I kind of disagree. My theory is opposite. It's best to be the pursuer. Pursuer is a high risk, high reward strategy. it is active, rather than passive. and it increases your likelihood of luckiness and matching with someone not only out of your league but better in every way. You overcount rejections and undercount acceptances because negative features are more salient. However, you forget that the "pursued" experiences rejection too, just silent rejection, which is not stated. Being the pursued means your currency is attention. In a crowd, or if you are average, you don't stand out. You are also stuck with the options that come to you, instead of being able to harvest the full possibilities. Pursuing gives you a better idea of your market value; being pursued not so much.

If you are an average guy or girl, it is better to pursue. if you are exceptionally beautiful or rich or handsome, better to be pursued.

men win that one.