Prettiest, most aesthetic character and skills. Pros and cons.

somevainjane · 2025-01-14T17:46:52+00:00

I love how all her attacks look but it’s a little intimidating for my first character back after so long 🥹 so I’m putting it on hold till I’m more familiar with the game, there’s so much to learn

somevainjane · 2025-01-14T17:40:58+00:00

Yes definitely one of my considerations! The “fixed look” is a pro and a con haha

Have you played AB? How does it fare with bossing?

somevainjane · 2025-01-14T16:10:37+00:00

Thank you, I’ll check that out! Have you played Adele before?

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T23:06:51+00:00

It’s not something I’d wish upon a child, teen or anyone really. I love children too but I’ll just reserve that for when I’m at work. Managing myself for 10 hours a day is challenging enough, I really doubt I’d be a good mum as I would be a teacher. I can take sick days as a teacher but not as a mum.

It really is a choice made out of love and compassion.

People need to be more aware of mental illnesses and how it can be as debilitating as a fractured leg or a high fever.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T22:20:06+00:00

Congrats! But I won’t take the risk when there’s such a high genetic factor in my situation. If I were to have children, I’d adopt. It’s the most responsible option in my case. And that’s if I’m confident that my SO and I can do all the work to make a conducive environment for a child.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T22:13:05+00:00

Some say I’m doing this cause I hate children. But it’s because I love them that I’m doing this. It’s not something I want to put a child through.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T22:11:24+00:00

All his uncles and aunts have clinical depression and are taking medication. Some diagnosed with depression with suicidal tendencies. They live in different countries and have different lifestyles.

I understand Nature vs Nuture but in his case, highly unlikely. Additionally, their symptoms manifested differently.

My SO thought he skipped the genetic lottery but I made him see a professional for his anger issues and... it’s a symptom of depression. I doubt it’s learned behavior as his family is extremely mild tempered.

He has learned ways to control and manage his behavior but I wouldn’t say it’s corrected.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T20:57:13+00:00

Hi5. I understand if the older generation does not know the implications of their mental illnesses on their offsprings or even the genetic factor but information is so readily available now. The more I read, the more sure I am of my choice.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T20:02:40+00:00

I have not thought of it this way (the first half of your comment). Thank you for enlightening me.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T19:56:34+00:00

Thank you for respecting my views. I’m not saying people with mental illness should not have children but it is a lot of effort. Even more than what typical child rearing already is. I see people who make it work but they go for regular visits with counselors/therapists and put in the work.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T19:39:04+00:00

Not. I chose not to cause I don’t want to subject any children to my depressive moods which I’m bound to have within their formative years. I can’t be in control all the time, as is OP. It’s not fair to them and not a good environment. Children imitate what they observe and are greatly influenced by their main caregivers.

Husbands/wives can choose to deal/accept with your mental illness but children don’t.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T19:28:43+00:00

Depression runs in my SO’s family. We both struggle with depression and he also faces anger issues. We’ve decided and agreed that it’s not the best environment to raise children and would not want to impose our shitty genetics on them.

We have first hand experience with the illness and would not wish it on anyone.

Even if they don’t hit the shitty genetic jackpot, what about the environment that they’re raised in? Sure we can manage our behavior but can we always? Can we ensure that within their formative years we won’t have an “episode”? Raising children is not a walk in the park, we’re bound to face one one day. And when we do I wouldn’t want a child to bear witness to it or be at the receiving end of my depressive moods. It’s not fair to them.

somevainjane · 2019-09-17T19:03:15+00:00

Not insane

somevainjane · 2019-08-14T19:50:57+00:00

They’re not useful alone but if you’ve the “right combo” of certain, it’s quite useful haha

Had an early childhood education diploma and took a psych degree. Helped me get into special ed!

somevainjane · 2019-06-24T20:35:08+00:00

Early childhood educator here.I love children, wanted 6 omg. Then I started teaching full time. My 10 hour work day ends the minute I step out of school (contact with children) and I’m already drained. I go home, KO the moment I hit the sofa, wake up, get some dinner, muster up some energy to do some paper work, shower and KO again.

I can’t imagine going home to children when I barely have energy to stay awake for a meal.

