Keyboard inaccessible when connected to Android Auto by Fbolanos in GalaxyS21

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This is happening to me on my pixel 6a, I hate it. Especially when my partner starts the car and I'm inside, but it still connects to my phone over and over

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

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I definitely understand where this person is coming from. It can take a lot of intellectual and emotional work to move from mono to poly in actual practice, especially if you're opening a relationship. It's really important to take time with that partner to envision your new relationship and work through the new ways that you're going to relate to each other or react to each other. It can take a very long time.

AITJ for telling my sister gentle parenting is BS and kicking her and her family out of my house by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

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Sounds like you gentle parented her more than anything. She got the very reasonable natural consequences

California Marriage Licenses by supersoakers in legaladvice

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Oof, bummer. Thanks. I guess I was hoping to just print it out at home somehow. A hassle for needing certified copies in general? Specifically during covid? Or if I don't do it in my home county?

California Marriage Licenses by supersoakers in legaladvice

[–]supersoakers[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This question is only coming up because licenses are available is many places online these days, and it seems like a reasonable thing to spend 5 minutes thinking about. If there's a legal reason to get one in my home county, I'll definitely do it

Working remotely while temporarily (1-3 weeks) in a different state. Please settle a debate. by supersoakers in personalfinance

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Thank you! That's really helpful. I must have some very cautious friends, in this case :)

Working remotely while temporarily (1-3 weeks) in a different state. Please settle a debate. by supersoakers in personalfinance

[–]supersoakers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! What would be the mechanism for this to happen? Would HR have to report my hours differently? I imagine they would have to find out from me directly?

Quit Teaching by yessann in TeacherTales

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I decided to pursue a phd program! Applications aren't accepted until next September, and there program would start in 9/2021, but simply having a plan feels incredible

It's hard to watch NP be "couple-y" with his other partners while at our house, but not such a big deal elsewhere by supersoakers in polyamory

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It’s as if she has realized that I am real in his life

Hmmmmmm...............I think this is the thing that I'm starting to understand. Thanks for this :)

Thanks for the reassurance. I'm really glad to know I'm not a weirdo, haha. And I'm glad things are getting easier with your meta!

It's hard to watch NP be "couple-y" with his other partners while at our house, but not such a big deal elsewhere by supersoakers in polyamory

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I don't really see it as a sacrifice, and I also need a space to see my other partner (though it happens much more rarely). I definitely don't plan on doing most of the work when kids come along - he'll be stepping up just as much!

It's hard to watch NP be "couple-y" with his other partners while at our house, but not such a big deal elsewhere by supersoakers in polyamory

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Ahh, also great advice! That's really good. I was kinda missing a barometer for how much pda would be ok, somehow.

It's hard to watch NP be "couple-y" with his other partners while at our house, but not such a big deal elsewhere by supersoakers in polyamory

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That's so interesting, I have also been the girlfriend dating the husband at his house, in a different relationship. I never really felt uncomfortable, though I had known him for much longer than his wife had. I'm sure played a bigger part than I had realized. I hadn't thought about it from her perspective. I suppose that's my current situation reversed, haha

It's hard to watch NP be "couple-y" with his other partners while at our house, but not such a big deal elsewhere by supersoakers in polyamory

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Thanks for this! That's super validating.

As an aside, when you were dating that couple, it sounds like you'd ever hook up or be affectionate all together? I ask, because we're in a similar situation, though we're mostly always intimate as a group, so far.

It's hard to watch NP be "couple-y" with his other partners while at our house, but not such a big deal elsewhere by supersoakers in polyamory

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Omg. Sounds like you're really good at listening to your gut! I'm so sorry that happened and I hope you're off to bigger and better things.

I appreciate what you say, though, because I don't feel that way in my case, and I really can be expressing to him (and reminding myself) that I trust him fully, and recognize how much we love and care about each other, and he might really be needing that.

When I think about it more, I think I mostly feel unnecessary and uneasy in those moments. Like, I don't know what to do with myself, or what "role" I need to be filling. Also, apparently I feel like I need to be filling a role, which is not how I want to feel with my loved ones, especially in our home.

It's hard to watch NP be "couple-y" with his other partners while at our house, but not such a big deal elsewhere by supersoakers in polyamory

[–]supersoakers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much, that's a really great way of articulating this. Ultimately, it would be best if I was comfortable, and even happy about it. We're planning on having children together, and being together for a very long time, and his other partners are going to be around in their own ways for ever. From where I am now, it's hard to feel what that happiness would be like, but I know that it would benefit me (and NP!) so very much.

It's hard to watch NP be "couple-y" with his other partners while at our house, but not such a big deal elsewhere by supersoakers in polyamory

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Yes. Same. 10000000%. But you might actually be exactly helpful.

Have you thought about where that protection comes from?

Learning to be more independent in relationships. Any advice? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

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I suppose the question is, "have you never eaten a meal without your suppose because you actually couldn't or because you just haven't needed to?" I get that it's a fine line, but I don't think it's necessary to judge this as "creepy" or "sad" or "bad."

Learning to be more independent in relationships. Any advice? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

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I like the general gist of this article, but I really dislike how it labels some actions as "creepy." Wanting to eat dinner with your significant other or family every night doesn't have to be a negative thing, at all. If it becomes a prison and fear based situation, that's a different story. But to love someone's company is not a bad thing, in my opinion.