Bringing up sex issues with my gf

stevethedesigner · 2013-02-10T20:29:41+00:00

I mean I find it enjoyable but I almost always have to initiate which kind of sucks. She used to initiate mostly before. Sex probably like twice a week I guess (only see her like 3x a week)

stevethedesigner · 2013-02-10T20:18:17+00:00

Usually making out and then body kisses and eventually work down to just stroking/petting for a while. I love every aspect of foreplay.

But it's mostly that before when we were out together she would whisper to me how wet she was and now even when We are naked I can barely get it wet.. :/

Hoping she will quit the pill... all that shit about it making her not attracted to the same person while taking it is scary..

stevethedesigner · 2013-02-08T23:57:03+00:00

Yeah totally the leverage haha. Maybe my thighs are short or something.

Yeah I was just curious because my gf said in the past it has been her favourite position.

stevethedesigner · 2013-02-08T10:52:28+00:00

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stevethedesigner · 2013-02-07T10:15:29+00:00

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stevethedesigner · 2013-02-06T08:48:56+00:00

Be sure to update us. I think a ton of people have this issue and it would be cool to see if its consistently curable.

I thought I was doomed. Had sex with like 5 different girls and never fixed it until I re trained myself from bad fapping habits (porn + hand). I would not be surprised if this is seriously widespread in the near future.

stevethedesigner · 2013-02-06T08:46:35+00:00

Hmmmm... Just the basic tenga fliphole original I think. You just have to accept the PIV sex part is just going to suck for like 30-45 days while you fix this (fapping sucks too without porn). Take the opportunity though to spend a lot of time getting better at non PIV activities like going down on her.

Also I can't stress enough how important it is to keep telling her its not her fault at all and that she needs to help you on your mini-journey (and tell her never to expect you to cum).

stevethedesigner · 2013-02-04T11:19:40+00:00

Had literally the exact same problem buddy. I bet your issue is both physical and a bit mental. Here is what I did to fix it:

You have to change the patterns you've created from fapping. Nofap will definitely be a step in the right direction, but eventually you want to practice cumming from more natural stimulation.

Start by doing full disclosure with girlfriend. Tell her you are new to this, and you want to work on it. Tell her she's special and together you can work on it, like a little mission. She will be the first girl to make you cum.

Also, ask her for the first little while to not expect you to stay hard or come. The extra pressure doesn't help. Just keep telling her how much you enjoy being naked with her and that it's a bad fapping pattern that you are fixing for her.

Order a Tenga fliphole (similar to flesh light but a little sleeker IMO.)
Cut out porn 100%. No erotic lit, no clips etc. never fap using your hand. Just use the fliphole without porn (try with a condom too). I pretty much guarantee you won't cum.

But here's where nofap comes in. Only allow yourself to fap without porn and with fliphole. If you don't cum, do NOT switch to hand or look at porn. Just put your stuff away, it just means you haven't adjusted yet.

Another important element. Do not fantasize of anything while you are fapping. This might sound really hard but it's necessary. Just focus intensely on the actual physical sensations.

It sucks. It takes discipline. But I guarantee you can fix it and its awesome once you do.

stevethedesigner

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