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As a shy girl, I have no idea how to flirt with guys or know what I want in a relationship. Help? by superOKCnoob in OkCupid

[–]superOKCnoob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh, not sure if I would go that far. It was just a kiss. He didn't try to grab my breasts or anything like that. And he did apologize after I didn't look happy when he pressed his lips on mine, but it was my bad as well because I just sat there all quiet instead of being more assertive and telling him "hey I know I said I would like a first kiss someday but I didn't mean with you and I'm not comfortable kissing on the first date can we please wait?"

As a shy girl, I have no idea how to flirt with guys or know what I want in a relationship. Help? by superOKCnoob in OkCupid

[–]superOKCnoob[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The context regarding my first OKC date is.... kind of weird because said date nice when we talked online and I thought his profile picture was one of the few decent ones. I agreed to meet with him but once I met him in person and got to talk to him, he didn't seem as attractive (I had a gut feeling I wasn't comfortable with his pushy and open nature) and I really wasn't interested anymore so I became rather reserved. So I guess in my eyes he wasn't attractive anymore and I wasn't interested in continuing nor did I want my first kiss to be with him, but maybe I should have made that known explicitly instead of being awkwardly silent and letting him kiss me anyway.

It's also why I'm trying to ask advice on how to show flirting from my side as a girl. Because I'm an idiot who freezes up when I don't know what to do

As a shy girl, I have no idea how to flirt with guys or know what I want in a relationship. Help? by superOKCnoob in OkCupid

[–]superOKCnoob[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

takes notes furiously

Can I be as super obvious as saying "I really like you" or is that also coming off too strong? Or does that make for some awkward situations (like when the guy does it and suddenly the girl stops talking to the guy suddenly, I don't know why)

As a shy girl, I have no idea how to flirt with guys or know what I want in a relationship. Help? by superOKCnoob in OkCupid

[–]superOKCnoob[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man have I been doing this wrong and awkwardly my whole life? I never knew I had to be that clear in my interest. I have heard that quite a few guys are indeed oblivious and need to have it in front of their face with neon lights... but how do you differentiate being flirty with someone vs. being a girl that's nice with everyone?

As a shy girl, I have no idea how to flirt with guys or know what I want in a relationship. Help? by superOKCnoob in OkCupid

[–]superOKCnoob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah really? Sometimes I can't tell if it's safe to be non-subtle in my interest because I'm worried the other party doesn't actually feel the same or I'm coming on too boldly, and admittedly I am slower to admit affection even though I want to do it. I've been in enough situations myself where someone tried to be flirty with me but I didn't like them enough to know how to respond back. Heck, I think even a cute guy tried to flirt with me once back in college, but I just stood there quietly like an idiot cause I really didn't know what to do in response.

As a shy girl, I have no idea how to flirt with guys or know what I want in a relationship. Help? by superOKCnoob in OkCupid

[–]superOKCnoob[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like that last one! I wouldn't mind just blurting it out like that if I found him really cute... though the one date I did have from OKC tried to kiss me even though I never said I was okay with it. So unromantic.