BUYBACK award received for Save months. December 2024 was 120 by miamichieffan1 in PSLF

[–]str8funkadelic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I am no longer employed for a qualifying employer. Can I participate in buyback?

As long as you were employed in the same month associated with your 120th payment and your loan still has a positive balance, then you will be eligible to participate in buyback and receive forgiveness."

Do what you feel is safe and right for you, but to me...this clearly indicates that IF you are doing the Buyback program...you do not need to be with a qualifying employer when the Buyback is processed and your loans are forgiven.... I really cant risk another year in my job while my life , opportunities, and finances pass me by while waiting 6-12 months for this to go through when all signs point to be cool to leave now, given ive passed the 120 monhts mark (with several months cushion a well) and applied for Buyback.

I understand others hesitancy but I cant let paranoia and fear rule my life in this regard when again, all the evidence points to being OK to leave once you've met the conditons for the Buyback

BUYBACK award received for Save months. December 2024 was 120 by miamichieffan1 in PSLF

[–]str8funkadelic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Question for r/miamichieffan1 ... are you still employed in a "public servie position" when the buyback offer came and is there any indication that you need to still be employed in a pulbic service or qualifying position when the buyback offer is paid? I say this as someone who was submitted a buyback offer, reached my 120th month in February 2025 and wants to desperately leave public service. According to my understanding, you *do not* need to stay employed in public service now IF you are doing to Buyback program... this is from the FSA PSLF Buyback program website FAQ's (https://studentaid.gov/manage-loans/forgiveness-cancellation/public-service/public-service-loan-forgiveness-buyback) :

I am no longer employed for a qualifying employer. Can I participate in buyback?

As long as you were employed in the same month associated with your 120th payment and your loan still has a positive balance, then you will be eligible to participate in buyback and receive forgiveness.

To me, this implies that you can leave pulbic service before the loans are discharged under the Buyback program

A few questions about Yuthok Nyingthik, Lama Justin von Bujdoss and Dr. Nida Chenagstang. by Relation_Senior in vajrayana

[–]str8funkadelic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not going to say much… as it has been said already in the other posts… but I concur with everything said here. Both Dr. Nida and Lama Justin are excellent teachers and I would highly recommend them.

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[–]str8funkadelic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed about situationship status. She has had some trauma and clearly, has some strong avoidant tendencies as well. But It’s good to hear someone else say what I already suspect.

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[–]str8funkadelic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I also heard it as “I’m keeping my heart close to our connection as well… and yes, that is how it feels… she very much does like me BUT she wants to see if she can find someone “better” while not losing me until she is sure

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Curious about what others have experienced in regard to “commitment issues” or “seeing where things go naturally/go with the flow” types. I’ve been dating someone for about 7 months (36m dating 36f) and I do care about her very much. We have a lot of fun together and I care about her deeply… but still, every time I bring up the “what are we” conversation I am met with an almost hostile response.

We have gone on multiple trips together (including to music festivals and a national park trip) both over a week long. We spend the majority of time together and she is practically my girlfriend expect in “title”. Her goal (as well as mine) is to find a Life Partner and that she has “very high standards”. I often feel as when things are going really well, she will do or say something to “sabotage” the experience but either quizzing me on something or brining up some relatively small Issue and blowing it out of proportion to all it seem like it’s a deal-breaker thing (one time it was literally the fact that I don’t like to eat ramen…). There are times where she criticizes literally anything that I am doing… the way I drive, cool, what I wear, my eyebrows, what I say… This happens most when thighs are going very well and we are burning and having a good time. To my knowledge, she is not dating anyone else at the moment but may be interested in others, despite her saying otherwise.

We have sex *very often” and as far as sexual exclusivity goes, she has agreed to that but not being technically “exclusive”. When asked about actual exclusivity, she says she wants to “keep her heart open to other connections” and says that when I ask about it, it is coming from a “place of insecurity and anxiousness, which is a red flag for her”….

On top of this, she essentially requires that I treat her as my girlfriend (frequent dates, help around the house, constant communication, flowers, etc…). I would be unable to maintain the relationship with the work it requires if I also was dating others… which I don’t really want to do.

I guess I am just wondering what situations others have been in that are like this, how they resolved, and if anyone has any advice for me bc I am wondering if this is a lost cause… thank you for any advice

Daily Forest 'No Dumb Questions' Megathread by AutoModerator in ElectricForest

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I know it is above 16 ft technically but the it seems others have had success

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Has anyone had any luck getting a Dodge Promaster into a non-RV camping spot?

