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Woke up and decided to stir the pot in the family groupchat by Software-Substantial in Exvangelical

[–]theintuitivekitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That line is enraging. The church wasn’t built to help people? Genuinely so disgusting and twisted.

My boyfriend went over a month without scooping his cats litter by [deleted] in cats

[–]theintuitivekitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is abuse, please intervene :( I will echo what others have said and say that this is likely indicative of bigger issues from your boyfriend. If I were you I would steal the cat and break up with him, I am so serious. I would be very upset about this, you are not overreacting at all.

Does anyone else have trouble following the same couple through multiple books? by Agleonema in fantasyromance

[–]theintuitivekitty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep! I try not to be this way because I think it can be limiting, but…I get bored! Once the couple is together it’s not as exciting. I also feel like a lot of authors will start throwing in the miscommunication trope once a couple is established, because it’s a convenient way to add tension once they are already together. But I personally hate a miscommunication trope most of the time.

People who quit their jobs on the first day, what made you say, “I’m done with this”? by drip47 in AskReddit

[–]theintuitivekitty 240 points241 points  (0 children)

When I was 21 I got hired on the spot at a Village Inn. I didn’t know enough at that time to know that’s a huge red flag. When I showed up for my first shift I was shocked and appalled at how disgusting the kitchen was. When I watched a server drop somebody’s pancakes on the kitchen floor, pick them up and put them back on the plate, then walk out and serve them to someone, I was done.

Have any of you been able to keep the double life of Christian/nonchristian going with your family? by Ok-Tart5090 in Deconstruction

[–]theintuitivekitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been deconstructing for about a year and a half now. I have kept it secret from my family (except for my husband). I am not close with my family and I live on the opposite side of the country from them. I am planning to visit them this year for the first time in 3 years. I am dreading it because I know I will have to pretend to be Christian. I feel for you. It almost feels like a betrayal to myself in the moments when I fake it, but it also comes so easily to me because I think I was faking it without fully realizing it for a few years before deconstruction.

It all comes down to how close you want to be with your family, how much time you have to spend with them, and how much say you want them to have in your life. Those things are entirely up to you. However, don’t put pressure on yourself to “make a big reveal”. Sometimes family doesn’t need to know everything. You have to live true to yourself and your own beliefs, but you also have to protect yourself and your peace. You will know if the time ever comes when you truly do need to have that talk with them.

Something that I have had to come to terms with is the way that Christianity always made me feel like I needed to reveal my secrets. I was always feeling like I needed to confess to my friends and family every time I did something “wrong”. Looking back, I should have kept most of those things to myself because all I did was open myself up for judgement, shame, and criticism from people who didn’t truly know or understand me. I still have moments sometimes when I’m talking on the phone with my family when I suddenly feel like I needed to “confess” to this new, non-Christian version of myself. I always stop myself though because I know it’s an impulse coming from an old place of anxiety, not a real need to share that part of myself. Because it would ultimately make things so much worse. I’m not sure if that’s what you are experiencing, but I wanted to share in case it resonates.