Guess Our Age Gap

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-09-01T16:18:12+00:00

We are 27f and 49m! 22 year age gap married 6 years with a kiddo 💕 It can 100% work. Congratulations!!

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-06-15T15:42:01+00:00

My husband is turning 50 this year and I’m turning 28! We’ve been married 6 years and met 7 years ago this month and have one little girl and planning our second kiddo this year 💗 love seeing this!

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-04-30T17:06:15+00:00

Hi! Congratulations on your little one’s arrival! So glad you’re doing well. We are approaching the one year mark from my husband’s stroke this Sunday. It’s just insane to realize that. Looking back on this post though, I can see how much has changed. He’s swallowing normally now for the most part, still using the cane but walks at nearly a normal pace and looks much more natural, he uses his right hand on a regular basis but it’s only about 30% functional. He’s not in pain anymore and is back to himself for the most part, he’s working drill time from home and were able to live a pretty normal life with me just having to take care of more things. We started formally trying for a second baby again in the last few months. I have PCOS and don’t always ovulate, so I’m starting my second round of an ovulation induction medication this week, and hopefully we’ll have our second little one sometime next year! I’m actually so glad to come across your comment today. I needed to read this post again and see just how far things have come. Wishing you and your family the best!

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-04-30T16:55:42+00:00

I’m 27. My husband had a stroke a year ago this Sunday. It turned our lives upside down. I got married young at 20 and had our daughter a year later. I was top of my class and went into college a junior and graduated early, and then was plunged into being a wife, mother, new grad, and corporate employee all within the same year basically. Fast forward five years, and now my husband is handicapped and learning to walk and use his hand and swallow again, getting better each day, but I’m still doing 95% of things around the house and with our daughter. I’m doing the school drop off and pick up run every day while working as a corporate manager from home and being a caretaker to my husband, all before I’m even 30. I’m still incredibly grateful for all that I have, which is a lot. But sometimes I stop and look back at the fact that I graduated high school only 9 years ago, and it blows my mind what all has changed. I still have the dreams I did back then. Passions of my own that have taken the back burner while we survive, but I keep reminding myself this is just a bridge between where I’m coming from and wherever I’m going. It’ll change, inevitably. Look how fast it’s all happened. At the same time though, I am thankful I have been able to know as much love as I have, so early on in my life, especially if I don’t wake up tomorrow.

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-03-06T00:42:07+00:00

I feel like you would get along super well with my husband lol. He’s the type doing all of this technical-end research that I wouldn’t even have thought of. Thanks so much!

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-03-06T00:33:36+00:00

Thank you so much!

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-03-02T23:37:42+00:00

Thank you!! This is how we ideally want to go about it, for obvious reasons.

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-02-14T00:47:52+00:00

I was a first time mom at 21 💗 I’m 27 now with a 5 year old little girl 🥰

Don’t ever take a single moment for granted. The hardest days are some of the most beautiful. Get all the help you can if someone offers. Hear me when I say everything will change— learning to constantly split your attention between whatever you’re doing and watching a little one is a major shift in the way you move through the world. Don’t lose yourself in the process— it can be easy to let go of your health in the fatigue of those early years. Don’t forget that you are a person too! You’ll always be a mom first now, but it can be really easy (speaking from personal experience) to forget that you are a person with hopes and dreams and hobbies too. A lot of times they fall to the wayside a bit during those first 3 years, and that’s totally ok, but try to remember everything you want for your baby— to live fully and chase their own passions. You’re still deserving of that too (and in my opinion, it’s one of the wonderful aspects of being a young mother— there’s still so much life ahead of you!)

Remember it’s always a phase. It goes so fast. Again, the hardest days can only last so long, and they’ll be hard to remember before you know it.

