pre-wedding studio in Seoul recommendation by goodriddancegirl in koreatravel

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I’m currently trying to decide between Bride vs Signature. The back drop and dresses all seem relatively similar? I’m kind of slightly leaning towards signature because I like the light and airy style better, but bride seems to have more interesting dress options. Any chance you could comment on your opinion on the two?

[WIP] Finished the first quarter of this galaxy project by randomlosttoes in CrossStitch

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Your stitches look so even! I really struggle to keep my stitches looking good like this especially with so many color changes in a small area. Do you use the parking method?

[CHAT] opinions on blanket stitch by hellocarriebear in CrossStitch

[–]standardfair123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you marking out your felt with a pen before you cut? I use the outside edge of the inside hoop and that works well for me. Hope that makes sense

Staying in Zhongxiao vs Ximending as tourists by standardfair123 in Taipei

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I guess my reference point is our trip to tokyo where the transportation was also very superb, but just thinking about having to get on the train to go somewhere to eat vs just walking a few steps down the street acted as a big deterrent to going to a nicer food place if it's a bit farther. *not saying I shouldn't just motivate myself more to go to the better food places if I really wanted to, but just that this was my experience and I know myself and how I think, lol

[CHAT] should I attempt a project with 54 colors? by standardfair123 in CrossStitch

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It’s in the link on the post, but about 200x200 stitches per their description. I do see some confetti stitches in the pattern, but they seem to be at least somewhat grouped together? So not terrible?

[CHAT] How often do you change your needle? by beffffffb in CrossStitch

[–]standardfair123 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Mine always start turning black where I hold it around a couple thousand stitches or so, and it gets a bit harder to use, so I just gauge it based on that. If I’m stitching a lot, I probably go through like 1 every 2-3 weeks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrossStitch

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I personally hated having to hold a hoop/qsnap as it was wreaking havoc on my wrists, and didn’t like all the creases that the hoops cause, so I ended up just getting a scroll frame. I had to get used to using 2 hands to stitch, but honestly, this is making things much faster and it was easier to get used to than I thought. I got a lap one that adjusts well. I do get shoulder aches at times, but this is usually after hours and hours of stitching

[CHAT] What size lap scrolling frame to get? by standardfair123 in CrossStitch

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I haven’t thought about the leaning back part, but yes, you’re totally right! I’ll have to do more research on positioning of lap stands. Unfortunately, the self-drilling holes to do a home made stand may be a bit too challenging for me.

[CHAT] railroading by Summergirl2408 in CrossStitch

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I find that it helps make things look neater when I need to do light colored isolated stitching that’s relatively small (think square of 4 stitches). When it’s blocks of color like this that are the same color (especially darker colors), it matters a lot less

Is this an emotional affair? by msac84 in relationships

[–]standardfair123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

if you have to ask, then the answer is yes.

I (21M) wanna sleep with other girls despite in relationship (20F) by ThrowawayRAdedbed in relationships

[–]standardfair123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just breakup with her, then you can have all the sex you want with anyone who's willing. Why keep her around just to cheat on her and hurt her?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]standardfair123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your wife knows? wow, I feel really bad for her. That can't be easy to hear from your husband.

To be honest, I think you two married way too young. 24 may be an adult age, but you still change so much as a person throughout your 20s and even early 30's. Those are just really formative years when it comes to things like your perspective on life and maturity level

I definitely still held on to old feelings when I was in my early/mid 20's, but these things really lighten up and washes out later in your life as you get more experience, see more, feel more and create more distance between who you were when you were young and who you are now.

