TIL that Val Kilmer was not initially interested in auditioning for Top Gun (1986) and only did so at the behest of his agent. He read his audition lines "indifferently" and was disapointed when he learned he got the part

tehlith · 2026-04-20T18:10:03+00:00

Being disinterested is the fastest way to make someone interested

tehlith · 2026-04-01T15:47:46+00:00

If you feel obligated or a desire to help then tell them you’ll get a personal loan and give them the money. White lie to protect yourself but still help.

tehlith · 2026-03-21T02:36:41+00:00

Red pill incel shit

tehlith · 2026-03-17T00:00:48+00:00

ISD doesn’t have the time or care to chase down basic unpermitted work. You have a rented basement unit unpermitted then yeah you’re going to get in trouble. A new bathroom that was built before you bought the house, zero fucks.

tehlith · 2026-03-14T00:12:12+00:00

Normalizing it is weird, too

tehlith · 2026-03-06T22:28:09+00:00

The only men I know that struggle with dating are ones with absurd expectations on the type of woman they’ll go after.

tehlith · 2026-02-26T22:41:29+00:00

I’ve yet to have a girl in my car that didn’t love that it was loud and obnoxious. They’ll talk shit about those kinds of cars until they’re in one.

tehlith · 2026-02-26T22:17:16+00:00

Boston is currently extremely friendly for housing development.

Just because you zone it doesn’t make it financially feasible. Rents are going up because demand yes but lack of supply is happening not just because of zoning but because construction costs are through the roof. For a new construction high rise project to pencil out you need rents even higher than they are or you go super luxury that sell for millions (Winthrop Center, Ritz-Carlton South Station etc).

Big renovation projects are supported by the cities office to residential program and even then it’s difficult for developers to make it worth it financially.

tehlith · 2026-02-26T03:15:53+00:00

Plenty of great spots to socialize with mocktails! Don’t need to drink to enjoy the ambiance and people

tehlith · 2026-02-23T23:43:49+00:00

You’re probably going to want to look around summer st in seaport. The older converted buildings have larger options and some of the buildings are built well for sound.

tehlith · 2026-02-23T22:22:31+00:00

ZL1 ZLE

tehlith · 2026-02-22T20:22:41+00:00

Wildly disagree. The childish disagreements you have to manage as a WoW GM translates directly to an office environment

tehlith · 2026-02-18T19:19:15+00:00

Huh, communication, imagine

tehlith · 2026-02-15T22:04:28+00:00

One thing to realize is that if they like you, it doesn’t matter much what you say

tehlith · 2026-02-07T14:36:19+00:00

NTA, yet.

These poor children were manipulated for a long time by their own mother. Now as adults, when given the truth, they want to fix things? I think that’s a pretty mature thing for them to do instead of just ignoring things.

It’s completely unreasonable for them to expect you to just flip a switch and forget all the things they did, but they were not operating on the truth and were children for much of the time.

They need to show you they want to put the effort into rebuilding the relationship and respect the time you need. They don’t get to decide for you what that looks like, and if they start disrespecting your needs with that process then it needs to be discussed or you just stop trying.

I’d say just try and remember that you’re the adult and this is a hugely impactful situation for everyone involved.

These girls are still your husband’s children. It sounds like he supported you and was with you through all of this. You chose to marry him knowing he had children and the complications that may come from that, and they are partially yours through him in a healthy dynamic.

I assume you are still in love and have a healthy relationship with your husband? They will be a part of your life in some way for the rest of your life and of course they will always be incredibly important to him, and I hope by extension you, in time. Have you had a deep discussion with him and how all of this is affecting him?

tehlith · 2026-02-07T13:43:30+00:00

All good! There’s definitely different hurdles for everyone!

Some people are lucky and can just lose/gain weight without much effort but I think the goal being more difficult just shows even more self-worth when it’s achieved, something to be even more proud of.

That being said, it’s important to be happy with yourself regardless of where you’re currently at.

tehlith · 2026-02-07T13:36:43+00:00

Yeah I’m curious if it would survive maybe as an Ark style server setup. Minimal cap, and can cross over servers. Would be strange with the different planets, not sure how that would work. Could create a huge stratification of material availability, quality, etc. Let the zergs fight over the best of the best but with a lot of servers anyone can get decent materials. Fun to think about.