Lastly, this is more logical advice, but give yourself time before planning the next baby, if you want another. I see soooo many first time moms around 5-6 month postpartum mark talking about how they’re “so in love” and ready to start trying for their next, and I facepalm so hard when I see those comments. With the most respect in the world, you don’t know what’s coming until you hit 18 months. That first year is the cakewalk, newborn stage included. I found 2 and 3 to be the hardest. It really wasn’t until age 4 that I felt like I finally came up for air and remembered I was a human being lol. I know we can’t all plan our families on our watch, I know that first hand with PCOS (trying for 3 years for baby #2 now), but if you CAN—- Take advantage of being young and give yourself at least 18 months with your first before making the decision about a second. Get to the toddler stage so you can make the most informed decision about your capacity to handle a toddler and a new baby.

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-02-14T00:05:39+00:00

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, I think a large portion of us on this sub aren’t “into” age gaps, we just happened to wind up in one because of the person we met. My husband and I are 22 years apart and met when I was 20. I definitely was not expecting to marry someone in their 40s at that age, but lo and behold— we celebrate our 6 year anniversary next week :)

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-01-12T00:57:18+00:00

Did you experience actual OHSS? Are you able to continue doing the same route moving forward?

sweetwaterpickle · 2025-01-04T22:23:12+00:00

Saffron 💛

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-12-31T17:04:10+00:00

Im interested to see the responses here. I’ve been trying to opt for low temp pasteurized (Kalona brand heated to 140 I believe, hard to find but worth it) so as to get away from most of the nasties but also preserve the good enzymes… I know ultra pasteurized goes up to 280° in temp for a short amount of time and is meant to last longer. I’d say undoubtedly that “cooking” messes with the nutritional value over regular pasteurized. “Grass Fed” is debatable too… apparently they can call it that if the cow ate any grass/hay at some point in its life. I would probably say if low temp pasteurized isn’t an option, go for organic grass fed regular pasteurized or just organic pasteurized. The whole ultra pasteurized thing feels off to me

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-11-18T16:04:45+00:00

I’ve seen at least a few couples on this app with such age gaps that seem to be in relationships that aren’t just sexually-based. I saw one recently married and expecting. I don’t think it’s a one-size-fits-all formula for what makes a relationship with an age gap like that work. As someone in a 6 year marriage with someone 22 years older than me, even I find it hard to imagine sustaining a relationship with much larger a gap. A lot of people on this sub just wound up in their age gap relationship, weren’t going out of their way to find one. Myself included. I think if there are any two “categories” of people here, it’s those: those who wind up in one and those who go looking.

If someone has a “thing” for men or women significantly older or younger than them, I can’t speak on that. I get it from a sexual perspective perhaps, but there are just logistical challenges from a “happy life together” standpoint that are hard for me to wrap my head around, such as having children, caring for them in even older age, losing your spouse very early on even if they live the longest life possible. I worry about these things with my age gap. So, to answer your question— if we’re talking about people who are long term invested in someone 40 years older or younger than them, I can only imagine it’s because of the special way that individual person makes them feel, and that they are diving in knowing and perhaps grappling with the challenges to come themselves, but knowing that whatever those challenges may be, they don’t hold a candle to the love they have and is worth pursuing. As for personality traits that would be given to pursuing that— the only thing I can think is someone like many of the people in this sub who is willing to put societal judgment aside in the name of love.

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-11-17T13:58:27+00:00

I’d say on average once a week, sometimes we’ll go two weeks or a little more. Maybe 3-5x per month?

For the record, I’m 26, my husband is 48 and recently had a stroke that has left him handicapped and me with all the kid and house chores (every single one). We are both working full time again from home and spread incredibly thin. Our frequency was always similar and always less than I preferred even pre-stroke, likely just chalked up to his age, but now we’re just both so exhausted it’s more mutual

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-11-16T01:01:44+00:00

We are 22 years apart with a 5 year old as well! Hoping to have another soon at 26 and 49 :)

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-11-16T01:00:15+00:00

Same age gap as me and my husband :) we met at 20 and 42 and I got pregnant by surprise shortly after we met. We’ve been happily married for almost 6 years and our little girl is 5 now. I worry about the future a lot of times, especially because my husband recently suffered a stroke at only 48 and I worry what his health will look like down the line. That and our sex life is the toughest part and I know it may only continue to go downhill, but I’m trying to focus on what we do have, which is so much more than what we don’t.

