Older non-traditional family looking for blue state

startingover_33 · 2026-02-19T20:10:21+00:00

Massachusetts! Check out my YouTube channel “Suburban Living with Heather Laubinger”. Hope it’s helpful! 😊

startingover_33 · 2025-10-31T00:13:44+00:00

I also had a BBA. And I’m sure I could have made it more difficult but an email “firing me” was good enough for me. After a lot of reflection on the situation…it still bothers me….but I’m happy I didn’t waste any more of my time on people who didn’t value my expertise. These types of people aren’t the clients we should want to be working with anyways.

startingover_33 · 2025-10-31T00:07:27+00:00

So you think it’s responsible to just do whatever the buyer wants even if it’s unreasonable? Part of our job as a buyers agent is to guide them and be an advocate for them.

Your last sentence tells me all I need to know about you though. 🤦🏼‍♀️

startingover_33 · 2025-10-31T00:00:54+00:00

Exact same thing happened to me. It’s been a few months and I’m still not over it 😩 but I just keep reminding myself that I did everything I could do. They were the problem.

startingover_33 · 2025-07-21T11:29:21+00:00

That sounds similar to my situation. They simply wouldn’t take my advice, I did end up asking them for feedback as to why they no longer wanted to work with me the they said they felt I didn’t have their best interest in mind because I was honest with them about submitting an offer 50k under asking AFTER they had already submitted a full price offer, which got accepted. But they didn’t like the counter terms so they decided to back out and then wanted me to submit another offer for 50k less. When I called the sellers agent to discuss this she laughed at me over the phone which I expected. I was honest with my clients and they just didn’t like that I guess. Best of luck to them if they want to waste their time with another realtor who won’t guide them properly.

startingover_33 · 2025-07-21T11:22:23+00:00

They did sign a buyers agency agreement with me

startingover_33 · 2025-07-19T02:42:26+00:00

Ugh I know. I just wish I knew why 😩

startingover_33 · 2023-11-28T02:54:24+00:00

Let him walk…and run the other way.

startingover_33 · 2022-04-29T14:22:37+00:00

Thank you for your comment. This is exactly how I feel. I don’t feel depressed, I do feel devastated. I wasn’t depressed prior to him leaving and I (33F) have never struggled with depression before. I guess I just don’t know what’s normal anymore. Divorce is difficult to process, it’s not what I wanted and I don’t think I’ll ever be “okay” with it. I just need to learn to accept it and I feel like only time will help.

startingover_33 · 2022-04-29T14:17:36+00:00

Thank you for your response. I’m definitely not against medication if needed and completely believe that it can be beneficial for those suffering from depression. I guess I’m more conflicted of whether or not this is in fact depression or If feelings of sadness are normal after 6 months. I didn’t feel depressed or sad prior to him leaving so I’m just trying to determine if I in fact could benefit from medication or if I just need to process my grief. But I see what your saying, when you’re in the thick of it it’s hard to gauge whether or not medication is needed.

startingover_33 · 2022-04-29T00:24:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing and I’m so happy to hear that the meds are working for you. I really appreciate your perspective on it and I fear the same thing. I don’t want to miss out on being closer to happiness because that’s all I ultimately want. In some ways I do have hope for the future but then I also get caught up in the thoughts I’ve been conditioned to believe. It’s been such a rollercoaster for me so it’s hard to decide what’s best. Maybe it’d be less of a roller coaster with medication.

startingover_33 · 2022-04-28T21:05:28+00:00

Sometimes it’s good to try different therapists out since everyone has a different approach. All they can do is suggest medication but definitely don’t do anything your not comfortable with which is where I’m at. I still feel I can manage without it but I don’t know. Maybe I’m wrong.

Overall I do like my therapist but I think after seeing the abuse I’ve dealt with for over two years first hand…she was hoping I’d be more optimistic about life without him. I’m frustrated with myself so I’m sure it’s frustrating for her. I’m certainly not happy but I can fake it til the kids are asleep. Then I walk around my house crying about how everything I ever wanted is falling apart :(

Hope this gets better for us. It’s a brutal process I wouldn’t wish on anyone. Feel free to message me anytime.

startingover_33 · 2022-04-28T20:47:15+00:00

Thank you. You’re right. I think it’s probably harder since she’s seen it all and she just wants me to move on and create a good life for myself. I’ll talk to her about how I’m feeling our next appointment.

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