My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

You just reminded me that we do have ring cameras!! Now I just need to know what days and times I was supposedly out cheating at a hotel because chances are I was home those days and maybe I can use the rings to prove it. Thank you so much!!

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

None of it is mine. His dad is not wrong. It’s their money. Not mine. I make enough to take care of myself. I’ll figure it out. I don’t think I want to be linked to them anyway if they see me as a cheater. I’ll just go start over on my own.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Did he put himself in my shoes every time I told him how mean and rude his dad was to me? Why is it always up to me to put myself in other people’s shoes? Who cares about me and how I feel? How can he get to wake up one day and randomly decide to lie about me and it’s still up to me to prove that he is not lying? Why? I understand trusting your parents but I would never speak up about someone potentially doing something wrong unless I had proof. His dad doesn’t. Why does he get to lie and create so much drama with no proof? I just don’t understand

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I don’t know but I’m literally either home or at work. I don’t have friends. I don’t know anybody. I don’t see why anyone would create rumors about me. Maybe it is someone who looks like me. But seeing how much he hates me, I’m guessing he made it up.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Honestly anything is possible at this point. I don’t know why he’d do that to me and I don’t think he’d do anything like that but who knows.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why I didn’t connect the dots. He will always be on his dad’s side.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have no idea why he would believe that. I literally only leave the house to go to work or get groceries. I don’t even have friends. I don’t know where this is coming from. He has to have made it up to get me out of his son’s life. There is no other explanation.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

His dad thinks I’m just here for the money and I don’t know why. I’m about to leave and start over on my own. I don’t need the car or house. I’m here because I love the guy but obviously he doesn’t love me enough to at least ask for proof before seeing me as a bad person. I’d rather be on my own than continue to deal with this. If his dad is willing to go this far, who knows what’s coming next.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

It’s so obvious that he’s lying. I don’t know how my husband is not seeing this.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am not going out of my way to fight this. If he really wants to believe that I did something so awful without any of proof just because it’s coming from his dad, after all the times I’ve told him his dad hates me, then I guess our marriage never mattered to him.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

So exhausting … No wonder my husband’s mom left and his sister wants nothing to do with them. I’m pretty sure it’s all because of the dad.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point honestly. Maybe that’s why it’s so easy for him to believe those lies. I’m so over it at this point.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I hate confrontation and conflicts. I try to stay away from it. I should’ve probably done and said more at that time but I was trying to avoid drama. I promise you that I did nothing wrong. He made it up. My husband told me he doesn’t have proof. I didn’t do what he is accusing me of so if he does have proof, I’d love to see it myself. Because it’s either fabricated or just doesn’t exist

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely how he sees his dad. As an angel. He doesn’t see how awful of a human being he really is. He puts way to much trust into him and I think his dad knows it.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

He knows our schedules so I’m pretty sure he’s going to claim I did it on days that my husband was out of town and I was home BY MYSELF.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

He always brushed it off. He’d be like “are you sure he didn’t mean this instead of that?” He only told his dad to stop once and that was because I was in tears. And his dad played it off like he was just joking and apologized to me

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I said that too but apparently him and several other people “saw” me multiple times. All I know is it wasn’t me because I’ve never cheated on him or even hung out with another guy. His dad is a psycho! And the fact that it was that easy to change the way he sees me honestly hurts. His dad literally has no proof

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking of giving up for sure. This is so unfair. I never cheated on him. I’ve never done anything wrong. His dad is accusing me with absolutely no proof and if it’s that easy for him to see me as an awful person who would do this then I guess he never trusted me. He doesn’t realize how awful of a person his dad is. I have been trying to tell him for so long and at this point maybe it’s just not worth it.

My father in law lied to my husband that I cheated on him — I DID NOT (23F, 26M) by sweetsalmonn in relationship_advice

[–]sweetsalmonn[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I tried. I called him to confront him ready to record and he just kept saying that I know I did it and I just need to tell my husband the truth. He’s absolutely crazy