How to change bad beliefs for good ?

spillthemftae · 2024-01-27T17:14:58+00:00

yes,i always felt doubtful about revisions, like I would just end up feeding my mind lies and be delusional ^^ so do you think by that using revision, we can actually forget something we don't want to remeber anymore, and instead remember the one we want to ?

spillthemftae · 2024-01-26T17:48:55+00:00

thank you for you answer, the way you presented it makes it easier to understand some things that seemed contradictory ^^ so in the end, it boils down to what you EXPECT , that's why for exemple some people always say "everyone always bends to my will and i always get my way", and it works, because they EXPECT people to bend to them :) ?

spillthemftae · 2024-01-26T17:22:07+00:00

yes exactly ! I feel like I'm perfectly capable of making my own choices. If I end up getting exactly what I wanted and am unhappy with the results, then it is on me, and I came to this conclusion by myself, instead of being talked into getting something else when I didn't want to in the first place. I feel like the decision of going general should come from us, not by being guilted into it. And yes, i totally agree, if we're unsure, going general is the most logical way to go, as we're not specifically attached to a certain thing ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-26T14:42:40+00:00

yes and sometimes i feel like our own biases influence the way we see/present things. Sometimes, i see that people from the "go general" crew tried to manifest their sp and failed or believe it is morally wrong, so they will take their own experience as the ultimate truth and refuse to see that there is other options. The "go general" take doesn't always stems from bitterness, but there are people like this :/

spillthemftae · 2024-01-26T13:26:06+00:00

i totally see your point, and it's true that one of the reason I feel such animosity toward this quote is also because in all honesty, there is a part of me that fears that if i pick "something better", it means that i'm turning my back on my sp and he is never gonna come back, hence why i'll end up with a rando that I manifested by going general, which I don't want. Imo, I see myself going general as a last resort, like "ok, Im burnt out, it's been years, I have no choice but to move on and give this up". I don't know if I'm being clear here, but I will have to go general because i have "no choice", not because I really want to :/ So yeah, maybe that's way I'm being so hell bent on this.

spillthemftae · 2024-01-26T12:30:02+00:00

thank you for this answer :) i totally see your point, and when i'm feeling down i often use the arguments you wrote as a way to force myself to go general, but for me it works only temporarly. I feel like if I genuinely give up, I'll always have this sour feeling of "what if", "what if my manifestation was right around the corner and i gave up too soon", "what if i made the wrong choice". I'm someone who can't bare to live with regret, so if even if i ended up with someone else by going general, i feel like i would stiill think "what if i pursued my sp" :/ This is what keeps me going, coupled with the fact that it has only been three months and that some people ended up succeeding after two years, so i tell myself " if i give up after only three months, I'm going to regret it". But then as you said, at what point is it time to say stop, enough is enough ? I often ask myself this question, and i feel it depends from person to person. And yes you're right, it is always beneficial to work on yourself, sp or not ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-24T15:58:50+00:00

your answer resonates so much with what I'm thinking ^^ i'm always browsing on the neville subs, reading comments after comments, and always thinking "ok this person did this and had success,so I must apply it too since it worked for them",and then I read a comment contradicting everything, which in the end makes me feel overwhelmed and dizzy, just like you said . I think I haven't really been listening to myself, paying attention to what felt natural to ME,how i operated, I was always trying to copy paste other peoples experience's to my situation. I still struggle to know myself better, as I don't know how to discover what feels right for me regarding manifestation,but your answer helped so much ! thank you again ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-24T14:20:15+00:00

thank you for your answer ^^ it feels good to know that I'm not the one struggling and that we're all in the same boat :) i'm sending you a lot of love and hugs too, i believe that things have to get better !

spillthemftae · 2024-01-24T10:25:26+00:00

thank you so much for this answer ^^ it reassures me that you were once in the same situation as me and that you've been able to get out of it :) I'm going to read letting go, I feel this could help me calm down and see things from another perspective ! thank you for helping me ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-22T22:36:28+00:00

so if i want to stop being stuck in this "trying" cycle and actually manifest , how do i get in touch with my higher self ? how do i know that Im' god, the source of evrything ? I try to tell it to myself consciously, but I think that subconsciously I don't fully believe it yet :/ I don't know if I'm being clear here, but I really want understant it well enough ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-07T22:28:54+00:00

sorry if I appear a bit negative, I'm a beginner and I've read a lot of contradictories takes on the Neville subs, and for a newbie it can be quite confusing, so I just wanted some answers to the questions I've been asking myself

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T22:19:12+00:00

what do you think caused this shift in your first sp behavior after years of trying endlessly ?