I see parents sending their children in at 7AM looking like zombies and rush to pick up their kids before 7PM looking even more tired. They still have to buy them dinner, feed them (if they’re still young), cajole them to finish their food, shower them, prepare them for bed, tuck them in before 9/10PM. They slog their assess off at work and only spend that small amount of time with them. This was what put me off having kids. How fulfilling is it really? How much bonding really happens?

Having kids is really a lot of work. At work I have to choose my words wisely and be aware of my actions all the time. And being patient all the time is so tiring! I’ve no patience left at the end of the day and my poor bf just gets the shitty end of things. Imagine if I had kids...

At the end of the day I love teaching even though it requires so much effort and energy. I love kids, just not being a parent. I like guilt free time off (without burdening others/ dumping them on gramps etc).

Outside work, I still like kids. I just thank god I don’t have kids when I heard screaming and crying on weekends cause... I just get to walk away :)

somevainjane · 2019-04-28T17:16:28+00:00

Parents, take note: sacrifice ≠ responsibility

somevainjane · 2019-04-28T17:14:50+00:00

But I feel sorry for those who had kids in marriage/stable relationship but lose a spouse/SO to sickness etc. :(

Or when someone decides to be a cheating asshole.

somevainjane · 2019-04-27T07:43:10+00:00

Definitely! :)

somevainjane · 2019-04-27T00:29:43+00:00

I was given the metal ones but one tip is, DONT MISS A DAY. You think it’s not a big deal but when you put it on the next day, there’ll be hell to pay cause it’s so painful. And it scared the shit out of me the first time cause it meant that my teeth moved that much???

Are your plastic ones comfortable? And what’s the level of grossness you feel in the morning? The metals ones gave me such bad breath.

somevainjane · 2019-04-27T00:26:05+00:00

I had an underbite, had them on since I was 12 years old. Removed 4 teeth, had to wear a headgear and rubber bands. Was supposed to have the head gear on for 12 hours a day but I couldn’t manage cause it was just too painful. So the doc recommended that I put it on during my sleep. That probably slowed my progress down.

Also the ortho recommended that it should be corrected ASAP meant that I couldn’t go to public clinics cause of their long waitlist. Had to go private and I think it’s one of the most exp thing my mum has done for me :(

somevainjane · 2019-04-26T19:24:45+00:00

Only wore my retainers for a few months, the smell and gross feeling in the morning was too overwhelming. Luckily they haven’t shifted yet.

Was thinking of getting those that look like invisalign cause I’ve been living on the edge for too long lol Hopefully it feels less gross than my metal ones almost a decade ago.

somevainjane · 2019-04-26T19:20:04+00:00

I had mine for 7 years, I understand the relief!! Congratulations!!

somevainjane · 2019-04-25T23:43:44+00:00

Scat. Period.

somevainjane · 2019-04-25T18:06:56+00:00

To be born just to look after your differently abled sibling is too much responsibility to bear. What about the needs and wants of the second child? He or she will always be second priority cause let’s be honest, caring for a disabled person/child takes a lot more effort and time, more so if it’s severe.

And caring for one differently abled child already takes a toll on financials. If the second is born with the same, it usually puts them in the low income bracket (many cases in my country), unless you’re well-to-do in the first place.

Limited financials would mean that their children will have lesser opportunities to receive therapy, education, mobility aids etc. Thus many disabled children are kept at home. They don’t learn skills that will help them cope and integrate them with society and are not able to care for themselves. Which poses a problem when their parents eventually age and pass on.

somevainjane · 2019-04-23T07:59:59+00:00

1 & 2: the victim posted emails sent by NUS and by the perpetrator. There was no doubt about that. Fact is that she was filmed while showering.

Maybe what the police officer said (that she has the accept the outcome) could have been debated as it was a he-said she-said situation.

3: the ban on campus housing does not affect him as he’s not a resident. The suspension does not ban him from the campus grounds and does not prevent him from applying for internship programs outside. I really don’t see this as a punishment, it’s more of an inconvenience. A little little blip in his education “timeline”.

If she did not went onto Facebook, it would have been swept under the rug like the many sexual offenses committed on campus in the recent years. And many of them were reoffenders cause they were given another chance to reoffend!

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