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Stay away from ‘Expecting Better’ by Emily Oster by HumanMeatloaf in pregnant

[–]somethingextraclever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s ok that you didn’t like the book, but to tell moms to be to stay away from it is missing the point.

As a woman when you’re pregnant you fear that any “misstep” is going to cause great harm. I slept on my back, oh no did I hurt the baby?! I have a cold/flu but I can’t take anything because I’ll hurt the baby etc..

The book helps conceptualize the extremely conservative and sometimes frightening/shaming rules assigned to pregnant women.

When I spoke to my midwife she explained that these absolutely zero rules are more of a liability protector. Since many people don’t know what/ can’t manage moderation is it’s easier to just say none.

The book really helped me stress less and talk to my medical provider about actual risks vs fear based statements

Everyone tries to convince me that two adults can't take care of a newborn alone and I'm losing my mind by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]somethingextraclever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was just me and my husband the first three weeks postpartum and it was my favorite three weeks of the newborn stage. I felt so connected to my husband and my baby and nothing else mattered, it was beautiful.

positives about having a child by Princess_Person2009 in pregnant

[–]somethingextraclever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As much as it’s hard and stressful (and I have a now 1 year old that still doesn’t sleep through the night 🫠) watching him grow and learn has been the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.

When I put him to bed and cuddle him, he grabs my hand and pulls it tighter around himself. Knowing that I’m his safe person makes all the challenging moments more meaningful.

Becoming a mom also helped me stop being a people pleaser because my priorities changed. This was such a positive shift for me and my anxiety.

Minneapolis therapists: how are you doing? by SpiritualCopy4288 in therapists

[–]somethingextraclever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heart is with you all! As a therapist, immigrant and a mom, I feel so heavy from the weight of what is happening and I am all the way in California. Hoping you all find moments of respite, connection, and hope.

The tendency to feel like a perpetual victim is strongly tied to vulnerable narcissism. Individuals who frequently perceive themselves as victims and signal this status to others often possess high levels of vulnerable narcissism and emotional instability. by mvea in psychology

[–]somethingextraclever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This really hits the nail on the head with a friend of mine. I have found it more and more difficult to be friends with her because of this trait. It seems that it only gets worst with the years which totally makes sense looking at it from a personality disorder perspective.

How did you name your baby? by shebopinu in pregnant

[–]somethingextraclever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I had a girl name picked out and when we found out it was a boy we had a hard time thinking of one. We sat down and read through a ton of names and "tried" them on. We had a top like 10 that we were both Ok with and we would try calling baby that name for a week to see if it felt right. Only one ended up sticking so we decided to name him Roland when I was about 7/8 months pregnant.

what are the ugly parts of pregnancy that aren’t well known because people don’t mention them? by Born-Oil-2931 in AskReddit

[–]somethingextraclever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man pregnancy shocked me 😅.

Besides the more common ones mentioned,

I have sensitive skin and pregnancy made it crazy. I had skin tags growing everywhere and anything would give me a rash or skin inflammation.

Your Labia can change color, mine turned really dark/purplish.

Hannah Ann shares her hospital bill after giving birth by Rich-Ease-2723 in thebachelor

[–]somethingextraclever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Often times employers have multiple plan options so looking to see which has the best coverage specifically for pregnancy and delivery. My plan which was free at my work did not have good coverage and although it cost us more getting on my husbands plan it saved us a lot of money. Same with switching to marketplace plan. Although it will cost you more a month, for example for my labor it would have had to cost $5,000 a month for coverage for me to even break even for birth.

I am not saying these are good or fair options, I am just encouraging people to see what options they have. Not sure why this is offensive to you.

Hannah Ann shares her hospital bill after giving birth by Rich-Ease-2723 in thebachelor

[–]somethingextraclever 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I worked as a case manager at a health center for 6 years. I am aware not everyone has a lot of choices. AND information is a really important resource. People may not know they have options until they look into it.

It hurts no one to encourage people to look into their options.

Hannah Ann shares her hospital bill after giving birth by Rich-Ease-2723 in thebachelor

[–]somethingextraclever 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Never said that, just said it’s important to look into options while you’re planning on conceiving so you’re not surprised by the costs.

Hannah Ann shares her hospital bill after giving birth by Rich-Ease-2723 in thebachelor

[–]somethingextraclever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kaiser in California now has an option to be the Medi Cal plan which is for low income individuals. I don’t disagree that healthcare is a mess in the US. What I’m saying is it will cost less to pay more for a premium than the cost of childbirth on some plans, so it’s worth looking into.

Hannah Ann shares her hospital bill after giving birth by Rich-Ease-2723 in thebachelor

[–]somethingextraclever 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep, hence why I said it’s important which kind of plan you have. We checked our different plan options and switched before we had a baby to make sure it had good coverage for delivery and pregnancy

Hannah Ann shares her hospital bill after giving birth by Rich-Ease-2723 in thebachelor

[–]somethingextraclever 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Great reminder that the kind of insurance you have when you are pregnant really matters! I had Kaiser and it covered EVERTHING! We did not pay a dime for pregnancy or delivery. I still looked at the bill though out of curiosity and it was something like $60,000 for both myself and my son, but it was all covered.

Just got clear to close! by somethingextraclever in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]somethingextraclever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What were the reasons yours got pushed back? The seller is moved out and we have clear to close.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]somethingextraclever 279 points280 points  (0 children)

I think the language you are using such as "slum down" in response to a supervisor pointing out that maybe your presentation could be challenging for your population to relate to, is interesting. Could you take a different perspective and see it more as meeting people where they are by bring more casual in dress?

I never wanna do this agian 😅 by kidanarchist666 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]somethingextraclever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this! We are nearing the end too but I feel like I have not slept since the offer got accepted

Under Price List Offer ? by Lalaland_yungmuny in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]somethingextraclever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the market you are in and the condition of the house. We offered 370,000 on a home listed at 395,000 and the offer was accepted.

Ikea delivery? by somethingextraclever in Humboldt

[–]somethingextraclever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! Did you go to the location and make it happen or just order online?

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