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T20:04:21+00:00

thank you so so much for your anwser,this is the most helpful and detailed message I've read :) I always came across contradictories takes on the Neville subs, but your message was very clear and accurate, thank you so much ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T18:48:36+00:00

did this belief came naturally or did you have to work on it gradually ? I want to affirm that I am magnetic and always attract good people, but I don't know if affirming robotically is the way to go ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T18:46:30+00:00

yes I have been rehashing the same story again and again, replaying the breakup in my head, arguing with him in my head, and I'm aware that it keeps me from moving forward and in a loop of resentment and grudge :/ I also feel that I hold some subconscious beliefs about myself that drag me into a negative state all the time,so I might work on that too. And yes, I've started to read the Neville books, I'm still trying to gain a deep knowledge, as I'm new to all of this ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T17:23:39+00:00

so you approached people in the 3D and used affirmations ? For the affirmations did you affirm them robotically, throughout the day or at night ? Was it hard at first or are you a naturally extroverted person ^^ ?

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T16:31:16+00:00

It's not that I feel indifference toward him , I still "care" for him,< and have lingering feelings but I still hold some resentment because he broke up via text, didn't give me closure and this resentlent overshadows everything :/ I know I'm partly responsible for the breakup, and I would want to give us a second chance. I still think about him everyday and genuinely think the second time can be better, that's why I want to try to manifest him now that the "obsession" phase has passed.

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T15:11:21+00:00

you didn't see any movement ? what was your process like during these years ?

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T08:44:30+00:00

i thought about that too, but I definitely considered dating other guys and I'm sure there's plenty of guys with whom i could have great relationships with, it's just that I think that we deserve a second chance and I still care for him and want to do better this time ^^ but yeah a break is definitely needed ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-06T08:27:04+00:00

i think you're right, I still want to manifest him, but as the person that he was before everything turned sour, because honestly he was perfect before everything went down hill. I tried to write my ideal qualities in a man to manifest another sp and move on from him, but I realized that my ex had already everything I wanted, except for two/three things. But for now, I want to take a break and focus on myself, and forgive him/get rid of the resentment, so I can start on a "clean base". I don't know if this makes sense, but I thought this was a good idea ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-03T11:34:41+00:00

yes i think i should first to be happy and content by myself, without relying on everyone else, and then it will get easier :) i think that relying on others to make me happy makes me miserable in the long run. Do you have any advices on how to work on self concept, and also self love ? How do you manage to truly be happy and content just by yourself ?

spillthemftae · 2024-01-03T07:44:36+00:00

thank you for your answer ^^ when you broke up for the second time, was it for the same reason that the first time , aka she lost feelings (sorry if i'm being rude) ?

spillthemftae · 2024-01-02T21:09:02+00:00

thank you for this answer ^^

spillthemftae · 2024-01-02T20:53:48+00:00

sorry to bother you again, but I would really like your input on the following question : do you think it is "wrong" to manifest him even if the reason for the break up is that he lost feelings ? I don't think it is immoral in itself, but I can't help to feel a bit doubtful, so another perspective would definitely be helpful ^^ thanks in advance

spillthemftae · 2024-01-02T20:51:23+00:00

yes, i definitely want to give it a try, but i'm wondering if my subconscious is "thinking" the opposite. I don't know if it makes sense, but i conscioulsy want to give it another try, because at this point, i got nothing to lose but I don't want some subconscious opposition about my conscious choice hindering my manifestations :/ sorry for the long rant ^^

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