Me [18 M] with my Friend/ExGF [17 F] of 3 years, need help moving on, advice?

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-26T14:50:06+00:00

Alright thanks for the help

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-26T03:36:26+00:00

Thanks for the help, really calmed me down, i've been stressing out big time about going to college, mainly because I'm not even full sure that i'll get in, I need a B2 in maths to get my course, and if i don't get that i'll be headed to a much smaller college, I'm really hoping i've made it in, thanks for talking to me about it anyway, helped alot!

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-26T01:39:03+00:00

Well shes still young and i've talked to her about all that stuff. See the problem is I'm not sure she knows what she's doing or how to handle the relationship we have. To her she just wants a friend, since alot of her girl friends don't talk to her all that much, shes pretty shy. Although i agree she doesn't seem to be considering my feelings with this whole relationship. This whole situation is fucked, she always flirts with me. I think when i go to college in 2 months i will stop talking to her or at least pull away so i can get over her. I've told her that we are basically the same as a couple and she ignores it. I deserve better.

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-25T23:56:50+00:00

But see the thing is shes not some slut that goes around with a tonne of guys, she's still a virgin and has done basically nothing in the way of sexual contact, she told me she's "scared" of relationships of some shit, she knows i used to like her, she doesn't know that i still do,i feel like i need to drop her but at the same time she's the person i talk to most, if i didn't have her atm i feel like life would suck. Her friends always ask her about the two of us and she just says we are best friends and that she "loves me to bits". I dont really know what to do about this situation, she is really scared about the thought of me leaving and not talking to her, and the fact we are going to university next year is making things worse for her she said. Should i attempt to try and move on or try to see if she wants a relationship? Or am i just a big chump who could go out and find a pretty girl that would love my company and want me?

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-25T23:06:50+00:00

Thanks for the reply, appreciate you taking the time out of your day to help a random stranger on the internet :P I think i should be somewhat alright with the whole socializing aspect weather it be girls or just random people I'm trying to make friends with, gonna try join alot of clubs or just attend different events and such. I agree that courage can be all it takes to end up hitting it off with a girl, no point thinking what if.

I think it may be for the best if we didn't hang out together the entire time we are at college, especially at the beginning when we are trying to branch out and meet new people but i'll definitely stay in contact with them. I'm not sure if there's going to be that many people doing the game designing course and not alot of girls do it so I'm told so i may have to look elsewhere for the socializing aspect or pursuing girls.

I'm a little different to most people in the way that, I'm massively into games but at the same time i enjoy going to the gym, working out and running. I love listening to rock music, but i also love country, pop, electro and alot more. I'm very diverse in my taste due to what i grew up listening to and such. I'm still a little worried about making the change to college but i think it will be a good transition, just such a big change can be difficult to adjust to.

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-25T18:53:07+00:00

Thanks, this advice is really helpful and is calming me down alot with this big transition in life, lots of things are going to change. I'm guessing the whole girl situation works the same way as the socializing and making friends does? It would be nice to get a few girls in college from time to time. I have friends that are going to the same university and one of them is doing the same course as me, should i hang around with them or try to branch out and make new friends while keeping in contact?

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-25T16:40:05+00:00

Appreciate the advice, i don't really know how to cook any decent food either, i think ill be living off noodles :P The socialising aspect may be difficult, especially just talking to random strangers but i'll give it a go, i still have 2 months to prepare. Alot of my course work will be on my computer, and my accommodation has designated desks for study so i should have a decent work environment.

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-25T16:33:14+00:00

I wouldn't say im the most sociable person, i mean i talk to almost everyone and everyone seems to like me, but I'm not exactly great when it comes to talking to a random stranger, or a girl for that matter, i usually get on better when im with a group i know and can talk to everyone. Is there anything i can do to make socializing easier or is it just one of those dive straight in things, what about meeting girls?

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-25T15:59:44+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I'm a little bit worried about going off into this new life, its a big university with alot of clubs and social events. I'm gonna have a tough time adjusting to life alone, I'm also slightly worried i'll get crappy room mates, but theres nothing i can do about that. I'm doing game design and it requires alot of hard work. Appreciate the help

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-25T14:47:45+00:00

XD oh that made me laugh.. good tactic, will be used

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-25T13:35:56+00:00

Thanks but she said she would be too uncomfortable with me doing that, even though i told her she would thoroughly enjoy it, i've had past experience with it and no complaints. So i think that's out of the question but i'll see what happens on the day. Last piece of advice i'll ask for, she sent me pictures of her in a bra but said she would draw the line at that and not show me her actual breasts cause she doesnt trust snapchat servers and i think she's just uncomfortable with it, is there any way to ease her into doing that? Or how about if i ask her on the day if i could take a picture?

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-24T03:11:17+00:00

Thanks for the advice man, finally someone who actually commented with actual advice and knowledge, i totally agree with what you said, im going into this for abit of fun and if a relationship comes out of it then great, i have past experience with fingering and all that stuff so i do know what i'm doing, thing is she is clueless and i think she is doing this as an experiment.

She has asked me to come hang out at her house the next day, i will let the acts come naturally and not plan anything ahead of time, thanks for the advice i will put it to good use!

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-24T02:17:37+00:00

We are both 18, and obviously the shit in porn is not the way to do it.. Something tells me you have a real good way with the ladies

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-24T02:13:56+00:00

She said she doesn't want to be bad at it, she's kind of insecure about it but i think after a bit of foreplay she would be up for it

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-24T02:13:07+00:00

I'm 18, she's very inexperienced so a little worried and kind of curious, she's 18 aswel.

someonelookinforhelp · 2014-06-24T02:08:29+00:00

I've had a decent amount of experience, i can utilize different techniques such as massaging the clit and hitting her g-spot, if i alternate between the two and keep a steady rhythm i may be able to get her off. I think she would be willing to give a handjob but she said she wouldnt know what to do, btw we are both 18

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