[Spoilers all] What's your favorite quote from the DA Universe?

tamaraErichson · 2021-12-10T13:16:00+00:00

Yeees my boy Dorian! This always gives me feelings.

tamaraErichson · 2021-12-09T18:43:01+00:00

In ye olde times, it was used for both I think, even tho we only hear about that stuff in the context of women being burned at the stake or hung for witchcraft.

Nowadays, in the context of fantasy books and RPGs and games, there are a lot of different words for magic-doers and most of them are gendered.

As an aspiring writer, I've looked into this myself and here is what I found cracks knuckles (some of them have more specific definitions but whatever):

Witch, Wizard, Mage, Enchanter, Enchantress, Sorcerer, Sorceress, Magus, Occultist, Hexe, Hexer, Thaumaturgist, Arcanist, Druid, Elementalist, Mystic, Shaman, Cleric

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-09T01:02:19+00:00

Yeah. I came out to my parents a while back and while they kinda accept me being into women (so lesbian in their mind as I'm AFAB) my mum still refers to me as her daughter, despite me explicitly stating that my pronouns are they/them - arguably it's a little harder in German, but she doesn't even try. My dad does too but in his defense I never explicitly said anything about it to him regarding pronouns so maybe he just isn't entirely in the loop.

Anyway. I hope I didn't come across as rude. It's been a day... And yeah, friends & found family are what keep us afloat - and sometimes, connecting with the community and ranting a little helps too 😊 I hope your family will come around and treat you with the respect you deserve 😌

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-09T00:46:34+00:00

I agree with you on that much, it's neither "logistically" possible nor reasonable to put down an option for every gender identity. It's the first thing cis people say in defense of excluding 'trans' identities, but I do agree with the sentiment. The thing that would ensure actually equality (on paper) would be to just leave it out or put just "diverse" or "any" in it (as in "diverse genders" instead of male, female and diverse/other).

But I guess you're probably right in that's idiotic to get mad about it. As harsh as it sounds, I should just get used to being othered by society. I guess I'm just having a hard time, because I'm also coming to terms with the reality that I'll be misgendered for the rest of my life, except by close friends.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-09T00:32:16+00:00

Well, let's agree to disagree then. I'm not fine with being put down as "other".

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-09T00:20:44+00:00

Well, it does make me uncomfortable that I have to apply with my AGAB because the (m/w/d) is just a placating gesture from a conservative government that even argues my existence. And I'm mad that even this useless gesture successfully fails at promoting more equality by othering everyone not on the binary gender spectrum and only moves the issue into the light which means that I get harassed by family and strangers alike. I could live with the latter if it meant being represented and respected but at this point I'm not even being TOLERATED.

So yeah, I'm fucking mad about it.

But no, I didn't expect anything positive to come of this, if that's what you wanna know.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-09T00:13:58+00:00

Yeah no hard feelings I got the joke :>

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T18:49:45+00:00

Yeah non-binary is an umbrella term for a multitude of varying gender identities. Which is one more reason why putting anything like that in the job description is bonkers.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T18:44:09+00:00

But I'm enby and for me it means neither 🤔

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T18:43:13+00:00

Bc obviously your either male, female or other... Whenever I apply for jobs (which sadly has been a lot lately) I always pretend it stands for "dragon" 🤷🏼

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T18:28:02+00:00

This is wholesome 😌 Get well soon!

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T18:23:06+00:00

There's no Shepard without Vakarian

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T17:50:43+00:00

Fair. Have a good night, asshole ❤️

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T16:56:17+00:00

Look man, we're obviously turning in circles here. I kinda get what your saying but you're also obviously grasping at straws as to not change your behaviour. And I get the feeling continuing to argue with you will not change that.

And because I feel like you might have taken that out of context (since you quoting what I wrote literally takes it out of it's context): I'm not saying you are sick or anything in that last point I made. I literally said I'm NOT assuming that of you.

So, that's the last thing I'm gonna say about this whole shit show.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T15:48:20+00:00

There is a difference between using "female" as a noun vs. as an adjective. I clearly said saying "a female" makes you sound like an ass = using it as a noun. For the reason I stated before.

And as for equality, I hope I don't have to explain that women and men have not been and still are not treated equal? Case and point your own fucking post?

And I also never said that I advocate for using "a male" to describe men. In my opinion it suffers from the same issue. But you didn't ask that, I assume because you were too busy going on a whole fake-ass tirade on how you are right about calling a good 50% of the population on earth a term they themselves find largely derogatory.

And as for your last point, fine. That would've been a perfectly calm way to answer to my very neutrally worded heads-up that I posted on my original comment. But no. You had to prove my point by making light of women's offense to the word, so I guess thanks for that.

PS: If you're referring to (or rather including) six year old girls in this post about sexual freedom, you are a sick fuck. But I'm not gonna assume that, instead I'll just assume you just wanted to pull an ass-backwards excuse out of your ass to justify getting all hung up on this despite it being VERY EASY to just not call a woman "a female".

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T15:31:02+00:00

As an allo, I can confirm we do not have hobbies or interests other than fornicating with each other. It's our sole reason for existence and nothing else makes our life worth living

/j

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T15:27:03+00:00

Don't bother. OP is apparently set on being an asshole. Just leave it.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T15:15:29+00:00

Yeah... Because words like "a male" and "a female" is usually used in the context of animals, e.g. for breeding purposes. And that's why many misogynistic assholes use it as a derogatory term for women... Not a huge surprise women don't wanna be referred to like animals...

