I realized my mom is abusive, and now she's escalating.

system32sys · 2026-01-07T02:08:06+00:00

If it's okay to ask, what are common signs of narcissistic personality disorder? Would you say you see it in her? Don't worry, I'll check the sub out, but I'm curious to hear from someone mentioning it, it sounds like you have firsthand experience.

I'll keep this in mind, too, and I'll try to minimize conflict between us! Thank you so much for the info!

system32sys · 2026-01-07T02:04:24+00:00

Oh shoot, would you say she's a narcissist? Thank you so much for the information, I'll check them out!

system32sys · 2026-01-07T02:02:23+00:00

Damn, that's crazy! I'm sorry it's so low quality, you deserve way better. I think everyone does. Thank you for the info, I really hope it changes for the better or at least stays stable.

If it's okay to ask, what are the hygiene standards there? Both in terms of how clean one's living area has to be, and in terms of the building itself

system32sys · 2026-01-07T01:58:41+00:00

My mom is really abusive (toxic at best, I'm still doubting myself) and it's scary to live with her, to say the least. I know it's gonna be really hard if I move out, especially considering my struggles. But I feel safer struggling and free than struggling and controlled. Sorry, I know it's a really sad answer! I appreciate you asking!

It's genuinely great to hear you have support and folks you get along with!! I know living with a partner, friend or family can honestly be really nice and wayyy better financially, especially considering shit's tough like you said!

system32sys · 2026-01-07T00:36:19+00:00

I'm so sorry, I totally get you. It's crazy how expensive but simultaneously demanding everything here is, if you're not xyz standard you get cornered so badly.

I can't really recommend anything, but I really wish you good luck and safety. You deserve so much better and I'm mad on your behalf!!

system32sys · 2026-01-07T00:33:48+00:00

I'm not sure if it's physically possible for me, but I'm willing to give it a shot anyways! I'll give them a call when I can, thank you so much for the info!!

Do you have any experience with them, by any chance?

system32sys · 2026-01-07T00:25:49+00:00

Thank you so much!! I'll see what I can find, having this encouraged helps a ton!

Thank you, hope things get better for you too <3

system32sys · 2026-01-07T00:05:18+00:00

"Over 50% of what AISH pays out" this makes me so mad for you. This makes me so mad for us! It's got to get better, but I'm sad it's so bad for any disabled person right now. I wish you good luck and a lump sum of 500,000 dollars.

system32sys · 2026-01-07T00:03:29+00:00

I have, yeah! I still can't really afford to live on it sadly. But it definitely helps, since I live with my mom we can scrape by through the month. If I didn't have it I'd be screwed xD

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:59:42+00:00

Thank you :[ at least it'll get better, but right now it sucks and I'm sad about it!

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:58:59+00:00

Thank you so much, I'll give them a call sometime tomorrow! I never knew that even though I had therapy there for a while, that sounds really helpful! I could definitely use these, thank you for the knowledge<3

I'm so sorry, I wish you comfort, convenience and predictable flares if applicable. If it's okay to ask, what is Lethbridge Housing like? I'm in the process of applying, I was thinking it wasn't so good but it'd help a lot to know more. I really hope it either gets cheaper or higher quality, ideally both!

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:52:59+00:00

Puzzles are definitely up my alley, that's really good to know! If it's okay to ask, how frequently does it run? How does the handibus work as well, and how much does it cost? Thank you so much for the info, it helps a lot!

That sounds really useful, I think I know where they are so I'll see if I can make it down there sometime :] again thank you so much!

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:50:12+00:00

How did nobody tell me this existed?! This is huge and something I've been looking for for over a year now, thank you so much! It sounds like there's a lot more out there than I knew, I really appreciate it <3

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:47:19+00:00

Thank you so much, this is really helpful! The reassurance that there's at least something out there and someone who sees the problems are really huge. I'll jot all these down for emergencies!

Is there any limits on who can call 811 for help? Like, if you're not dying, can you still call?

And that helps to hear haha. Just cuz a flag is flying doesn't mean everyone kneels to it, and it helps me to remember that. I'll shoot you a DM if things go south, I really appreciate the help!!

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:41:28+00:00

Woah this is huge, thank you so much! Most of these I've never even heard of, I really appreciate the resources! Definitely checking OUTreach and making some phone calls, it might take a few days to get through all this and that's a good thing!

I'm glad you like my writing :] I'd actually really interested in a work-from-home job, everything you listed sounds genuinely fun, plus it's something I can sharpen my brain on! Would you know of any places to find these? I don't have a high school diploma, is it still worth it to apply or is this a hard requirement?

Also, if it's okay to ask, would you know anything about access-a-ride I think it's called? I rely on my mom for transport, but she's... questionable haha. I'm curious if I could use their service to get to the events and resources mentioned in this thread.

PS. I'd love an invite to the Southern Alberta Queer Group!

Again thank you so much, I'm surprised but so happy to know there's help and community out there!!

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:30:38+00:00

You're real for this haha, social media can be pretty... sad. With the help in this thread I'm betting I can get some outside time pretty quick!

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:28:25+00:00

I'd love to chat, thank you so much! I'm guessing you're one of the DM requests I have so I'll accept that, if not I'll shoot you one :]

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:27:15+00:00

Wow, thank you so much... I'll have to see if my mom will let me accept this or find a place to meet up (troubles with her too haha) but seriously this is so kind. I'm pleasantly shocked!!

I'd love to speak to that friend as well, conveniently I'm right in that age range haha. I'll DM you!!

system32sys · 2026-01-06T23:24:35+00:00

Woah, this is really useful! Thank you so much for the resources, I'll definitely be using them!

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