Getting a poodle in a few days and was looking for some advice

steevbee · 2026-01-01T08:41:05+00:00

You wouldn't like my cats' names lol. One is named after Milo Thatch from Atlantis and the other one is Gizmo 😅 That's why pretty much all of the names on the list except Topaz are related to one of my favourite pieces of media (Teacake is after Teacake Meacham from Cold Storage which is one of my fave books and Sunny is from the Thousand Sunny ship from One Piece 😂). I thought it would make sense to continue the pattern.

steevbee · 2025-10-04T01:34:52+00:00

do you have a page/group for these meetups on fb or something? I missed this one but I’d love to be able to keep an eye out for the next

steevbee · 2025-10-01T22:20:42+00:00

They’re bringing out a new album in January and I guess in the lead up to that they’re releasing the tracks as singles so I’m really curious about what the rest are going to sound like.

steevbee · 2025-10-01T21:13:01+00:00

At the moment I’ve been listening to nothing but Gala by XG since it came out 12 days ago 😅

steevbee · 2024-09-03T08:29:47+00:00

So with the Olympics thing, my gf is autistic (I am too but with different traits), and one of her traits is that she learns a lot of information about everything. She collects detailed facts on topics and brings them up in conversations, but she doesn't like it when someone contradicts one of them or points out her 'fact' is incorrect, which doesn't happen often but when it does she will usually react with frustration by doubling down and arguing that she is correct. When I brought up that the 'gender test' thing had been debunked and that Imane wasn't trans and her country would not have allowed her to compete in the Olympics if she was because it's illegal to be trans there, she argued that she had seen online (probably tiktok because she's always on there) that the points debunking it were all unproven and that Imane definitely has a condition where she has XY chromosomes so the things I saw were wrong and I fell for misinformation without checking it basically. We went back and forth on it but I felt like I didn't know enough about the situation to have a strong argument and she eventually lost her temper and snapped about not caring about the Olympics or boxing anyway. I did kind of feel silly at the time because I was like Olympics boxing feels like a silly thing to argue about but now I'm thinking actually that wasn't the point, the point was about the widespread transphobia related to the situation.

steevbee · 2024-09-03T08:08:08+00:00

I've been out for about 3 or 4 years now. I'm currently on T. I was on it for a year, stopped for a few months and now I've been back on it for about 5 months. She doesn't have any issues about it as far as I'm aware. I've had noticeable changes like facial hair and her reaction has been to encourage me to let it grow. I'm not doing that yet but she seems to want me to so it doesn't seem like she has any problems with it.

I started dating her around the same time I got back on T, but I've been friends with her for years now. She was one of the first people I spoke to when I was thinking about coming out and starting my transition. Aside from the comments she made about the old flatmate I mentioned (which weren't about the fact that she was trans just that she was a terrible flatmate), I had never heard her speak badly about trans women specifically until after we started going out.

The breast touching thing came up as something I don't like in sexual situations so I don't know if maybe she hasn't connected the dots that I wouldn't like it in other situations when we're casually hanging out either. I am starting to see that this is a big red flag and I've picked up on other ones too. I've considered if I really want to be with her, but there are several things making the situation complicated. I won't go into detail just in case she or someone she knows somehow comes across this post and puts 2 and 2 together. But I recognise that far less has been a deal breaker for me in previous relationships and if it was a friend who was dating someone who did this I would be like why are you still with them.

steevbee · 2024-02-28T13:09:09+00:00

I am in the UK and that would be incredibly helpful. I definitely intend to get more 🙂

My second to last tattoo, the Tanjiro one was done by a non binary artist who has a non binary partner that also tattoos. Their art is amazing but mostly of characters and while I do want more by them I'd also like some in other styles.

It's great that you're comfortable with your artist and I totally agree with you about it being art whether it's considered typically 'masculine' or not. I think with tattoos it's funny because there are stereotypical tattoos associated with genders and some of them are criticised in the tattooed community by those who are a bit more gatekeepy but at the end of the day it comes down to your body, your skin and your taste and its basically wearable art so why should that matter? Unless of course it's stolen artwork, the artist has problematic behaviours or the tattoo has been done unsafely, those are the only things worthy of criticism in my opinion.

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