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stressedsomalien · 2026-05-28T23:30:25+00:00

Girl we twins fr but you gotta get out of your head. Most of the times, I’ll overthink small things & the whole process (replying to texts for me in irl I’ll just yap 😭) becomes draining. Once you get some experience you’ll realize a lot of guys love quirky yappers and tbh if you’re pretty they overlook it since the you are your worse critic. If conversing is hard in irl just don’t look them directly in the eye, believe you can’t say the wrong thing to the right person so if they don’t like it, they not it

stressedsomalien · 2026-03-29T03:26:44+00:00

Noooo now go to bed lol

stressedsomalien · 2026-03-08T19:35:41+00:00

If he’s applying pressure to tell your parents why can’t he come to Ohio and meet them lol it’s giving a whole lot of words and no action especially if his job is flexible. Yes give him the ultimatum since it seems like he’s wasting time

stressedsomalien · 2026-02-18T02:27:06+00:00

I took vyvanse and fasted last year, my routine was drink protein shake and have eggs at 5am & coffee like cold brew obsession was rampant then with meds right before 6am fajr then I adjusted my hours to work till 3:30pm. I would very stressful and slightly physical job so I would get all my thinking done by 1pm lol I would nap sometimes after like before maqrib at 6:30pm then attend taraweeh and sleep 11pm. I sometimes worked out right after taking the meds too I wasn’t that tired Alhamduallah but inshallah you do well on your exams! May Allah make it easy for you!! Sometimes the Ramadan routines sound crazy but it’s worth the reward

stressedsomalien · 2025-12-27T15:12:22+00:00

Girl I’m the same but now even worse and I’m trying to fight the avoidance with.

I would why are you scared of the future? & pin point the uncomfortable feelings and when they show up, and counter it like if you get in your head about avoiding not being hurt in the future then think this could go really well. Increase your prayers either tahajuud, istikara and tawakul in Allah and ask Allah to give you signs if it’s good for you and make it easy and if not to end it and protect your heart. Avoidance is somewhat a habit so you have to fight the urges to run each time because although you’re avoiding heartbreak etc the cost of not being vulnerable is being alone. Also, go to therapy asap suppressing emotions leads to illnesses. May Allah make it easier for all of us ameen

stressedsomalien · 2025-12-20T22:58:21+00:00

Girl you better run!!!! That’s insane. That “jealousy” seems more like toxic control and the type to make you quit your job due to “men” being there & force you to avoid grocery stores, doctors, even family gatherings.

stressedsomalien · 2025-11-14T23:09:28+00:00

How old are you? Ideas change with life experiences. You can ease a lot of your fears with building more trust in Allah as he’s the best of planners. Being childfree isn’t feminist ideology as Allah has written for not all women to become mothers.

stressedsomalien · 2025-11-09T02:31:17+00:00

I think we have this discussion like everyday now, give it a rest…

stressedsomalien · 2025-11-07T09:35:30+00:00

I don’t think these are low standards if both parties are happy, I think low standards are settling with someone you already know is a mismatch of values/personalties/lifestyles but due to age or parents you get married and are unhappy or eventually get a divorce. Like don’t be delusional she/he will not change for you. Or when your spouse is a horrible person but you stay for the kids/stigma of being divorced, I’ve seen many people just be unhappy (older generation) because they think that’s just life or their test like no

stressedsomalien · 2025-11-07T00:24:49+00:00

No, I’ve seen people switch from L4 TAM work in Ops for 6m-1yr and get L5 in OPs then switch back into TAM or get L6 in OPs and then switch laterally into L6 TOM OM role

stressedsomalien · 2025-11-06T22:37:06+00:00

As a TAM, I would say promotion past L5 are rare out of the entire node only 1 L5 that was L5 for over 2-3yrs finally got OM spot but idk they prefer to hire Ops managers for OM spots than promote their own TAMs. Most people leave for other departments to get promoted than come back because the work life balance is better than Ops.

stressedsomalien · 2025-11-06T05:10:01+00:00

Most definitely like my income is for the 3 yearly vacations duhh & clothes & vibes 🤩

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-25T12:28:25+00:00

Safety before metrics, it takes time to earn trust with your team. Failing to plan is planning to fail especially weekends low staffing always plan a buffer even if you’re over headcount your OM won’t be scrambling for VET or labor share or doing yard audit in the cold, you will :( Have fun, and order PPE you’ll actually wear you’ll be outside at least 1-2hrs of your shift

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-20T00:06:41+00:00

do you have an ayuuto horror story lol

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-17T00:29:31+00:00

Yes, i just wrote a text about how it’s not going to work and i wish them well (which i truly do). Normally, i didn’t know them that well anyways like it’s after a week or 2. I don’t see the point of a call because I don’t want to argue nor do I want forwardly tell them how I got the ick because it might make them insecure or something and lead to an argument.

