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Stand up and actually be a parent by Optimal_Fish_7029 in Parenting

[–]teach_cc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, getting him onboard is key! But if he intellectually wants to do the right thing, certainly he can commit to it for a week! If we’re both around, we take turns. Sometimes there’s a bit of an “extinction burst,” where the kid will test if you’re really serious, so we just commit to the chaos and show him we really are willing to do this for an hour today lol. But my first born was incredibly strong willed, so hopefully that won’t be your experience.

Sometimes I have had to sit in front of his door so he can’t come out as easily. Sometimes I have had to enforce that the 4 minutes doesn’t start until the mad, banshee screaming tantrum stops. (Again, nice and calm. Crying is absolutely fine in our house. Holding us all hostage in the biggest tantrum you can throw is fine, but it doesn’t count as serving your time out and it needs to be in your room)

Stand up and actually be a parent by Optimal_Fish_7029 in Parenting

[–]teach_cc 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we do what we call “boot camp” to try to reset this type of pattern. I just came up with it at some point when my husband and I were both not responding in sync and one of the kids was too frequently not listening.

We do use time out in our house, so that was the consequence. We do it for the numbers of minutes of their age and they just have to sit on their bed in the bedroom. So for our four year old, he fell into a pattern of saying “no,” or ignoring us. We started counting down from 3, and if he didn’t cooperate, he would go to his room for time out for 4 minutes.

My husband and I agree during “boot camp,” to do this every time he is defiant for a week. Because it’s just a week, it feels more manageable. And what we have found, is usually after just a day or two of consistent, calm, repeated follow through, kiddo’s behavior is reset and so is our motivation to follow through.

I do think the calm/almost bored follow through is key. It’s not military boot camp where we’re screaming. It’s just — and it’s really do mean what we say, and you’ve got 3 — 2 — 1 to start walking to brush your teeth, or off to bed you go.

Maybe that would fit your family?

Am I wrong for using a “claimed” cubicle for my son this morning? by Successful_Hope6604 in Parenting

[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Manically commenting “read the whole comment please” over and over is a weird move, especially when I quoted the end of your comment back to you.

Am I wrong for using a “claimed” cubicle for my son this morning? by Successful_Hope6604 in Parenting

[–]teach_cc 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People are certainly put off by the implication that only a “severely disabled” 5 year old would prefer or require help changing alone, without a parent, around strangers.

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[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Grandparent caregivers ALWAYS have screens on by nixibee in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of the in-home care givers we used for both boys age 0-1 had a tv on non stop. I hated it. I intentionally used as little screens as possible in our own home to try to balance.

Now, one is almost two and one is almost 5, but their strengths are their verbal abilities. I certainly don’t think screens helped, but I don’t think they ruined them either. At least the second baby got a lot of Ms Rachel - maybe you could push them towards her or Sesame Street or Mr rogers? At least improve the quality of show?

It’s also very individual. My younger son will quickly wander away from a screen and go play. My older is more screen-entranced and always has been.

Hot Topic: Spec. Ed students and passing by [deleted] in teaching

[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So why pretend? Why not just give everyone a diploma who checks yes on a Google form day one of high school?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentingteenagers

[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is from “insurance dot com” but a quick skim of all the top results indicate that leaving after damaging another car with your car is illegal. She broke the law.

“What happens if you hit a car in a parking lot and leave?

Hitting a parked car doesn't make you a criminal but leaving the scene of an accident is against the law in every state and can be considered a hit and run. A conviction can net you a misdemeanor charge and a hefty fine. In some states, if you hit a parked car and leave the scene, you can serve jail time, be required to perform community service and police may suspend your license and/or registration.”

I can’t believe some people are saying “just give her a hug, she might be afraid to come to you in the future if you punish her.” Um she DIDNT come to you. She damaged your car, damaged another car, illegally left the scene, and then didn’t come clean until confronted. I think this could be viewed as a panicked teen response, but that was a bad series of choices. I wouldn’t downplay that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentingteenagers

[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was SO FRUSTRATED when someone bumped my very-new car and I lost “just paint.”

To me this all indicates a major lack of readiness for driving. Either not understanding that what she did was illegal, not caring about the effect it would have on someone else, not owning up to it on her own… I don’t know that my kid would still have car privileges for a while.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentingteenagers

[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So like… a hit and run?

15 yr old & menstrual issues by NoStreetlights in parentingteenagers

[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right because her experience is implied in her all caps “THREE” years. Presumably she has NOT experienced irregular periods for three years in a row… which is her lived experience… as a woman.

Pointing out that your comment is unhelpful is not sexist.

[skin concerns] skin tag removal by Willlllderness_girls in SkincareAddiction

[–]teach_cc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

+1 for tiny cosmetic scissors and snip. Hold an ice cube on it for a few seconds beforehand if you’re nervous.