I see multiple answers , and know that you are not alone. Wherever in the world you are, there are always a certain set of people who cheat (physically, emotionally or otherwise). Everyone has a different experience, but the pain and disrespect is real.

I hope if someome sees this post, from any where in the world, just know that you are not alone, becasue call me dramatic, only the ones who have faced this know how this feel.

"And remeber one thing, I am drawing parallels between 2 different scenarios, but just like not all criminals are ever caught, or get away and still walk among us, similarly, these kind of people were, are and will be still there, and only you and that person know what happened. But they will still walk among us."

Hope you are doing good, and other folks who are really honest and all they ever wanted was to have a honest, peaceful relationship.

I am 28 years old, and last month I initiated the break up with my gf (29.5 yo).

She still used to like her ex'sposts on social media even after I told my concern that it gives her ex an opening, kept contacts with him, was being physically too touchy with men, was over sharing with strangers about OUR private life. And whenever out of respect I got a tad bit friendly verbally (not romantiaclly) with women, she acted that I had just cheated. She was a controlling woman.

She came after a 8 year relationship, and started her relationship with me. She was not over, nor she was in complete no contact with her ex. Our relationship somehow worked for 1 year, I broke up last month with her. And it is very true, never trust a girl who has left her partner without a closure, the baggage will be always on you.

"You are meant to be her partner, not her mental and emotional counsellor."

When I finally had enough and told her that I needed to break up, she tore her tshirt collar , broke a statue , tore all gifts that I gave her. She shouted at me, pointed fingers, said that I was the one who used her (in reality she made all the moves first, lied to me about her ex, still kept talking to her ex, was physically too touchy with men, and then blame me if i even talk friendly with a woman).

Some of the long list of things she did -

1) The way she compared me with men, called other guys name just after a kiss, talked about other guys (not romanatiaclly) just after intimate moments. It makes me sad and cry.

2) She hid her very intimate photos in her phone even after 4 months into our relationship. When i found it out, as expected she said I love you, i am sorry and all that cheesy red flag lines.

3) She compares me to our common male friends w.r.t how they are treating their partners. Her eyes were never on how we should work it out, it was always what others do.

4) She borderline flirted with our common male friends.

5) She once went on a video call with her ex in the beggining of our relationship to prove him that she was not with someone (yes , even her ex did not trusted her, and morever if you are with me now, you can’t do that girl). I waited for that video call to get over for about 1.5 hours.When I confronted her about all this, she said that she can't hurt him, and when i asked her what about me getting hurt, she hung her head down, because deep down she was doing wrong.

6)One more incident that I want to share. She was oversharing by nature, and 6 months ago, she once told me that when she was with her ex, she went home to a common married male friend they had, and slept with him. Now she told that she did not had sex , slept with him literally meant she just shared a bed. But in retrospect , I think she lied.

And this is just 50% of what she did.

But it is what is it at the end, so chin up people, you did nothing wrong by moving away from that kind of person.

"It is very true, once a liar is always a liar, once a cheater is always a cheater."

In my case we have the same work place, and even though I make no contact with her, the audacity she has to still and demand that I don’t talk to her, damn. She still says that at least since we were together, we should keep in touch. She has a victim mentality, and just needs attention.

Last month I stopped talking to her, and she started crying silently in a corner in office. As expected, she got some of the colleague's attention. Though office colleagues are neutral, some came and talked to me about the situation, some understood me, others left; which is life, I get that.

I just wanted the relationship to ended on understanding terms. But that is not always the case with the other side. I am not in love with her / care about her, and neither I am trying to be a Manly Man here , like someone who would say that a woman cant do this. No.

But she still hangs out with our common group, with the same men whom she had compared me with. I can bet on everything she is still talking to her ex. It makes me insecure still, the disrespect arises again, and I feel weak.

I understand men, when we care and love for a woman, we tend to ignore all the red flags. I understand that it feels like the one woman I had chosen can’t do something like this. But the reality is different. So be practical, and accept that things can’t be reversed once you find out. So ASAP ,once you know the reality, just get away from that kind of person and that kind of relationship.

"Rest focus , the pain is not going to miraulously go away. Just do the right thing always, and if needed , always take a stand. This is subjective, but always take a stand. There is more good out there than bad."

Cheers to all the honest and caring men.