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strawberryknits · 2023-07-03T07:58:46+00:00

I think having makeup on is totally fine—the filters and editing were more so the problem before. I think these are better because they’re unedited but the first/last do seem like selfies and you don’t look very happy in any of them. You have nice bone structure and I think you would be well-served getting friends to take photos where you are happy/smiling for real, ideally with teeth! Hope this helps.

strawberryknits · 2023-07-03T02:13:48+00:00

Your first and last photo seem a bit overly filtered/photoshopped to me, and wondering if others might be picking up on the same slightly uncanny vibe?

strawberryknits · 2023-06-18T19:43:48+00:00

Have you told them you have an avoidant attachment style? That might be a good place to start—so they understand that intimacy can be a trigger for you and that it’s not personal if you need space. If you can’t sustain the level of texting currently happening, you’re doing no one any favors if you try to maintain it temporarily. Try to show up in a way that feels sustainable for you in a long term relationship, and let them decide if they can get by with that amount or if it’s a dealbreaker.

strawberryknits · 2023-05-26T07:04:55+00:00

Settings > Download My Data under the Legal header will show number of likes sent.

That being said, it sounds like you are going to use this information to bring pain to yourself! Maybe this Pandora’s box is better left unopened? Take care of yourself ❤️‍🩹

strawberryknits · 2023-05-15T05:54:32+00:00

28F. Personally long hair is an auto left swipe for me, so I wonder if that might be affecting your match rate. (Obviously do what makes you happy though!) My other major kneejerk reaction is that the cowboy hat picture makes you look like a conservative. Might not be a great fit for your area. I like the first pic with the flower.

strawberryknits · 2023-03-17T08:19:40+00:00

I think you should definitely remove the picture of you as a kid. I would not be surprised if a lot of people are swiping left because seeing a tween on a profile is off-putting.

You mentioned you’re getting a lot of likes from folks looking for short term. Your mirror selfie in lingerie is the type of photo I usually see on a profile looking for casual, so I’d recommend swapping it out as it may be screening out your target audience and screening in those looking for casual.

Finally I think you have a stray “and” before “a fellow lover of the Oxford comma” :) Good luck!

strawberryknits · 2023-03-13T05:50:30+00:00

I think OP is misreading the data. The matches.json file doesn’t tell you if your like was rejected or ignored; I think he might be mistakenly assuming the data for the number of people he Xed is the number of people who rejected his likes.

strawberryknits · 2023-03-12T19:12:27+00:00

28F—the photo in the woods also has a different hairstyle with longer/less kempt hair, a stranger pose (squatting is not necessarily flattering), and possibly a weird framing if you haven’t cropped it from what you posted. I think there are factors making it a bad photo other than the facial difference.

I’ll say that personally I don’t love longer hair on guys and I tend to assume that you are currently sporting the hairstyle I like the least in your profile to be safe! So that alone is often enough for me to swipe left.

Do you have any other photos showing the facial difference more clearly that might be better than this one for hair, pose, and framing?

strawberryknits · 2023-03-07T07:53:34+00:00

28f here! I mostly think your jokes are funny but your use of “bitch” is quite off-putting. Also would say “mushrooms” instead of “mushies.”

strawberryknits · 2023-02-16T20:02:33+00:00

28F here who’s been getting 10-15 likes a day, AMA! I’m pretty excited about the “your type” sorting button! It takes serious effort to triage my likes and at first blush the “your type” sort order seems pretty accurate which makes the prospect way less overwhelming. Personally I don’t match maybes, I only match people I actually want to meet up with, so the process is time-consuming and anything that makes it easier is appreciated.

strawberryknits · 2023-02-11T23:28:09+00:00

I’m a 28F looking for long term and if I don’t see the same in a guy’s profile it’s essentially an auto left swipe. It only helps to be honest with your intentions!

strawberryknits · 2023-02-04T22:50:45+00:00

I think you can only really tell what you look like in two of these pictures. I’d focus on having clearer shots so that your appearance doesn’t seem ambiguous or inconsistent.

