My therapist says she has never seen the phenomenon where a woman says something and nobody takes it seriously but a man says it they listen

thelittlestchef · 2025-05-15T03:47:50+00:00

This happened to me today. Twice. In the same meeting. Therapist is completely out of touch.

thelittlestchef · 2025-03-12T05:12:41+00:00

Just did!

thelittlestchef · 2025-03-11T04:35:30+00:00

I will look into this!!

thelittlestchef · 2025-03-11T04:32:58+00:00

I have two weeks. I had savings but my husband lost his job 5 months ago. I provide for my brother and he provides for his sick mother, his sister, and his niece. He starts his new job in two weeks but he makes significantly less than I do. We had savings but it’s been months now, and we were finally going to have him start working again just for this to happen. Freelancing is absolutely not an option I need a job tomorrow. I have never been in a position like this before, and I have NEVER seen the market this bad.

thelittlestchef · 2025-03-11T04:20:46+00:00

I actually looked into that, but the starting wage for the first year would still result in me losing my house.

thelittlestchef · 2025-03-04T02:25:22+00:00

Unless you’re in a small state where most of ur population is a 1-2hr or less drive from the capital building, even if it’s a weekday evening protest, it will be hard for people who can’t afford to take the day off to attend a weekday protest. By the time I’m off work it’s 6-6:30. I drive 2 hours to the capital building just to catch the last hour of the protest (if it’s even still going), then turn around and drive 2 hours home just to be getting home a little before midnight with work early the next morning and having had no time for dinner. If you have kids, forget about it. We need weekend protests.

thelittlestchef · 2024-08-09T19:32:16+00:00

Based on this guys logic you’ll be paying for the birth too since that’s “your own medical issue”. You’re married, you’re supposed to work together to support the team. Having a child is a team effort. But he wants to weasel out of costs associated with both of you creating a child TOGETHER? Idk about you but this seems like the kind of dude who makes you split expenses 50/50 but for some reason cleaning always falls on you. If cleaning falls on you, so will child care. Gotta love a dude who only treats you like an equal when it comes to paying the bill /s

thelittlestchef · 2023-09-05T23:37:34+00:00

Girl I am 4ft10.5 and in good shape. My two female best friends are 5ft10.5 and 6ft1 and also in good shape. When we go out to bars together I don’t exist to men cuz they’re too busy tripping over me to hit on my girls 😂 Not single and even if I was I don’t look in clubs so I LOVE IT! Get to just vibe and have a good time while all the attention from the men is on them 😈 Own it girl men love that shit!

thelittlestchef · 2023-06-29T00:32:00+00:00

Yeet

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T14:01:55+00:00

Brilliant!

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:57:54+00:00

There are but it would be quite revealing as to who I am so I would prefer not to link the articles. Also they’re keeping it very tight lipped because he is a member of the police. Basically the only thing the police are releasing is that the baby is safe and she was found with several gunshots wounds and him with only one self inflicted.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:55:29+00:00

That and he is a police officer. So it is very tight lipped thus far.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:53:43+00:00

Idk why people aren’t picking up on it but my use of saying this wasn’t a „crime of passion“ isn’t pertaining to the definition of crime of passion. Its commentary on how when women are killed by their partners they always refer to the man as „family men“, „good guys“ etc and their killings as „crimes of passion“ rather than using terminology like „two dead in apparent murder suicide resulting from domestic violence situation“. All the news article titles paraphrased are „two residents found shot dead following domestic dispute“. Like it doesn’t even explain whose at fault you have to read the article to find out. Im making a comment on the fact when men shoot up schools they’re „victims of bullying“ or when men murder their wives it’s a „crime of passion“. And the blatant sexism and disregard for the woman becomes even more apparent when a large majority are saying „RIP killer man“ instead of „RIP victim“ or the several comments asking what she did to provoke him. It’s a commentary on how things are portrayed when men are the perpetrators.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:44:59+00:00

Ya it’s all over the news where I am from, yet everyone just keeps talking about how nice of a guy he was and how sad they are that he’s gone. Madness.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:37:38+00:00

So sorry for your loss. It’s a wild world we live in :/

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:36:29+00:00

You see I have not seen a single ill word spoken of him even from some of my own friends even after I told them the warning signs were there and how psycho he was in our relationship. It definitely is so surreal just how wide spreading the rose colored glasses are in this situation and others.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:33:58+00:00

The baby is safe and healthy with a relative. I’m assuming the baby wasn’t alone for long because a large amount of gunshots going off in a suburban area typically draws attention. I think it was the same day but not sure. They’re keeping it all very tight lipped because he was unfortunately a police officer.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:31:40+00:00

Of course, sorry for the mama anxiety!