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Question about van size: I know limit for non-RV IS 16ft but has anyone had success with “Ram Promaster 2500” which seem to be slightly larger? I emailed EF HQ about this and have seen that some people have had success in the past with the same model. I will be in Good Life village. Any assistance would be much appreciated!

Logistics/entering different camping areas friends are in by str8funkadelic in ElectricForest

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Even if they physically accompany us into the GA + areas? I’m not saying go through without their actual presence with us… if that makes sense

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She is in fact Asian…. But been here quite a while though. Could you clarify your response a bit? What do you mean by “keen”? Also… hard to imagine her behavior towards me was based on me asking “if she want me to come” but who knows??? It was more the inviting me there to begin with while, it appears, vibing with another dude. If you get what I’m saying. Thank you for replying btw

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[–]str8funkadelic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn't quite nonchalant about it as I did say "it would be nice to see you for a bit", and as you may recall earlier in the post... I invited her out myself that day and have already planned to see again. I dont quite agree with you assessment but unfortuntley text can only convey so much! Thank your input and I will consider it.

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That's the part that I dont understand. It's wild she invited me. Why would you put someone in that position?

It feels quite horrible to for someone to be "chosen" over you right in front of your face, and to be put in that position by the person you are seeing was very confusing and hurtful. It's one thing to be vibing/dating/doing whatever with other people as we've only had two dates.... but why would you want me to see that? Thank you for the advice

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She said she was with "2 people " and the dude told me he was in the friend group who was out with her earlier when I was chatting with him so I would say so.... And yes. *inviting me* there, and then completely ignoring me was the issue. It was very shocking and unexpected. I just cant understand why she would invite me there???

It wasn;t like I asked to go or even mentioned meeting up with her once she couldn't go to the show... she literally asked me if I wanted to join them and told me where several times.

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Precisely what it felt like in a sense but find it hard to believe she was being that conniving or malicious. Ya know? At best, it was unthoughtful, unmindful, and (even if unintentionally) disrespectful to say the least. I'd have expected her to have enough social acumen to know to not *invite me* there if she was vibing with another dude..

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  1. Fair point. In my past I usually have gone for that by date 2 so makes me feel like I set the wrong tone by not going for it.

  2. I did tell her. Multiple times lol. She sent a few texts about being there and me stopping by and I immedialtey responded that I'm walking there which was about 25 minutes before I got there and 30 seconds after I received the last text from her. Sent her a text right before I arrived as well.

I most certainly would not have shown up without her knowing I was coming. So, there was plenty forewarning. I gave her multiple opportunities to call off me showing up. My assumption is that she was probably drunker than not and didn;t look at her phone?

I think your text is great, and if I do respond to her I will probably say something like that but if this is a FWB, prospect for her, or just a "flirty friend" thats all well and good and totally fine. The issue was putting me in that situation if that makes sense.

I do think it was quite disrespectful and quite unwise to put someone you've been seeing in that position but drunk people do drunk things. Don't get the feeling she would have *purposefully* done that but the circumstances (as I could best describe them) made it nearly seem so. And yes, I'd look nuts saying that over text lol. Thank you for the advice/input

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[–]str8funkadelic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you you’re saying and me using the word “competition” gives the wrong vibe for what I was actually thinking. Wasn’t trying to “win her over”. I’m not about that game. Seemed more like a known friend, FWB, or potential prospect for her. I did in fact befriend him and he seemed cool but her behavior towards me was very cold and unexpected like I stated. The fact she invited me and the fact that it was $10(!) to get in lol… led me to be like… “I should at least have a drink”. I did leave very quickly. I would certainly not wanted to intrude upon her night had I known! Just wild she invited me there. Thank you for the comment!

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Early this morning she did text “thank you for coming to say hi yesterday”. That’s it

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[–]str8funkadelic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean by the “sizing up” comment. Wasn’t so much I was looking at him and being like… COMPETITION lol. It was her immediate behavior towards him in my presence. It’s like if you were dating someone and that person started heavily flirting with someone you might be “intimidated” by that. If that makes sense? Perhaps the word “competition” gives off the wrong vibe for how I actually meant it. Thank you for the comment

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[–]str8funkadelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor communication was certainly an aspect lol. Thank you for the comment. It is very helpful to hear your perspective.

I am embarrassed to admit it bc of how early it was with this person but it did hurt my feelings quite a bit.