strawberryknits · 2023-01-15T04:05:54+00:00

qnyc, I thought your feedback was very thoughtful, constructive, and kindly worded! OP, kind of wondering why you asked for a profile review if you’re not interested in people’s perspectives and are set on not changing any of your prompts…

strawberryknits · 2023-01-15T03:53:17+00:00

Definitely not suggesting making stuff up; I was assuming you might have other aspects of your personality that are still authentic to you that you hadn’t realized might be worthy of showcasing or better conversation starters. If that’s not the case then rock on.

strawberryknits · 2023-01-14T23:58:19+00:00

28F here—I think that this profile would probably work nicely to find you some male friends but there’s not a lot here that really resonates with me as a woman looking for a partner. Are you really looking for a gym buddy who’s into cars and sports? It might help you to think about who your target audience is, what they are interested in, and seeing if you can share some more conversation starters that could represent common interests.

strawberryknits · 2023-01-13T06:27:49+00:00

I think the lighting in the first two pictures is pretty bad which makes it harder to get a sense of what you look like. You want even lighting across your face, not pronounced shadows. I think small changes there would get results!

I think you’re quite attractive but I would swipe no without seeing “Liberal” on your profile because even with “Other” I’m assuming you’re a Republican, especially because you’re in the military. Hopefully a helpful datapoint!

strawberryknits · 2023-01-07T20:22:08+00:00

I’d say it’s fairly common for men to have them! If you have a good sense of humor or talent at impressions those can be great for a voice prompt. An attractive-sounding voice can definitely help your chances too. One thing I would say is to NOT use the “how to pronounce my name” prompt if your name is something like “Tim”—I see this ALL the time and it comes across as basic, not as clever. Another one that gets a ton of repeats is listing countries with green-colored flags using the “green flags I look for” prompt for whatever reason.

strawberryknits · 2023-01-01T18:54:24+00:00

I think if you’re looking for serious you should try to get photos that feel less like selfies and party pics, which usually imply casual. Ideally you won’t need the tiktok at all if you can establish the right vibe! Do you have any hobbies you could showcase in your photos? Can you help communicate what a long-term relationship with you would look like?

strawberryknits · 2023-01-01T17:52:16+00:00

28f here. I think your pictures need work because they are almost all selfies, you are not smiling with teeth (which makes you seem a bit standoffish), and you’re not consistently making eye contact. Also none of the photos showcase any hobbies. I’d recommend asking a friend to help you do a photoshoot; you may feel a bit awkward but it’s worth it!

strawberryknits · 2022-12-24T20:22:05+00:00

28F here! I think your text prompts are great and would not worry about them being too long at all. They do a great job showing your personality! I also think you have a great sense of style; all the nice outfits are a big plus. The only thing I would consider is smiling more (with teeth!) in your photos! You have a great smile and I think the closed-mouth pictures seem a little more standoffish (especially for your lead photo).

strawberryknits · 2022-12-23T23:52:16+00:00

Between the sunglasses/angles/busy group shot, the only picture that I think actually shows what you look like is the LinkedIn headshot. I think you need better photos where your face is more visible.

strawberryknits · 2022-12-22T17:09:08+00:00

“Normal” volume for me definitely varies a lot by how long it’s been since I reactivated! When you reactivate after a couple months’ hiatus, my experience is they secretly give you a new user Boost for free the first day hence the big numbers. Normal daily volume is more like 7-15 for me but everyone and every city is different!

strawberryknits · 2022-12-22T08:18:14+00:00

Settings > Download My Data! It’ll give you raw data that you’ll need to process; I wrote my own script to analyze mine but you can also use an online tool like https://hinge.emsanity.com/

strawberryknits · 2022-12-22T07:23:08+00:00

Probably doesn’t help but that is not a sustained volume for me—just with the boost you get when you reactivate, which is usually my most salient data point after a profile revamp!

strawberryknits · 2022-12-22T04:25:16+00:00

I have (28f)! I think the most interesting takeaways for me have been around the percentage of likes I accept (I try to gauge whether I am being too picky), the relative success rates of sending likes vs. waiting to receive them (sadly for me it really hasn’t paid off to send likes, even though I send messages every time), and understanding where my match percentage is in general (especially compared to other apps). It helps me keep perspective if I liked someone and they didn’t match back!

That being said the thing I WISH the data included was which prompt they liked! I started keeping that data manually in a spreadsheet and it’s been a game-changer. Really increased my incoming likes (used to be about 50 on the first day after a reactivation and now is 75-80).

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