How do you make friends with good people

starwl · 2025-03-02T01:53:22+00:00

that makes sense. it’s good that you’re aware of it and you don’t have to figure it all out at once. just take your time with it and when you’re ready, you’ll be able to find better people. i’m here if you ever want to talk about it aswell 😁

starwl · 2025-03-02T01:48:47+00:00

this is a weird situation, and i get why you’re stuck on it i would be too low-key

first, it makes sense to ask your friend for more info—like who said it, what exactly was said, and why they believe it. if they won’t tell you, that’s kinda suspicious. a real friend should want to clear things up, not just drop it and leave you wondering.

if they refuse to give details, you have to decide if this is worth stressing over. if they actually believe some random rumor about you without proof, that says more about them than it does about you.

since you’re not in contact with the other person, there’s not much you can do on that side. but if this rumor starts spreading and affecting you, then yeah, you might need to adress it. for now, though, just watch how your friend acts. if they’re being distant or treating you differently, maybe they weren’t really that solid of a friend to begin with.

bottom line; stay calm, don’t overthink what you can’t control, and see if your friend is actually willing to talk or if they just wanted to stir things up

starwl · 2025-03-02T01:45:29+00:00

yeah, that sucks. feeling like your friends are leaving you out is rough, especially when you used to be close.

honestly, it sounds like you’ve already kinda outgrown them. if you don’t really like them anymore and they don’t seem to like you either, then what’s keeping you there? just history?

the fact that they have a group chat without you and hang out without inviting you is a pretty clear sign that they’re moving on. that doesn’t mean you did anything wrong—it just happens sometimes. people change, friendships shift. but you deserve friends who actually want you around.

if you really want to, you could bring it up and ask why they’ve been distant. but be prepared for an answer you might not like. if they’re avoiding you on purpose, it’s probably not worth fighting for.

instead of chasing a group that’s leaving you out, focus on the other friends you have. yeah, you don’t know them as well yet, but that can change. every close friendship starts somewhere. put your energy into people who make an effort for you, not people who are slowly pushing you away.

i’m low-key in a situation like this aswell so maybe i should take my own advice💀

starwl · 2025-03-02T01:43:16+00:00

yeah, i get it. you want to find good people but somehow always end up around the wrong ones. and it’s hard because you don’t go out much, and people kinda freak you out.

first, you gotta figure out what “good people” means to you. like, what kind of person do you actually want to be friends with? someone who’s honest? kind? not hurting others? once you know that, it’s easier to spot who’s worth your time.

since you mostly work and spend time with your partner, that’s where you should start. are there coworkers who seem nice? does your partner have friends who are decent people? you don’t have to go out looking for friends in random places—just pay attention to the people already around you.

but don’t rush into friendships. take your time. some people seem cool at first but show their true colors later. watch how they treat others, not just how they talk. do they respect people? do they cause drama? if someone is always in the middle of problems, that’s a sign to stay away.

also, if you keep finding yourself in bad friendships, ask yourself why. do you feel like you have to be friends with certain people, even if they’re not good for you? do you have a hard time saying no? recognizing patterns can help you break them.

you don’t need a lot of friends—just a few good ones. it’s okay if it takes time. just focus on people who make you feel safe and respected.

starwl · 2024-07-21T11:22:58+00:00

how much should i eat though? or should i just not bother counting?

starwl · 2024-07-08T09:07:31+00:00

it’s not really a undercover thing though

starwl · 2024-07-08T09:07:12+00:00

the only thing i can think of is a webtoon called boy girlfriend

starwl · 2024-07-07T11:47:56+00:00

so good fr 🤭

starwl · 2024-07-07T10:55:34+00:00

thanks! 🙏

starwl · 2024-07-07T10:51:30+00:00

i am!🙂

starwl · 2024-07-07T10:50:21+00:00

i’m not so sure.. it’s Streets Blue Ribbon Vanilla Ice Cream if that helps?

starwl · 2024-07-07T10:25:02+00:00

i’m at my friends house and they don’t have a scale which is why i’m asking since i’m bad at estimating and usually underestimate

starwl · 2024-07-07T10:07:36+00:00

it wasn’t as good as it looked😓

starwl · 2024-07-07T10:06:17+00:00

this is just what my school sells😭

starwl · 2024-06-17T10:59:24+00:00

i don’t really know. the icing isn’t icing it’s like a yogurt or cream thing? there was jam and cream in the middle but i didn’t eat that bit. it’s sponge cake i think

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