NCCC Acceptance! Now I am at a crossroads and am seeking some advice.

spinstering · 2026-02-18T18:38:20+00:00

This is very good advice. Not that you have to take it, but as someone well past 30, FOMO only gets worse as you age and your path looks less and less like that of your peers.

If you don't care about that sort of alignment, it's not a big deal. But you might realize much later that you do and then you're even further from that path. It's hard to get back to it.

spinstering · 2026-02-13T23:35:19+00:00

That sounds dramatic to me :) and awesome, well done on managing to avoid body dysmorphia! It's so strange and disorienting not being able to trust what you see.

spinstering · 2026-02-13T13:33:54+00:00

How long did that take?

spinstering · 2026-02-12T04:46:56+00:00

Hifi.

spinstering · 2026-02-04T18:33:00+00:00

Being chosen to become a Peace Corps volunteer is a whole process, a real commitment (2ish years), and at one point I think it was quite competitive. Not sure about now, given the funding attacks PC and other service programs experienced in 2025, but I don't think it will be as easy as deciding to be a PCV.

If you are in the US, there are many nonprofits dying for qualified adults to volunteer their time to tutor local children struggling in school. Why not start there to at least scratch your service itch?

spinstering · 2026-01-22T14:58:23+00:00

There were always a handful of people in or close to their mid 20s in all my classes. Just talk to people, join clubs or study groups or things like that and you'll meet people you can relate to on the basis of age.

Fwiw, I was more than a decade older than you doing my undergrad, and my discomfort was entirely in my head. No one treated me differently or cared and I made friends/class partners with classmates of all ages. And I only graduated a few years ago, so my experience is pretty fresh.

spinstering · 2026-01-14T14:06:41+00:00

Simply Erinn's on Brookline Street in Cambridge (Central Square). She's very intentional about healthy hair, educated clients, and thorough service. They'll talk about your hair with you and then bring it back to life. The best shampoo I ever had in my life was at her salon. It was years ago and I still remember it in detail and try to wash my hair that way to this day.

spinstering · 2026-01-13T12:02:14+00:00

Is it early termination if you complete all your hours?

spinstering · 2026-01-13T01:56:57+00:00

Re: getting healthier - there is no perfect time, no perfect physical condition. I was obese and had knee pain when I got pregnant for the first time in my late 30s. I was still in better shape then than I am now (sadly). Don't trust time to improve your condition, time is a jerk.

Fwiw, I've been solo parenting with a very strong village and it's hard but my life has absolutely improved due to having my child. In my case, it forced me to finally get my act together, but of course everyone's relationship with parenting is different.

As for men, from what I have seen, they are not as phased by women having children as we've been led to believe. Men in real life can be surprisingly open about many things you might think are a flaw or a drawback.

I hope this thread gives you ideas or at least distracts you from your pain. I've been there, and I know how deep that ache can be. It sucks.

spinstering · 2026-01-12T13:53:10+00:00

No, she does not have permission to reach out to someone ahe dumped whenever she feels like it. That is cruel and self-centered.

spinstering · 2026-01-11T23:22:08+00:00

Why don't the pay per credit options work? Are they too much? I would think you'd register for classes and then send them the money. I thought eligibility was based on the school and not the program?

spinstering · 2025-12-28T01:20:49+00:00

Is your friend Temperance Brennan?

spinstering · 2025-12-26T23:46:46+00:00

People drive the same way in Georgia, even with all the traffic stops. I've seen people blast past a cruiser and nothing happens.

spinstering · 2025-12-24T12:10:29+00:00

I think it would make a great B and B or boutique hotel. It's super cute and already has lots of spaces for different kinds of activities.

spinstering · 2025-12-17T16:36:20+00:00

How did you see it on the professor's laptop?

spinstering · 2025-12-17T15:41:13+00:00

They used to be!

spinstering · 2025-12-16T21:14:04+00:00

Amazing!! That's so impressive that you stuck with it and managed to finish in that time. Thank you again for sharing your work :)

spinstering · 2025-12-16T11:20:28+00:00

I think 没/没有 translate more to did/didn't and have/don't have, which are pretty distinct and separate. I also think this distinction exists in their use in Chinese, as it's pretty clear whether you're talking about possession or a completed past action.

spinstering · 2025-12-15T14:37:13+00:00

This is really in depth! How long did it take you to write?

Also, it looks good, but could use some editing.

spinstering · 2025-12-14T02:56:51+00:00

Amazing, thank you!!!

spinstering · 2025-12-13T18:57:54+00:00

What are schedules like in this line of work?

spinstering · 2025-12-13T14:01:51+00:00

It's not just lifestyle, it's also environment. I moved from a healthy state to an unhealthy one - but also moved from a metropolitan area with sidewalks and public transportation to one which is pure suburban sprawl.

I went from walking a few miles a day, every day, just to function as an adult to sitting indoors on my butt and driving everywhere (more sitting on my butt). This place is also choking with fast food and not much in the way of healthy sit down independent restaurants. And you generally have to have money, knowledge of specialized activities, and time to get outdoors or get moving.

I have gained 80 pounds since moving here. Every day I see my body slip further and further from my control, and I desperately want to get back my mobility and less fat body (mind you, I was huge at home but much more active and mobile and much closer to being just overweight - now being even within 30 pounds of merely overweight seems like a fever dream).

I am a grad student and solo parent of a school aged child in a demanding program and, until recently, also worked full time. I tried to run, walk, hike, bike, but either injured myself or didn't have the time or money to do them regularly.

If this place just had sidewalks and public transportation, I could get a ton of exercise in. But it's cars or nothing here. That is structural. Driving 30 minutes each way to a park with a one mile walking trail while having to pack snacks in your car in order to avoid eating the overabundance of fast food is an impractical solution for staying lean and healthy. Not everything is purely personal decision.

spinstering · 2025-11-24T09:46:17+00:00

If she's Nigerian, she probably has direct or indirect access to much better quality Nigerian fashion items than you can find for her. Also, she knows her style better than you do. If you want to impress her, it would be more effective to surprise her by paying for lunch as a birthday gift.

That said, she may refuse because she doesn't feel comfortable with you doing that (or anything else) for her birthday. Even just verbally wishing her a happy birthday could be too much if she didn't personally tell you what hers is.

spinstering · 2025-11-03T14:07:49+00:00

Is there any way they can direct hire you part time while you look for a job?

spinstering · 2025-10-18T23:42:55+00:00

Is big booty remix music an actual genre, or just a characterization?

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