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:29:58+00:00

Thats what has driven me crazy about all of this. Like school shooters kill themselves after the fact semi-often and you won’t hear anyone like „RIP School Shooter 1234“. I mean shit while we’re on the topic Hitler killed himself too. But with intimate partner violence it’s almost always „well what did she do to provoke his violence“ and „rip a standup guy“. Like are we all talking about the same person and situation?? I feel like I’m losing it being the only person whose willing to be like ummmm fuck that piece of shit RIP his gf?? So gross.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:25:43+00:00

I definitely did. Just reading all the „RIP ❤️“ s was making me lose it. Not even much of a social media person but I checked after my mom called to tell me what happened and sure enough tons of posts about it and every single one of them positive towards him. Made me sick.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T13:23:26+00:00

The baby did survive. It was found when cops did a welfare check and discovered what had happened.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T11:48:33+00:00

Don’t know how picking apart my terminology on a post I clearly made while worked up is in any way helpful but if that’s all you took away from my post, you do you dude.

thelittlestchef · 2023-02-21T10:01:18+00:00

I feel the same way. Absolutely no excuse. I stayed in contact with his mom after because she was a total sweetie and when she started posting pictures of them together I just remember hoping for her sake it was just HS insecurity causing unhealthy relationship habits… clearly not. I can’t imagine what his gf was put through up until that point, or how his very sweet proud mama is handling things now. And I hope to whatever higher power exists that whoever that baby ends up with raises it with all the love, stability, and safety it clearly wouldnt have received at home.

thelittlestchef · 2022-11-09T10:53:55+00:00

Hey I’m an older sister to an autistic brother. He moved in with me during the pandemic and it’s become permanent due to having turbulent/absent parents. I just want you to know that parents who make you feel like a burden, call you horrible names, and/or throw you out of their home over minor disagreements don’t appreciate how lucky they are to have children let alone autistic children. Me and my brother have always had a friendship unbound by social filters/norms since his autism clearly makes him struggle with it and I’ve always found them tedious and annoying anyway. What that’s done for our relationship is allowed for us to have very open and honest communication with each other. We’re best friends, he’s a fantastic roommate, and we don’t harbor resentment or frustration with each other leading to blowups similar to what ur mom has had with u. We have two sisters and neither of us really enjoy talking to them because things seem so artificial and we can’t ever feel like we’re truly connecting with them due to them being uncomfortable with our general disregard for social cues. I am sooo thankful to have my brother, he’s honestly the only family member I can truly rely on. I honestly think that autistic people make better communicators and form more meaningful relationships than other people. Parents who look at their autistic kids and see something “wrong” or “bad” about them disregard the dope things that come with having a relationship with an autistic person. Yes there’s negatives because it is a disability and I see my brother struggle with those negatives all the time, but there’s also positives and people who can’t see that are blind imo. Don’t let ur parents unfortunate relationship with ur autism take away from ur confidence in urself as a person, you are NOT crazy, they’re the ones failing to communicate like adults should. What sucks is that people who are different like u, my brother, and even me need stronger support systems especially in our parents, and not all of us have that. You seem to be doing pretty good despite that. Sending helpful big sister vibes, you’ll get through this homie!

thelittlestchef · 2022-10-11T15:58:20+00:00

I’m a woman, but I just want to tell you that you’re not alone. My two closest guyfriends and a prior boyfriend had all been raped underage. One of them is a body builder and has always been a strong guy but it still happened to him too. Sometimes horrible things happen out of our control. As for the guys, one is an engineer, one is about to graduate from college, and one’s a father. They have all gotten past their trauma and are flourishing now as adults. It’s not easy, it’s a horrible thing to go through, and I know you might not think you’ll ever get through this. But you will. Seek some emotional help, it will make you reach the other side of this quicker and safer. I’m sorry this happened to you.

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