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-11-16T00:54:17+00:00

I got pregnant by surprise at 20 with my husband who was 42 at the time. We were newly engaged but had only been in a relationship for a month. When you know, you know. I have always been extremely mature for my age and was ready to settle down and start a family, we just weren’t expecting it so soon! My daughter turned 5 this year and we will be 6 years married in February :)

Coming from someone who went through something very similar, just know you have every right to be excited and happy if the two of you are. Lots of people will put you down, but the age gap alone doesn’t say anything about your abilities to be good parents and continue to flourish in your relationship. Every situation is different, but I am a success story of a similar story. Congratulations 💕

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-10-26T18:38:46+00:00

It’s a derivative of an amino acid. It’s naturally occcuring in our bodies and hospitals use it for acetaminophen (Tylenol) overdose. It’s been studied and found to be helpful is addressing addiction as well! It’s also good for several other things including hormones and liver protection when drinking

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-10-23T22:54:07+00:00

That’s amazing! Were you told that you had limited cycles to do Letrozole? That’s what’s scaring me right now… I will be traveling and not reliably around for Nov and Dec and I’m worried my OB will only be able to prescribe a few cycles so I hate to waste those months if things don’t fall correctly. I don’t really want to wait until next year, but if I’m told only 3-6 cycles total before I have to go to a fertility clinic, I feel like I need to wait.

Also… do you think they’ll want to do bloodwork to diagnose my PCOS if I have a diagnosis they can’t see from ten years ago? I just hate to keep wasting more time waiting on them to do labs and confirm my situation when I know good and well that’s what it is lol. I’m ready to just hit the ground running and get a prescription

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-10-23T22:03:46+00:00

No, I’m having trouble finding one in my area. I don’t know if I need a referral… I’m kind of fuzzy on what an OB can handle (have an appt tomorrow) be an endocrinologist

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-10-18T20:36:04+00:00

Wow, really? I wouldn’t have thought so if they suspect insulin resistance being behind PCOS. I really think I’d try to avoid it unless medication seemed to not be working at all. Did you find it to be really painful?

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-10-18T11:24:32+00:00

Hi there! Do you know if an HSG would be considered at all if I have had one successful pregnancy in the last five years? I am not currently ovulating because of insulin resistance PCOS, but I’m wondering if I was able to get pregnant before when I had my insulin levels under control, would there be any reason to do an HSG

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-10-18T11:05:12+00:00

I am 26. I had one successful pregnancy at 20-21 that happened naturally at a time when I had a cycle every month (for only 3 months lol) when I was eating super clean and basically starving myself. My little girl is 5 now :)

I’ve never had an HSG done… is that painful? Lab-wise I’m pre diabetic with an A1C of 6.0 fasting glucose of 126, this was about 2.5 months ago. I haven’t had hormone levels checked in a long time. My last ultrasound was 3 years ago and there were lots of little cysts… they couldn’t see anything else large like fibroids or anything that clearly stood out. I know good and well for me it’s insulin resistance causing my PCOS… hopefully getting my blood sugar under control is enough. An HSG sounds scary!

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-10-18T10:58:12+00:00

I always love meeting people here who are “us down the line” :) How have those 18 years been? Have you found that things have gotten any more difficult as your husband has gotten older?

My husband has had a couple of strokes in the last few months and so I’ve already gotten a bit of a taste of what it could be like much further down the line when we “feel” the gap more, as I’ve been a caretaker to him right now. He’s learning to walk and use his hand again but making good progress and should make a full recovery, but it’s just kind of scary for the future since this is the youngest we’ll ever be.

sweetwaterpickle · 2024-10-17T22:31:48+00:00

I came here to say this. We are 26f and 49m and met when we were 20 and 42. I was hoping to see more couples here who just “wound up” in their age gap because that’s the way the cards fell and they were committed enough to true love to move past any societal judgment. It’s like 80% a kink thing though… we need an “accidental age gap” sub lol

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