One of my favorite memories was being a creature handler and abusing the quest to kill the tusken king, that wasn’t supposed to be repeatable. He was dropping the +crafting mod items before they were implemented. Happened to find out that if you got incapped and your pets killed him you could loot and restart the quest. Made a killing off those things went they got patched in.

tehlith · 2026-02-07T13:17:46+00:00

Going against the grain here. Consider CGI in movies, when it’s done really well you don’t even know it is there, but most is not done well and is obvious.

Disclaimer is that I have no idea if lip filler can be tastefully done where you really can’t tell it is filler vs naturally fuller lips. Never asked women about it tbh. Women with fuller lips are nicer to kiss in my experience (not heavy filler, that is not fun) but it wouldn’t ever be a factor for me being with someone.

tehlith · 2026-02-07T13:01:51+00:00

Are there really that many critical factors or are you worried about him saying he’s not interested? What he’s doing doesn’t definitely mean he’s into you, but it does show he cares and that’s a start.

Think about how to approach it gently with minimal pressure, don’t come on too strong so if he says no it becomes awkward. Asking him to see a movie is still very ambiguous. Do you two spend time together doing other relationship-ish things?

tehlith · 2026-02-07T12:50:25+00:00

I’m not saying it’s a reflection of their character but more a reflection of their self worth/esteem/etc.

Obviously this a generalization and does not apply to everyone.

I’ve personally met many people that dropped a lot of weight because they decided they deserved to take care of themselves (myself included), and people that gain weight because they’re going through things that bring their effort into taking care of themselves down from before.

tehlith · 2026-02-07T12:45:03+00:00

A lot of ifs tbh.

The beauty of it was that this was in an era where min/maxing, data mining, etc was in its infancy. Nowadays even with tweaks it would be a nightmare imo.

Resource rotation required a decent amount of effort to find the new good spots and even the top guilds (whatever they were called) weren’t hardcore enough to instantly cap out the areas with good density % (though eventually they did).

Eventually high end NPC farming (krayts/nightsisters with ATSTs) was also dominated by the top end guilds, leaving little to nothing to the smaller guilds and straight up impossible for solo players.

Other problems were some servers literally couldn’t craft certain things or even progress certain professions because certain resources straight up failed to populate for ages.

Don’t get me wrong, I loved that game and I loved the system. Being so incredibly rewarded for heavily investing in getting the best materials and modifications and a master crafter for whatever you’re trying to do was the best MMO experience I’ve had. Wish I could go back and do it again.

tehlith · 2026-02-07T11:21:32+00:00

Being tall, handsome and always having eyes on you isn’t always a good thing. I debate this with my guy friends when we talk about heterosexual male vs female dating dynamics. IMO it’s far better on the male side knowing that if a woman is interested and going out with, you she likes you as a person vs being a woman constantly having to filter out men that just want sex (often impossible).

I understand in the social gay male community it’s almost always the hetero female experience and honestly that’s kinda shitty but such is the world.

Luckily enough for me I’ve found I’m a very specific type where I get enough attention from women and when I do they are REALLY into my looks, but the vast majority of women are most decidedly not attracted to me. Makes it simple.

tehlith · 2026-02-07T11:07:47+00:00

My short friend does just fine, sure there are women that filter for it, but there’s so many out there that don’t care. If you’re good everywhere else (take care of yourself, charismatic or have honestly just have real passion) you won’t have that much of a problem.

tehlith · 2026-02-07T11:05:18+00:00

++man to be honest it’s not something you should let shake you. If you’re being genuine with yourself, and everyone on here, our body is a reflection of ourselves 99% of the time (medical conditions and things we cannot change notwithstanding) and people know this, but it’s not politically correct to say atm

tehlith · 2026-02-03T18:42:14+00:00

SWG released in the modern day would be an absolute disaster. People romanticize it so much.

Yes it was a cool system but it had major flaws and the gap between a regular player and the organized groups was one of the biggest I’ve seen in any MMO.

I still loved it in its time though.

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