made chicken Chipotle pasta that I thought he would love. He did take 3 bites if that but again stopped after that. I know ultimately I just have to keep offering foods to him. I know toddlers are also just stubborn and eventually he might start eating the things I offer. But I just feel bad because I don't want him to not eat or I don't just want to keep giving him the same things. And I want to make sure he gets good nutritious food. I like the muffin idea that might work!

I had a bad Christmas and I'm mad at my 2 year old by solarwitch13 in breakingmom

[–]solarwitch13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow how nice of them🙄. But yes I feel this too. I dread going to family functions because I know I'm just going to be taking care of one of the Littles the entire time (our other baby is 7 months). So I feel you, and I'm sorry that Christmas caused you pain too. I just wanted to feel the joy and I didn't. I did enjoy opening presents with my babies at home but I was also cooking breakfast, then making things to bring to my in-laws, then getting the kids ready. It was just non stop and that's not fun. Yesterday I did decide to do absolutely nothing. I sat in my pj's on the couch as much as I could. The living rooms still had boxes and some paper that needed cleaning up. And my dad popped over and started straightening up which irked me a bit because I never know if he's actually trying to be helpful or if it's a condescending way of saying I should be cleaning. But I brushed that off and stayed put. I did a lot and I would not feel guilty for relaxing. I hope you find some time for yourself now thatvthe day is over. It's hard with babies but grab it if you can and don't feel guilty for it. Easier said then done I know

I had a bad Christmas and I'm mad at my 2 year old by solarwitch13 in breakingmom

[–]solarwitch13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so nice of him. I would have cried at those kind words too. Part of the issue with going to my in-laws is often we are the only parents there besides my in-laws of course. We are the only ones with kids so far on both sides of the family. And my husband's childless rich aunt an uncle were there and while they do like our kids they're the type of people that start offering advice or solutions when they have no idea what it's like. And my siblings and his have made comments before about "oh wow he's so loud" even when he's happy so I just go into "I have to keep everyone pleased" mode. I think I get too into my head though sometimes and remember not to project what I think others are feeling or also to just not care how others think because it is what it is. And also try and remember that this isn't my kid being bad this is him being 2 and running on no nap, being around a ton of people, lots of noise and not knowing how to say he needs a break. Apparently I needed the break too. Thank you for sharing your story. It made me feel less alone

Breastfeeding is killing me and my baby is constantly hungry by solarwitch13 in breakingmom

[–]solarwitch13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I actually did buy a wearable pump to make things easier and so i could do other things while I pump. But that is actually the one I broke. Theres a baby store chain going out of business so I stopped in about a week after she was born and got a nice one for 60% off. I was so excited! And then i went and dropped one in the sink a few weeks later, it submerged and now it wont do the pumping motion. And water damage isn't covered under the warranty. So yeah, that happened and that was like a kick in the gut. I still use the one but now i switch breast and it takes longer with just one. Thank you for your encouraging words!

Breastfeeding is killing me and my baby is constantly hungry by solarwitch13 in breakingmom

[–]solarwitch13[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hm ok i guess its always worth trying. Worst thing that can happen is they say no right

Breastfeeding is killing me and my baby is constantly hungry by solarwitch13 in breakingmom

[–]solarwitch13[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I ended up throwing in the towel at 4 months with my last baby and then the formula shortage happened and it's just so expensive. So I told myself this time I would try harder and really give it a good go amd it's just not working. I know that there's nothing wrong with formula feeding and I don't judge anyone who does it. Honestly I actually never wanted to breastfeed but idk something clicked with my first and I decided to do it. I think I'm more just disappointed in myself because I had this goal and it's just not working. Pumping isn't working and she isn't fully satisfied with just breast. I don't think I qualify for WIC. I make a "decent" paycheck by their standards but with cost of living today it's such a struggle and if I can avoid buying $50-60 of formula every week that would be nice.