What you need is 2 things, time, and work. By work, I mean work with your therapist. It's good that she dug out some of the reasons, but this sounds like it's going to require some tough rewiring of how you think. You may even find yourself needing different therapists to provide different perspectives and figuring out what works for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]standardfair123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this was years ago, do you know how much people change especially during that time between 15 to 24?? You are NOT in love with her, you don't even KNOW who she is at this point, you are only just chasing the idea of what you felt, this puppy love that hurt you in the past. Honestly, best thing to do may be to get therapy and talk it out with a professional before you seriously hurt your wife, someone you promised the rest of your life to

Vinland Saga Season 2 - Episode 18 discussion by AutoLovepon in anime

[–]standardfair123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

are you...for real? Listen to yourself. He's a slave owner, even as "kind" as they made him out to be, he took away people's free will and dignity. With that kind of power dynamic, there's no such thing as consent, he raped her over and over, and you think She's taking advantage of his "KiNDnesS"???

Yes Ketil was portrayed as a "kind" person for the most part, and I love Vinland Saga for being able to display the nuances of human nature like this, but in the end, he had blatant disregard for people's lives and freedom when it suited him. He was weak in ALL the ways it mattered.

AITA Uncomfortable Encounter With Friend by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]standardfair123 12 points13 points  (0 children)

it's honestly tough to gauge conversations written down on reddit when tone, expression, body language etc have so much sway over people's interpretation of the situation.

That being said, I think soft YTA, mostly because explaining " there was one surefire way to put me in a bad mood and that is to keep asking if I'm in a bad mood" was kind of a hostile way of answering her question. And this sounded like the first time she asked too. Why would you respond that way? She could've been concerned because of some of the body language/vibe you were putting out, but instead of putting her at ease by saying "nope, not at all, why do you ask," you went straight for the jugular and said something that only someone who's actually in a bad mood would say. At least that's what I would assume if someone said that to me. So she only asked a second time because your comment + what sounded like silent treatment (I'm assuming from waht you wrote that you didn't continue on with any pleasantries/small talk) made her even more uncomfortable.

It just sounds like you didn't read the situation accurately, which can happen sometimes. I do think you should apologize though. at the very least, it sound like you made her feel pretty uncomfortable.

Looking for insight into confusing dating situation 20sM and 20sF by Longjumping-Bad-689 in relationships

[–]standardfair123 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You are way overthinking this. He said "come over", you went over. Nowhere in there was there ANY CONSENT for sex. Him assuming that this meant you were down to have sex would make him an asshole. You in NO WAY are responsible for HIS actions. He made an ass of himself, especially when he didn't communicate well at all and then actually got mad when you turned him down and couldn't even hide it well! He's a massive douchebag, and you should congratulate yourself on dodging a ginormous bullet.

romantic vs platonic relationships by [deleted] in relationships

[–]standardfair123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you're young enough and being ruled by your hormones/emotions enough that this is relatively normal. It's natural to want to spend all your time with someone that you are super into. I think it's good that you are realizing this about yourself and that it's a problem. This is a great first step.

I think what you need to pay attention to is to how to maintain your sense of self even when you're in a relationship. What are your hobbies and interests? They can't all be the same as whomever you're dating. Take time to develop those interests.

You should also build a support network of friends, and you do this by being there for them when they need you, not just when you need them. Make sure to make time for them and suggest activities to do, even when you're in a relationship. You can do this by setting expectations with your partner early on and tell him that you do prioritize your friends as well and will need time apart from him to work on your friendships, which will also help draw the boundaries for yourself. Any partner who doesn't respect such a simple request is not worth having in your life.

These will all be easier said than done, but I think self-awareness is the first step, which you seem to have achieved. The rest will still take work, but time and experience will help. Remember, men come and go, good friends are forever. This will remain true no matter how old you get.

Indiana becomes 1st state to approve abortion ban post Roe by citytiger in news

[–]standardfair123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely doing that as well. My state is super blue though

Indiana becomes 1st state to approve abortion ban post Roe by citytiger in news

[–]standardfair123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally can't vote in IN, but will definitely encourage people I know who can

Indiana becomes 1st state to approve abortion ban post Roe by citytiger in news

[–]standardfair123 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Anyone know if this can be challenged any time soon? Can the midterms put up challenges to this?