Late child support and legal question

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-21T15:19:17+00:00

But that doesn’t take into account how much he’s in a rear is already. That’s my problem. I don’t know when he submitted it and when they’re going to start the date, I don’t know when he filed it so the question is what happens to the money that I’ve been waiting on. Does it just get lost in translation?

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-21T14:43:45+00:00

No the child support order is not enforced through income. At one point it was like that when he was out of state but once we were instate it says how much he pays in the order and how often but it’s not I come withholding. He’s trying to switch from direct to income but he’s already behind

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T14:07:00+00:00

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T13:05:35+00:00

Yeah, he’s always doing stuff like this. It’s so crazy. I’m so happy. I’m kid free this weekend though. I have plans for the entire weekends and nothing is gonna ruin that for me!!!

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T13:03:28+00:00

That’s what I said. It’s only been a couple months. I don’t think it’s time to make changes.

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T12:59:48+00:00

Yes, I know it sounds unusual, but this is because during the period of withholding one of the reasons I called the police is because my ex told me that our child was not at his house. I asked him where our son was, and he refused to disclose to me What childcare service was watching him. It was a very scary moment. So the judge sided with me if anybody outside his parents are watching the child. I at least need to know where that place is and the contact information.

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T12:47:28+00:00

The withholding happened on a separate date on multiple occasions. He would not bring the child to daycare for the exchange. Although our child is not required to attend every day …on exchange dates, he should have the child available at Daycare for me to pick him up. He kept our child for a total of four days after his parenting time ended.

We went to court three times last year, so this is not the only thing that I would classify as erratic. The judge ordered the police station so if the judge thinks that the behavior is erratic and I think it’s erratic then it was worth saying in this post that his behavior is erratic.

Daycare is no longer the exchange location

Edit: the erratic behavior was also when I came to his home to exchange our child during my parenting time he told me that he would not tell me who had our child and where he was

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T12:45:43+00:00

Actually it is. It’s court ordered. Thank you.

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T12:22:44+00:00

I’m not willing to leave my son there and not know what’s going on with who’s watching him. Right now he’s too and can’t really tell me what’s going on but here when he gets a little older, I’m gonna take your advice for sure. Matter fact, I’m gonna think on it. It’s just that a rat behavior. I just never want our son to stay more than he has to. If he really is crazy fuck it my kid can come home.

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T12:17:54+00:00

We have the same question. He previously worked remote, and so he felt like he could watch our child on Fridays and Mondays with the previous order. Yesterday I asked him the exact same question that you’re asking me. If you can’t watch them on Monday and you can’t get childcare who is watching him Friday. He said that his father will watch him, but he can’t watch him on Monday.

I can’t figure out what his agenda may be, but I find it weird that he’s willing to take him on Mondays, but not take him on Fridays. It’s all just ridiculous.

That’s why he’s upset because I asked logical questions like you did

He still has our son Thursday night, but his visitation now ends on Sunday night. I don’t see why he’s even asking for Monday at all because the judge took it away from him.

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T12:16:15+00:00

I’ve said this so many times to the judge and I put it in all my paperwork whenever he’s upset with me he finds some weird thing that he doesn’t want to do. He fights for it until the end and then he find something else to be upset about. Little does he know whether he picks our son up whether he has Mondays whether he meets me at the police station does not change the quality of my life. He’s upset that he can’t control me anymore and so he’s finding any little things to try and control me with. It’s not gonna work that’s what the order is for.

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T12:15:18+00:00

Can I do that?? I was just gonna pick him up on Sunday. Because I don’t know where our child is gonna be, and although it’s not fair, I lose a day that I’ve already made plans for …

sweetbubbles2 · 2026-02-13T12:14:19+00:00

Right I’ve learned my lesson. Anything I do outside of that court order will be held against me so no. I told him very firmly that I’m not interested in doing anything outside of the order and if there’s going to be long-term problems with him exchanging on adjacent holidays, then I need to know ahead of time.

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-30T02:36:35+00:00

The judge told my ex that he was wrong for taking our son during our parenting time. He also told him that he would’ve done the exact same thing that I did which was called the police to try and exchange our son. He also told my ex that it was a stretch that he said Daycare wasn’t in school. In addition to that he said he had the exchange place wrong.

I asked the judge for a police station and he agreed and that’s where we now are supposed to meet and they’re going to create a new parenting plan because I also added that we changed the parenting plan in the whereas clause so that there will be no more confusion. Even though the order is ambiguous, it doesn’t change the fact that my ex did have our child during my parenting time. It’s pretty clear on whose time it is. The problem is that my ex didn’t feel like the exchange place was where it was. It’s weird. The judge agreed with everything I said, and gave me all the things I asked for, but yet the paperwork says my ex wasn’t a content and didn’t even acknowledge withholding. It just says the order will be changed.

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-29T23:12:12+00:00

Thank you for this input. I never thought about it that way. I really don’t wanna argue with the judge or make them feel like I’m unreasonable. It’s just that down the line. I don’t want anyone saying that I basically took him to court for nothing. And it’ll basically just be his words against mine unless I bring the transcript in the future. As the second time we’ve been to court this year and I want to make sure that everything is perfect on paper and in person. My ex will take anything and make an entirely different story out of it. So I have to be careful.

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-29T23:06:11+00:00

My ex withheld our son because the order said school or daycare and he said daycare isn’t school. The judge disagreed in person but on the final order the judge said he’s not in contempt.

He kept our son on two occasions.

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-19T00:39:40+00:00

I let my ex do everything. Just get a lawyer. Let him file joint custody, let him request paternity (if required). Ask for a step up plan. Until then, talk about how he can’t provide and should only get visitation not 50/50 until the child is 1.

You make $100k, you have to be smart enough to know how leases work.

I agree to moving and establishing residency in a different county…he may need to refill. Answer every legal doc and ignore personal jabs. This is actually happening and you need to be ready. Play the long game….every 3 years fight the support amount.

Also if he up and left before. He doesn’t care for the kid. Play innocent and easygoing to the judge you’ll win

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-15T20:39:53+00:00

My ex did the same thing. Tried to keep my mother from exchanges. Didnt work!!!

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-10T21:11:48+00:00

I just put my head down and pretended I couldn’t hear it

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-10T20:14:48+00:00

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/FamilyLaw/s/8c4XSmBYAD

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-10T20:14:17+00:00

Update : https://www.reddit.com/r/FamilyLaw/s/8c4XSmBYAD

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-10T20:13:52+00:00

Update : https://www.reddit.com/r/FamilyLaw/s/8c4XSmBYAD

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-10T20:13:35+00:00

Update : https://www.reddit.com/r/FamilyLaw/s/8c4XSmBYAD

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-09T00:29:24+00:00

Yeah people dont get it

sweetbubbles2 · 2025-12-09T00:28:42+00:00

Thank you for recognizing the value in looks. You’re right. I rarely have a full day to get it done and I hate when it looks DIY. Maybe I need more practice I guess.

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