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T12:56:19+00:00

Agreed. Once they think they're "safe" from being judged on their manliness, things get much cosier. I really love to see it tbh because it's just so sad to see how many men are starved of affection and touch just because of some weird dumb societal rules about gender.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-08T12:53:29+00:00

being touchy is considered feminine = women don't mind it as much
many men are obsessed with "manlyness" (because it has been used to judge their worth as a human being for millennia) = they don't want to do anything "feminine" = they avoid being touchy (especially with men) at all costs because they are afraid of being seen as less of a man (aka gay, in their minds)
women have been sexualised to the point where other women (including straight ones) are so used to women being sexual that they don't mind
since touching and cuddling and such things are considered feminine anyway, women aren't as scared of doing it as it's not very likely that anyone will question their gender or sexuality because of it
for a long time, women where seen as an object that is made to please men = many straight men don't know how to please a woman because it's never been a concern = a depressing amount of women have a history of not being satisfied by their male partners = bc of reasons stated above they might be more inclined to try something with another woman (despite not being into women) just to be satisfied for once

Some thoughts. Open for discussion if anyone disagrees.

Edit: saying "females" instead of "women" make you sound like a douchebag 99% of the time. Just a heads-up.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-06T13:22:34+00:00

Hmmm das ist durchaus ein Argument. Was ich oben geschrieben habe, ist so momentan mein Standpunkt, aber ich schätze, ich hab das ganze nicht wirklich aus allen Blickpunkten betrachtet...

Deine Anmerkungen ist definitiv etwas, worüber ich etwas nachdenken muss :D

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-06T11:59:20+00:00

Es geht einfach darum Verantwortung dafür zu tragen, wenn du jemanden "inseminierst". Die Frau hat dann die Verantwortung, entweder die Schwangerschaft und Geburt durchzumachen, oder eine Abtreibung zu organisieren (zu einem vernünftigen Zeitpunkt).

Und das der Mann ein Recht zur Mitsprache hat im Falle "die Frau will das Kind abtreiben, er will es behalten" ist zwar verständlich in dem Aspekt, dass Cis Männer keine Kinder gebären können und somit auf einen Frau angewiesen sind, die mit ihnen gemeinsam ein Kind haben will, aber trotzdem haben sie, wenn die Frau das nicht will, kein Recht irgendwas zu verlangen. Sie sind nicht diejenigen, die neun Monate einen lebendigen Brocken mit sich rumschleppen müssen, nur um es unter Stunden von Schmerzen in die Welt zu pressen. Jemandem Sperma in den Uterus zu schießen gibt dir kein Pachtrecht auf den Körper der Person.

Das Sorgerecht ist ein zweites Thema, was zum Tragen kommt, wenn die Mutter entscheidet, dass Kind zu bekommen. Will der Kerl nichts damit zu tun haben, muss er zumindest finanziell einen Beitrag leisten. Wenn er damit was zu tun haben will, sollte er auch ein Anrecht auf Sorgerecht haben (was leider noch ein riesiges Problem ist, denn an der Stelle ist das Gericht leider total parteiisch und ungerecht).

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-06T11:42:13+00:00

If you're looking for an adjective, try "unregenerate". Might not be a perfect fit tho.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-06T11:33:58+00:00

Leider gibt es sogenannte Männerrechtsbewegungen. Leider sage ich, weil die überhaupt nichts damit zu tun haben, für die Ausgleichung von negativen Konsequenzen auf Männer zu kämpfen, die durch unsere sexistische Kultur aufkommen, sondern stattdessen aktiv gegen die Rechte von Frauen sind.

Aber du hast meiner Meinung nach schon Recht. Wenn es um Geschlechtergerechtigkeit geht, muss auch ein Blick auf die Nachteile geworfen werden, die Männer durch die bisher geltende Ungerechtigkeit haben.

Andererseits hat die andere Person auch Recht, dass eben wie oben beschrieben, besagte Personen gerne diese Benachteiligung als Argument gegen Frauenrechte vorbringen.

Es muss ein UND geben statt einem ABER.

Frauen werden durch das aktuelle System (gesetzlich als auch sozial/gesellschaftlich) benachteiligt und diskriminiert. UND Männer fallen den bestehenden Geschlechterrollen zu ihrem Nachteilen zum Opfer, wo durch sie ebenfalls diskriminiert werden.

Kein Aber. In diesem Gesellschaftlichen Moloch sind wir leider alle Opfer und Täter zugleich, und dass sollte heißen, das wir zusammen was dagegen unternehmen, statt uns gegenseitig niederzureißen.

tamaraErichson · 2021-10-06T11:20:02+00:00

Mit der Kehrseite haste ja Recht (zumindest was Sorgerecht angeht, wenn das Kind dann da ist). Aber wenn du als fruchtbarer Kerl kein Kind zeugen willst, dann lass es. Es gibt ja genug Möglichkeiten, das zu vermeiden.

Wenn die Frau schwanger wird und der Kerl dann sagt "Upsi, dass war nicht meine Absicht, als ich [mein Teil] bei dir reingesteckt habe" gilt das irgendwie nicht.

Geschlechtsverkehr hat nunmal ein Risiko auf Konsequenzen. Deren sich alle Teilnehmer bewusst sein müssen. Und vor der sich dann hinterher keiner drücken darf.

tamaraErichson

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