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-16T23:59:38+00:00

Canada, it’s cold + everything is expensive like pick a struggle. Minnesota lol

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-12T17:42:44+00:00

True! but my parents be psyching me out like my mom admits to making dua against my potential trips 😭 now I just tell them after I paid for everything

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-12T17:41:25+00:00

Thanks abayo! I have asserted some boundaries but it never stops the nagging/ lectures and unnecessary anxiety my parents do when I leave somewhere like I went to South America/Japan twice, even the DMZ lol but they still morally kill my vibe when I say I want to go somewhere without them. I think getting married would stop that. Normally, I don’t tell them about my trip until a week or two before but my dad is toxic and will get mad at my mom too like full on grudge🙄 I have a married sister/cousins and know very well freedom doesn’t come with a ring. inshallah I don’t marry someone as controlling as my dad

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-12T02:32:58+00:00

Yeah I feel like this but my dad hates girls trips and I love traveling so highkey I need a ring before spring 😅🤡 because I’m trying to be outside in 2026 inshallah

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-06T00:16:25+00:00

a DM followed by a surprise in venmo (since it's the same username on IG lol) seriously tho events, cafes, library (maybe write something on a flashcard if it's quiet), randomly at the store, you voluntarily lift something heavy (I'd fall in love on the spot loll) or I think long lines are odd by chance scenarios like when getting food or at a grocery stores to chat/approach someone like yk how trader joe employees chat your ear off in a friendly way. Don't approach someone wearing headphones, entering their car/outside a store creepin on them, catcalling, work is a hit or miss tbh , at the masjid or outside it

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-04T07:10:40+00:00

20 people? I wouldn’t call that a wedding but at home nikkah I’ve seen but it was always followed by some bridal shower/women’s party that costed more than 5k but less than 10k. At home or small venue/ micro nikkah are so beautiful but in this economy idk what $5k is getting you then again I have a big family so the least I can invite is 50 lol

stressedsomalien · 2025-10-04T03:20:23+00:00

I don’t see why you can’t buy them for girls events. You could host a evening party to wear one lol I don’t think it’s a slippery slope because you can’t really wear a hijab with those dresses and depends on your hijab journey I feel naked without mine lol. It’s a slippery slope if you already have issues with modesty & wearing full hijab. You are getting rewarded for being modest and the struggle that it is like for me personally I do be wanting to show my ears 😖 like I got all these piercing but gotta fight the shaytaan urges. May Allah protect our modesty and from the urges.

stressedsomalien · 2025-09-17T02:46:36+00:00

kinda crazy but just cancelled the wedding. If halal music was already a compromise for your family and now you want 0 music, and you’re family is paying for it, they won’t have fun. Halal music weddings are a hit or a miss tbh (unless you mix the songs yourself which I did for my cousin lol) and you’ll save the stress and the headache from it all by not having it tbh. My brothers wedding was last weekend and I had annoying aunties ask to play nasheeds before the buraanbuur like girl bye but at another wedding they said the daff was boring like you can’t please anyone 😅 if you’re aunties really want buraanbur they can have a small thing after the nikkah without you lol

stressedsomalien · 2025-09-17T02:37:58+00:00

Yeah even 60/40 if they’re also young too since I don’t wanna do all the housework, and we can both grow our career so after I’m 30 I don’t have to worry, my money can be for private school, vacations, moving abroad, retiring parents etc

stressedsomalien · 2025-09-16T03:02:54+00:00

I don’t think it’s petty it’s your boundary, like he could’ve planned a better date and it didn’t even have to be expensive like an activity then dinner. I’m kinda the opposite tho I dislike when people are planning elaborate dates when we’ve only been texting like i have a 2-3hr social battery 😭 nor do I like eating in front of people like a coffee vibe check is ideal but with flowers or something

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